TTC’ers!

[Helloimgems]

I love hearing all your stories, sending love to you all on your journeys I stopped my pill 7 months ago and still no sign of a single period yet blood test and internal assessment both came negative for PCOS. I’ve got an initial gynae video consultation in March. GP say they can’t do anything further to help. Suggested exercising less and eating more, I’m 9 stone (I’m 5’2 so this isn’t under weight) and do approx 45 mins brisk walking daily. Anyone else been in this position and any tips? I’ve been taking folic acid and the tablets Luisa Zissman suggested since October. Started ovulation tests in Nov and have had two separate ‘surges’ since then but have now stopped them as feel deflated. Feel under pressure as I’m 33 and no kids yet. Getting married next June but fiancé keeps saying “we are running out of time if we want one before we get married”. Don’t know what to do, any suggestions welcome! Thanks all

 

[fluffybaffling]

Not even on the tww yet and already getting ahead of myself...just worked out I’ll be a week late and can test on Valentine’s Day! Trying to tell myself not to get my hopes up

I’m the same!! I’ll be able to test the week before v day so I’ve been ahead of myself looking a valentines presents I could get to tell hubby I’m pregnant! saw the cutest little heart sign, “roses are red, violets are blue inside me beats 2 hearts for you!”
keeping everything crossed!!

apparently it’my ovulation day today with my first month of temping so hopefully it will rise as I’ve had my first ever positive LH test! And done the deed so much due to predictions changing (pcos) were fed up of each other

 

[Lulu Goss]

I think we all do that! 9th October for me wishful thinking

Omg me too

 

[Ladya31]

Bit off topic but did any of you have to bring up to your partners that you wanted to start TTC or were you all on the same page as them? My fiancé and I talk about kids a lot but when it comes to actually having the discussion of when we'd actually want to start TTC, he either makes a joke or brushes over it and nothing comes of it which frustrates me (it's maybe just a man thing idk) I don't want to seem pushy on the topic as I'm the one who has to keep raising the topic but I don't know how much longer I can keep holding off. Like most women we worry about how long it will take and having had issues with losing my period in the past due to illness it does concern me if there was any lasting effects because of that but you never know these things until you're TTC.

I think a lot of men think getting pregnant is as easy as they teach you at school, all you to do is have unprotected sex and you'll definitely get pregnant when it's not as simple and straightforward as that. So they don't see the need for forward planning with cycles, coming off BC, tracking ovulation etc.

I'm rambling but hoping someone gets me

 

[I’mThankyou_]

Hey I am 27 and TTC #1. Was on the pill (ridigevon) for 10 years came off Sept 2020. I have had fairly regular periods since then, 28/29 day cycles tracking with flo app. I have not tracked ovulation yet but ordered opks from Amazon for this month. Still getting used to this and don’t fully understand so I got my period yesterday so is that cycle day 1? When do I start the opks?

First day of your period is day 1. I start the OPKs around 5 days after my period has ended around day 12/13. It's new to me too I've spent too long googling everything good luck!! x

 

[Pastabeilbys]

I feel the same, one after another. Took us 18 months and then I miscarried at the beginning of December. We should have been telling people in a couple of weeks and instead everyone seems to be announcing instead. Sending you lots of love.

I am exactly the same, ttc for same amount of time and then miscarriaged in december. We shall get through this, just need to stay positive (no matter how much i want to punch people who have said that to me at the time!!!)

Hi all, I have been avoiding this thread for a little while as it stirs up too many feelings but I'm so glad I did, it's nice to know that I'm not alone

We started ttc June 2019 and managed to fall pregnant in July, however I had an early miscarriage so we decided to stop trying for a while. I then started a great new job on what would have been my due date so it kind of felt like everything happens for a reason.

But since we started again arghhh it's been so frustrating, especially as we fell so quick the first time around. What doesn't help is my bro in law and his fiance are now expecting a baby because 'they don't want to put their plans on hold' and his fiance is 10 years younger than me

Argh how annoying. I feel so guilty resenting people when they announce but its so natural to feel that way and we mustnt punish ourselves! I let stress take over me and it probably worked against me for many months!

 

[I’mThankyou_]

thank you. Have they been useful? I’m using the Ovia app to track ovulation but I don’t know how accurate it is and I’m worried I’m missing my chances!

They are really useful! I would honestly recommend them, tracking on the app alone isn’t accurate with the tests you can see when your LH ( luteinising hormone) is on the up which means ovulation is on its way you then hit your peak & go into luteal phase.
Also sorry if that makes no sense

 

[actuallyeducated]

I’m due on on Xmas eve and so hoping it doesn’t come and I can test Good luck everyone!! Is it sad I’m hoping to come on here Xmas eve/Christmas morning and see loads of positive tests, even if I’m not so lucky would love to see loads of good news for others

 

[Hbirdette]

Not completely relevant but I’ve been told that my job is at risk of redundancy next year. I’m so gutted as it’s going to throw a spanner in the works with my baby plans! I’m all ready with my ovulation strips for our first proper month of trying and now I don’t know what to do

A few people have said “don’t worry you’re only young” (I’m 27) but I’ve been waiting for this ‘right time’ for so long now I’m just so gutted. Part of me is tempted to just start trying anyway.

