hopefully it wouldnt rain on the day
What about requesting on the RSVP if guests will require the use of the bus from the ceremony to the reception so they can be put on the bus list then you will have a better idea of numbers. If the numbers are over, like @kelly123 has said, potentially the bus could do two trips.Looking for your opinions please
I’m getting married in October…. Originally had planned and booked for a wedding for 60 people however ended up changing our minds and now having a wedding for 150.
When we originally booked the wedding we booked transport (wedding bus) which holds 70 people to take us from the church to our reception venue but obviously the bus now isnt big enough to hold all 150 guests.
We can’t really afford to hire another wedding bus for the remaining amount of people but I am now
worried it’s going to be really awkward when people come out of the church and see the wedding bus and wonder if they should get on or not.
Our wedding party and immediate family is about 40 people, so there would be room for another 30 or so. But how do we agree who gets on and who doesn’t?
I have mentioned the bus to a few people in conversation when talking about the wedding, it’s just this is now keeping me up at night (aside from my fiancés snoring whilst he has a restful deep sleep!).
Would really appreciate people’s opinions- am
I overthinking it ? Will it be awkward? Any ideas on how we manage numbers getting on? Any help at all appreciated ! X
Getting married was one of the best days of my life but honestly see the amount of things I did to make sure other people were happy…
I'd be annoyed too and complaining to my partner/ all my friends about it. However, rationally, you can't claim a time and summer weddings are very popular. I do think whether you let them know you're upset depends a lot on the weddings - are there a lot of people invited to both weddings who don't live near the venues and it might put them in a position where they can only afford/ have to choose between the weddings?
monsoon have some absolutely stunning wedding dresses.
I try and be as sustainable as possible so took the stance that I wanted to make sure the gifts were things they’d be likely to reuse or, as a minimum, be able to regift or resell.Yeah some stuff is crazy how much it costs! I asked some bridal shops the price range of dresses before I went and some were up to £6,000!! I paid £1,000 for mine and honestly I can’t believe I dropped that for a dress I’ll wear once!
Aw my photographer specialises in boudoir shoots and I considered it then realised I’d feel an absolute idiot so didn’t!
Side note - are people doing boxes for bridesmaids the morning of? I see some online that are mad and I don’t know what to do for mine! So far I thought to do the obligatory pyjamas (without bridesmaid on so just plain), slippers, eye patches for before makeup, a perfume atomiser thing for top ups through the day, a hair scrunchie, a little compact mirror, bucks fizz, some sweets and a bracelet and card.
I wanted to give bits they’ll use again not standard champagne glasses with their name and ‘bridesmaid’ on it. No offence to anyone doing that! I have one from my friends wedding I’ve just never reached for it again so not my vibe!!
Run for the hills, you in danger girl. I think it's too risky going for a venue so new, and the fact they aren't giving good first impressions doesn't bode well. Your wedding shouldn't be part of them finding their feet.Well there's the catch, it's new venue that only started trading this year so there's nothing on Bridebook or Hitched or anything like that
Girl maths mean that if you start now, they'll be free by the time you get marriedOh I’m definitely going to book the photographer this month! I just can’t decide on the hair and make up as they’re similar and similar prices.
By too early, I mean like I wanna start making and sending out my stationary, making my welcome sign and ask my bridesmaids etc (waiting because got a bestie getting married next month and i’m MOH next year too so want them to have their moments) and I’m leaning towards making my own aisle and table centre pieces so it’s definitely too soon for that
I would! Who cares - you have two great bridesmaids with you! Enjoy it! You might regret not doing it looking back and I doubt anyone will look at you three enjoying yourselves and think anything bad!Hiya - bit of a funny question but I’m hoping to get some reassurance before I go all in on buying bits etc.
Basically had a nightmare planning my hen party abroad - we gave almost a years notice, chose destination on where was cheapest etc. people were making all the right noises and saying they’d defo come so myself and my 2 bridesmaids booked the flights.
After 6 months of chasing one by one everyone else dropped out because the flights had inevitably gone up etc etc. Our flights are non refundable so we’ve decided we’ll still go as we’ve all really wanted to have a little break away!
My question is do I still go all in on the hen do white wardrobe/buying the girls team bride jumpers etc? I feel like it’s a bit embarrassing only having two friends but equally I don’t want to miss out on the experience.
I will be having a night out at home too with family, colleagues etc!
Thank you
Oh god same!! The control freak in me loves it but pinning down my fella to ask him what photography group shots he wants took me about 4 daysWe're a matter of weeks away from our big day and the most tedious thing at the moment is all the suppliers asking us to complete questionnaires.I know it's important but it's something you need to complete together and we can never find the time!
