TTC’ers!

[Asty Gurl]

Hey, unfortunately I can’t offer any advice but wanted to let you know I’m in a similar position. My Luteal Phase is at best 9 days (and that’s if I ovulate pretty much straight after a positive OPK so it’s probably more like 7-8 days), and I’ve read the same online about the NHS not recognising it as an issue and being reluctant to prescribe progesterone. Let us know what the Dr says. I hope this gets sorted for you . I would also be keen to know if anyone on here has had similar issues. I’ve got PCOS so not sure if that adds to this issue...

Aw thank you so much for replying. It means a lot and I am glad I have found this board where I can share at least some bits of my journey - I feel so isolated at the moment as I seem to be the only person I know going through this. My husband is really supportive and so is my Mum (who however lives abroad) but the limited stimulation/lack of distractions at the moment due to the covid19 make everything so much harder and I am finding I am spending so much time worrying and ruminating about all this

Quick update in case this could be helpful: I spoke with the Fertility GP - although they are nice and I am sure they mean well they were very dismissive. They said that even if I have a luteal phase defect there is 'no cure' and we cannot be sure about when I ovulated anyway (but I am!! I use multiple ways of predicting this and they all match, all the time). So after some consideration I have now booked a private consultation at the end of this week with a Fertility Consultant with great reviews. I have just finished putting all my paperwork together to bring to her ... will see what happens.. I am starting Clomid again today but I don't see the point of going through this with a luteal phase of 7 days..... will let you know what she says

 

[Jg182]

So exactly 5 weeks after losing baby at 16 weeks... I had a ovulation confirmation on ovusense. So now just waiting for AF then we plan to try again. We have a app with fetal medicine next week as baby had high NT reading. Nervous to be starting again.
starting to panic as we have male factor and it was 2 years to conceive this baby.

 

[fluffybaffling]

So exactly 5 weeks after losing baby at 16 weeks... I had a ovulation confirmation on ovusense. So now just waiting for AF then we plan to try again. We have a app with fetal medicine next week as baby had high NT reading. Nervous to be starting again.
starting to panic as we have male factor and it was 2 years to conceive this baby.

So sorry for your loss. Wishing you lots of luck

Aw thank you so much for replying. It means a lot and I am glad I have found this board where I can share at least some bits of my journey - I feel so isolated at the moment as I seem to be the only person I know going through this. My husband is really supportive and so is my Mum (who however lives abroad) but the limited stimulation/lack of distractions at the moment due to the covid19 make everything so much harder and I am finding I am spending so much time worrying and ruminating about all this

Quick update in case this could be helpful: I spoke with the Fertility GP - although they are nice and I am sure they mean well they were very dismissive. They said that even if I have a luteal phase defect there is 'no cure' and we cannot be sure about when I ovulated anyway (but I am!! I use multiple ways of predicting this and they all match, all the time). So after some consideration I have now booked a private consultation at the end of this week with a Fertility Consultant with great reviews. I have just finished putting all my paperwork together to bring to her ... will see what happens.. I am starting Clomid again today but I don't see the point of going through this with a luteal phase of 7 days..... will let you know what she says

So annoying when they are dismissive!!!!

I know what you mean about being isolated! I’ve not told a single person about ttc, not even my mum asked she’s soooo desperate for a grandchild, I don’t want to get her hopes up when it doesn’t happen!

good luck with your private app! Let us know how you get on. xx

 

[Gizmo92]

Aw thank you so much for replying. It means a lot and I am glad I have found this board where I can share at least some bits of my journey - I feel so isolated at the moment as I seem to be the only person I know going through this. My husband is really supportive and so is my Mum (who however lives abroad) but the limited stimulation/lack of distractions at the moment due to the covid19 make everything so much harder and I am finding I am spending so much time worrying and ruminating about all this

Quick update in case this could be helpful: I spoke with the Fertility GP - although they are nice and I am sure they mean well they were very dismissive. They said that even if I have a luteal phase defect there is 'no cure' and we cannot be sure about when I ovulated anyway (but I am!! I use multiple ways of predicting this and they all match, all the time). So after some consideration I have now booked a private consultation at the end of this week with a Fertility Consultant with great reviews. I have just finished putting all my paperwork together to bring to her ... will see what happens.. I am starting Clomid again today but I don't see the point of going through this with a luteal phase of 7 days..... will let you know what she says

I literally could have written the first part of your post myself! It’s so hard at the moment with there being no distractions. I feel like I’m throwing my all in to trying for a baby so every month that it doesn’t happen is just such a let down. And yes, it is so isolating! One of my closest friends has just had a baby and I feel so torn because I want to be there for her and be excited and see all the photos ect but it’s also like a dagger in the heart