Honestly, just start trying. If you’re ready; go for it. I had a family member at the beginning of the year try and tell me to not try for a baby cause of covid. I’m self employed and currently 5 months pregnant now! Not the most ideal situation but as long as you have a roof over your head and lots of love for baby (obviously I know you need more things, but if money is tight you can get some amazing used stuff for babies)
Without sounding negative; you just don’t know how long it’ll take! We took about 18 months which shocked me cause of us being “young” but sometimes things take a little longer! There were tonnes of things that I could have said to delay trying for a baby (wanting to move house, wanting more holidays etc) but we just thought sod it, we will see what happens! Good luck with whatever you choose to do

 

[Imward3]

Is this what I think it is. I’m only 10DPO. Too scared to get too excited

 

[TJ90]

I’m feeling the same as you! In December I put a lot of pressure on us, I was ill with tonsillitis while I was ovulating but we carried on trying anyway (at my insistence). So feeling rough and then heaping so much pressure on myself wasn’t fun or a good decision in hindsight. I was also really hoping to fall before Christmas and was so disappointed when I didn’t.

I’m now taking the supplements I mentioned in another post, starting dry January today and also getting back on track with eating healthier now Christmas is over. Feeling positive for now



So sorry to hear that. That’s such a hard thing to go through, I feel like it doesn’t get spoken about or acknowledged enough either. Like you said the after effects can be so traumatic. Have you spoken to anyone about how you’re feeling?

I haven’t, I know I shouldn’t slate the NHS but I was treated so poorly throughout the whole process - I felt so let down and still do. My husband has mild autism, everything is so black and white to him so it’s hard for us both. I just need to be brave. I know I get through anything with my friends and family but I still feel vulnerable about it all.

 

[orange club biscuit]

Joining this too as I’m thinking about TTC early next year. I have been off hormonal contraception for 18 months and tracking my cycle using Natural Cycles since Feb. My cycles have been pretty irregular with a short luteal phase and some months NC doesn’t pick up ovulation at all - obviously that’s only part of the picture but have had quite a stressful year (haven’t we all?!) so chalking it down to that. I got some OPKs the other day and so going to start testing with those too. I wish I could be one of those people who is really chilled about it all but I’m far too type A

 

[Gizmo92]

like you I’ve been waiting for “the right time” my partner has wanted for ages and I said we needed a bigger house, more money behind us, I needed to have been in my job longer, further in my career etc. Then I got a new job a year ago and despise it and can’t find a new one so I’ve been like I should wait for a new job then stay there 6months - 1 year before getting pregnant. Now this year I’ve realised life is too short and family is the most important thing and the only job I’ve ever really wanted is to be a mum. I’m also 27 and I honestly thought trying to not get pregnant was the hard bit. We’ve only been trying a couple of months but I was so naive and thought it would be pretty instant and then it kicks in if it doesn’t happen soon I won’t be a mum in 2021 either. Time ticks away from you and now I’ve been reading fertility declines from 27 I thought it was 30’s. Most of my friends are already mums and I’m feeling so old. If you want it just go for it life’s too short.

I feel the same as you. I’m 28 now and I keep thinking how I really hope this is my last Christmas with just my boyfriend and I. I’ll be gutted if it’s still just the 2 of us this time next year got to keep positive though

 

[Tinkerbell20]

Am I the only person not using ovulation tests? I’m worried I’ll get obsessive so we’re going for every other day atm and hoping but if nothing happens after a few months I’ve said I’ll look into ovulation tests

 

[Belle Amie]

I’m out this month. I was so hopeful as well, we missed my peak day but had sex the day after, must have just missed it
At least it’s a Friday and I can have a wine without worrying now. How frustrating is all this though!

 

[Pineapple15]

Hey all, I'm 10 DPO and trying to hold off testing. I'm trying to change my mentality from thinking "when can I test?" to expecting my period to arrive so I don't drive myself mad but it's so hard. I spend most of the TWW convinced it won't happen then allow myself to get my hopes up at this sort of time I think if there is no sign of my period by Wednesday then I'll test but will try not to before then.

 

[Dmom]

Sorry for jumpin on here and please delete if not allowed. I'm on my last month of TTC baby number 5. Yes i hear you all saying "wow 5.... she's so lucky to have that many. Why be selfish etc" i say these things to myself. Thing is after 5 years IVF i conceived twin girls 7 years ago. Then when they were 2 I had my boy (natural conception) but he was stillborn (due to hospital neglegence) Desperate for a baby, I was blessed with another girl 18 months ago. Thing is I am desperate to get pregnant again. We said we'd give ourselves 7 months and now January is the last month. If nothing happens then thats it.
I don't know if this desperation is the want for a baby or the want for my son.
I'm posting here (as I couldn't see a thread on it) but how do people cope if thats it, thats the end of their pregnancy journey.
Again never intend to be insensitive or offensive so delete if not allowed.
Thanks so much and wishing all here baby dust.

 

[Dipdab]

I’m due tomorrow but having the usual PMS so looks like not this month.
good luck to everyone else x

 

[I’mThankyou_]

My hair is currently falling out at a worrying rate. Another side affect of the pill I’m thinking

I feel you!! I'm having awful cystic acne outbreaks due to coming off the pill!! Been 6 months and it's finally starting to calm down!

P.s I cried when I seen Mrs Hinch announce shes pregnant (I really don't like her so it also pissed me off). Infact I've cried at each announcment I've seen.

 

[Rose18778]

Got my period today too