For the record, I also hated dress shopping and didn't have a weepy, flappy hand reaction to any of them I tried. I went with the one I liked best in the second shop I visited and that was my absolute limit.
nope! Had FH brother ask to bring his mate to the wedding. He offered to pay I might be a bad bride but I still said no. I don’t want a random there and his whole family is there which he hasn’t seen in 2 years so it’s not like he is alone for the day and plenty of people will make a fuss of him.Are we the only ones dealing with guests getting in touch mere weeks before the wedding to ask can they bring their partner as a plus one who they've been with for less than a month?
Go away!
Do not get me started on the guests. I think that was probably the one looking back that stressed me the most. Some people, no matter how much you prompted them for a yes or no response if they could come or not, they’d just ignore you!I've come to realise that weddings planning itself isn't stressful, it's the guests
I don't know why people won't just give an answer to an invite (it's ok if it's a no, so long as it's a prompt no), get prepared themselves, and show up?
Even last night, 2 days before, I had someone very close to this whole thing (but not bridal party) message asking if my hair stylist can fit her in for an updo in the morning. No.
i'm so happy for you and congratulations!We've just had our big day! The sun was shining all day, our guests were brilliant, the venue and staff were fantastic. I'm exhausted and in so much pain but it was the best day of my life.
I wasn't half as nervous as I thought I'd be; it all felt so natural. Seeing our family and friends in their finery enjoying themselves was so wonderful.
My top tips while they're fresh in my mind:
- Pick your ring bearer and give them the rings as soon as you see them. We forgot ours and someone had to do mad dash back to the bridal suite as we were waiting to go into the ceremony!
- Take time out for yourselves as often as you can. It's tiring and overwhelming greeting and talking to so many people, so a quick five mins somewhere quiet is perfect.
- Look after your suppliers and they'll look after you. Ours were so dedicated they didn't sit down for hours, so we made sure they were fed, watered and rested.
- When packing your bags to head to your venue, ensure you've both checked you've got everything. We were missing a crucial item and had to ask a friend to go back home for us, luckily we weren't far away. We had a checklist but still missed something!
- Make sure you're clear about when people should arrive, send a mass text the day before ideally, as people don't read invitations! I was really surprised to see some of our evening guests sat in the ceremony as they'd checked into their rooms early, headed to the bar and were ushered in along with the day guests.
- We had a box of flip flops for guests and many ladies with sore feet were so grateful! Props and glow sticks were a huge hit too.
- If you've got a big dress with fiddly buttons, consider paying someone to dress you on the day. If not, a crochet hook is great for looping buttons!
- Finally, the day goes by like a flash, so enjoy every minute and don't fret over the little things. Ask for help if you need it and soak up being the centre of attention and all the loveliness.
Good luck to all of you with weddings coming up!
also as a wedding planner it's so lovely to see that one of your top tips is to look after your suppliers and make sure they've eaten. can't tell you how many times it's happened to me that people are in shock that we are eating after working all day - as if we're not human! so that's really nice of you. you deserved the perfect wedding day and i'm glad it went that way
When we’re asking people to RSVP, we’re asking them for a song suggestion and depending on the song they pick, we’re either going to play it during the wedding breakfast or the party in the evening. Initially I thought it would be during the party only, but I really don’t like some of the songs so wedding breakfast background music it is
we're doing Japan, Singapore & South Korea <3Love it, where are you going on your honeymoon?
we used QR codes in our invitations that took guests directly to our website where they could RSVP, choose accommodation, and food choices too.I am a natural worrier too, but honestly think about when you get invited to a wedding. it becomes a priority and something lovely to look forward to, so as soon as that invite comes in, if they can manage, that will be on their radar. And you might have the odd one or two you need to chase, but usually that is because of their own logistics, be it childcare, flights, PTO etc.I'm such an anxious person which is the only thing, I worry people will forget or something
Also would you recommend maybe a QR code or something for some guests so it's easier to RSVP?
thank you!
The excuses people make - I get it life can happen but with the table of 4 that cancelled on me, two of them are related so it was obvious one couple dropped out the other would be doing the same. I just think its a piss take when your wedding is so close, people forget the stress/cost etc than has gone into it. I won't be speaking to the people who dropped out again, I'm so pettyHonestly people are so rude! We’ve had someone drop out today saying they’re on call in work and they didn’t check their rota properly until now, cheers 🫠 so we have to try to fill the space when that person rsvp’d yes months ago!!
I’m so sad I’ve just worked out it’s less than 100 hours until my wedding dayit’s come around way too fast haha