Thank you for updating me about what the doctor said. It’s so frustrating that they take that stance! How long have you been trying if you don’t mind me asking? I’m coming up for 9 months now and early on I’d hoped my Luteal phase would maybe sort itself out after 10 years of birth control but it hasn’t got any better! I hope your experience going private is positive Keep me posted

 

[Rose18778]

Hey everyone, back TTC after a miscarriage last week at 8+5. It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions and only a week in today’s my first day of feeling more positive. We will be trying again once my period comes back - hopefully in 4/5 weeks but we’ll see. Wishing everyone luck this month

 

[Jg182]

Hey everyone, back TTC after a miscarriage last week at 8+5. It’s been a rollercoaster of emotions and only a week in today’s my first day of feeling more positive. We will be trying again once my period comes back - hopefully in 4/5 weeks but we’ll see. Wishing everyone luck this month

sorry to hear of your MC. Ours was 5 weeks ago. Defiantly a rollercoaster of emotions, I find one second I’m fine the next Anxious/sad/panicked.We plan to try again once AF arrives, it’s a scary thought I find but I feel strangely ready to start again! Sending you lots of love xxx

 

[Rose18778]

sorry to hear of your MC. Ours was 5 weeks ago. Defiantly a rollercoaster of emotions, I find one second I’m fine the next Anxious/sad/panicked.We plan to try again once AF arrives, it’s a scary thought I find but I feel strangely ready to start again! Sending you lots of love xxx

Thank you so much and sorry to hear of your MC too yes I know what you mean, I feel scared at the thought of going through this again especially so soon after but we are so ready for a baby and I’m hoping next month (or whenever AF arrives!) I will feel ready to start trying again! Sending lots of love too and best of luck xxx

 

[BrowniePoints]

I don't know if my story will help or not but here it is. We've been trying for a while with no success. Went down the ivf route :1st round miscarried very early on, 2nd time test was negative. The gracious Dr told us that we have absolutely no chance of conceiving naturally (well, this was I think the 2nd Dr by now telling us the same and his actual words were a bit more brutal than this). Move on a few years, thinking of going through the ivf route again only to discover that I was actually pregnant, naturally I may add! After our 1st baby we started trying for nr 2 very soon, thinking it will take ages only to fall pregnant (well, I was already pregnant when we decided we should try for baby nr 2 unbeknown to me).
So, whatever your journey hang in there as there's always hope!!

 

[Asty Gurl]

I literally could have written the first part of your post myself! It’s so hard at the moment with there being no distractions. I feel like I’m throwing my all in to trying for a baby so every month that it doesn’t happen is just such a let down. And yes, it is so isolating! One of my closest friends has just had a baby and I feel so torn because I want to be there for her and be excited and see all the photos ect but it’s also like a dagger in the heart

Thank you for updating me about what the doctor said. It’s so frustrating that they take that stance! How long have you been trying if you don’t mind me asking? I’m coming up for 9 months now and early on I’d hoped my Luteal phase would maybe sort itself out after 10 years of birth control but it hasn’t got any better! I hope your experience going private is positive Keep me posted

I am sorry you are going through this too, it is so tough isn't it - but at least we have this virtual community that can make us feel less alone <3 WE CAN DO THIS

Have been 'loosely' trying since when my periods restarted after coming off the period - I think that was around Dec 2019/Jan 2020. Didn't really take it too seriously though until May 2020 though. So I know compared to lots of other people it's not 'officially' that long but I guess with lockdown etc it feels like forever particularly as once I realised I was not ovulating properly I knew it was never going to happen until when I got the prescription etc.

Will certainly keep you posted about the specialist, fingers crossed.. if you have diagnosed PCOS it is still worth (if you haven't tried already) checking if your GP practice has a GP specialising in fertility and pushing for a progesterone blood test. If you have a short LP it may be due to 'weak ovulation' (which it what was happening with me) and drugs such as Clomid (which some GPs like mine can prescribe) can apparently fix that. It wasn't my case unfortunately as it looks like I may still need extra progesterone for the post ovulation period but from the evidence I have read it should often work!

 

[Elsass]

What’s the earliest people have had morning sickness start?
I’m so nauseous today and threw up on my way out of work, haven’t eaten anything dodgy, but period isn’t due till the weekend!

 

[SonicTheSpikeyThing]

Hmm I think I’m out this month. No cramping at all compared to other times I’ve conceived. Took a test and nothing. Feeling kinda sad too because we’re not trying next month (we already have a Christmas baby and December is a hectic month for us usually with family in another country ) and I just feel like what if that’s the month we’d actually be able to conceive and carry a healthy pregnancy though? All the what ifs. I hate this so much sorry for ranting but I don’t have anywhere else to get this out.

 

[Aromatic_bitters]

Hi everyone,
Going back to vaccine and ttc. I’m now fully vaccinated and continuing on my journey. The Royal college of obs and gynae advise there is no need to delay pregnancy as there is no plausible way that the vaccine could cause infertility. I appreciate it’s everyone’s own decision and if I wasn’t a keyworker, maybe I wouldn’t be so keen to have the vaccine. I’m a year ttc baby no 2 (and it’s desperately wanted) but I also really just want to hug my parents and take care of the life I’ve got now...rather than worrying about possibilities that may never happen xx

 

[MrsLucas]

I feel so sad today because I can defiantly tell my period Is coming, due on at the weekend. We’ve not really been sexually active other than they days I was ovulating both just so tired. So now I’m worrying it probs won’t happen.

 

[Alexaj]

Hmm I think I’m out this month. No cramping at all compared to other times I’ve conceived. Took a test and nothing. Feeling kinda sad too because we’re not trying next month (we already have a Christmas baby and December is a hectic month for us usually with family in another country ) and I just feel like what if that’s the month we’d actually be able to conceive and carry a healthy pregnancy though? All the what ifs. I hate this so much sorry for ranting but I don’t have anywhere else to get this out.

I've literally just had my implant out last week so very new to TTC (not even in ovulation yet)... Is it awful to say I really don't want a Christmas baby? I've already mentioned this to my partner and he was a bit annoyed!

 

[SavvyBee]

I've literally just had my implant out last week so very new to TTC (not even in ovulation yet)... Is it awful to say I really don't want a Christmas baby? I've already mentioned this to my partner and he was a bit annoyed!

I’ve also decided in my own head that I won’t be tracking ovulation next month or thinking much about when we have sex because I’d rather not have a Christmas baby. Personal preference really. If we were further down the line maybe I’d feel differently about missing a month but I know so many people who hate their December birthdays that I’m happy to avoid actively encouraging one. I don’t know if I’m alone in this but does anyone else not mention fertile windows etc to their partner? I have PCOS and I think I’m ovulating (this month at least) but also expecting to need clomid etc in next few months if nothing happens naturally (lucky enough to have private care so no waiting for referrals). I just know neither of us have an incredible sex drive as it is (mine hormonal definitely) so I don’t really want to make it more pressured or regimented than I need to right now, especially if in the near future it needs to get a bit more “scientific” process.

 

[Bobbleowl90]

I've literally just had my implant out last week so very new to TTC (not even in ovulation yet)... Is it awful to say I really don't want a Christmas baby? I've already mentioned this to my partner and he was a bit annoyed!

We have a christmas baby already too so won’t be trying next month! It’s not awful at all! I don’t want two christmas babies and christmas. Nevermind my bank balance but the years excitement is all crammed together!

 

[Vivian124]

My friends birthday is January 4th and she hates it because by then everyone is broke and sick of eating and drinking and depressed post xmas, I'd hate to have my birthday in January

 

[SonicTheSpikeyThing]

Yeah my son was due Christmas Eve, ended up coming Boxing Day. He was my first so it was all very exciting at the time, however now he’s 6 he doesn’t like it. We can never schedule a party for the right time as most of his friends go away to travel for the Christmas period. His last party pre COVID only 2 people managed to come.(out of a class of 25). which I know broke his little heart (and we did that two weeks early to try and solve the problem, but December is such a busy time for people.
now with family in an other country we alternate traveling to them for Christmas and then coming to us so it just wouldn’t be possible now. It would be stressful, I mean it’s already a stressful month.
I still just can’t shake the guilt of it might be our month though.. trying to convince myself that giving my body a break will help me but I can’t shake the sadness

 

[Bobbleowl90]

It was my boys first birthday this christmas just gone and all throughout my pregnancy I made a thing of saying how his birthday and christmas will always be separate and never combined. My best friend got him a joint present, wrapped in christmas paper. It relaly peed me off, especially for his first birthday!

How many times a day do people do ovulation tests? This is the first month I’ve really concentrated on doing them every day and they aren’t showing positive on the days my app says they should be so I’m a little disappointed now and I know it’s silly as it’s the first month but I just wondered if certain times of the day are better?

 

[Sunshinegal]

Has anyone here has low progesterone levels when they started the tests after a year?
They've asked to retest me on that as mine are low, I've just googled (I know it's the worst thing to do) and now I'm in a panic as it doesn't look great. Really really hoping next lot are okay.