TTC’ers #2

[elloelloello]

Took a test and no luck. Didn’t do it with my first wee of the day but never mind. I bought a few tests so will give it a few days and see if af comes

 

[Sunshinegal]

Don’t be sorry. Your post really helped me yesterday as I did not feel alone. I got AF on Monday and I was beyond dévastéd, withdrawn and tired. This week was the lowest I felt in a long time. You lovely ladies sharing how you felt made my days a little easier. As in your 4 walls you feel alone.

The threads keep me going I have nobody else around me in real life that understands so I come on here and I know I have you all. I felt a bit embarrassed at my upset posts, but like you said, we all get it, we understand how painful this is. I hope you are feeling a bit better today
And we most definately do not do the most infuriating thing of all and tell each other 'just relax and stop thinking about it' . Someone was half way through saying that to me yesterday and I cut that conversation off quick!

 

[Makeupaddict5]

Hi everyone,

I haven't been as active on this thread as I find after AF arrives I usually end up having a break from the baby stuff. When AF is a few days away I start to get anxious and the feeling of dread (it's hard to feel any excitement after 16 cycles! Just the worry of how awful I will feel) and then when AF arrives. I think when I feel so low the support on these threads are what I need, people who understand the utter heartbreak your period coming brings. So I promise I'm not always miserable it's just when I tend to appear.

11dpo here. Cycle 16 has flown by weirdly.
Apart from tender boobs for a few days, although not majorly, I have no symptoms at all. I had cramps for a few days after ovulation but I also had that last month.
Feeling okay, but I can feel that anxiety creeping in a bit....
Want the next couple of days to hurry but then I also don't because it's most likely I will be heartbroken again and that's the feeling I get the dread for! Anyone else get what I mean? I can't actually imagine it ever happening!
DH sperm analysis tommrow finally. I think I'm a bit behind with all the testing but at least it's happening.
Crazy that I have become so used to TTC, its the routine every month of it just like its normal life. Weird to think people have kids who have never done this, just did it once or tried for a month. Doesn't feel real that that happens!
Lots of love to you all x

I

Hi everyone,

I haven't been as active on this thread as I find after AF arrives I usually end up having a break from the baby stuff. When AF is a few days away I start to get anxious and the feeling of dread (it's hard to feel any excitement after 16 cycles! Just the worry of how awful I will feel) and then when AF arrives. I think when I feel so low the support on these threads are what I need, people who understand the utter heartbreak your period coming brings. So I promise I'm not always miserable it's just when I tend to appear.

11dpo here. Cycle 16 has flown by weirdly.
Apart from tender boobs for a few days, although not majorly, I have no symptoms at all. I had cramps for a few days after ovulation but I also had that last month.
Feeling okay, but I can feel that anxiety creeping in a bit....
Want the next couple of days to hurry but then I also don't because it's most likely I will be heartbroken again and that's the feeling I get the dread for! Anyone else get what I mean? I can't actually imagine it ever happening!
DH sperm analysis tommrow finally. I think I'm a bit behind with all the testing but at least it's happening.
Crazy that I have become so used to TTC, its the routine every month of it just like its normal life. Weird to think people have kids who have never done this, just did it once or tried for a month. Doesn't feel real that that happens!
Lots of love to you all x

I resonate with this sooo much.
TTC always feels like counting days and hope.
Good luck for the tests tomorrow. X
This thread is great for a little rant you feel better. Everyone is supportive

 

[Sailorontheseasea]

I’m out this month ladies, AF turned up this morning - 5 days early !! with a very strong wave of nausea and now I feel fine! Totally normal again. So bizarre as I’ve never had PMS like it but the past 2 months have been dreadful with every symptom under the sun. It’s deffo AF and not implantation bleeding as I think it’s probably too late for that. Feeling a bit gutted as thought maybe it would be this month but what can you do really.

Got all my fingers crossed for those testing soon

Hi everyone,

looking for some advice and reassurance! I have tested with a frer this morning and got a very light positive. I’m not due on AF until Monday however I only tested because I have been feeling sick and vomited yesterday which isn’t like me. My concern is should my like not be much darker as I’m only 4 days away from AF or could I have ovulated later than I thought? My cycle is around 30-32 days. I’m so worried as I had a miscarriage January

advice would be appreciated! thanks so much baby dust too all

Test again in a few days lovely, I know it’s so hard but as everyone has said a positive is a positive FRER are generally very good and accurate so got everything crossed for you

 

[Pikaboo]

Hi all. I have a few symptoms of pregnancy but trying to hold off testing for a few more days. My period is 3 days late (usually on time but was late last month too), one sore boob (yep, one!), very nauseous and tired! I keep getting shooting pains around my ovaries too but different to usual cramps. We dtd a few times around peak fertility. Has anyone had any similar early symptoms?

 

[Spencerskates]

I’m really hoping I’m pregnant before I’m offered it, that way I don’t have to make the decision!
I don’t know how I feel about taking it yet, but I’d also feel like I need to justify why I didn’t take it if I didn’t, and I don’t want to share with everyone that I’m TTC.

(I’m a teacher so it’s a question I would definitely be asked)

 

[Calmyourtits]

I did an ovulation test today. There was a faint line. My periods have been all over the place (suspected PCOS. Currently waiting for an appointment to scan ovaries) I did test as I thought i may have been ovulating due to changes in substances (you know what I mean ) now what!!???

just wanted to recommend the Easy@home ovulation sticks from Amazon, they’re not expensive and it’s a box of about 25, you can download the Premom app and photograph your opk everyday (or twice a day in your fertile week) and it works out how fertile you are and plots them on a graph for you to see how your LH ramps up, then you get a peak (where the test line is darker than the control) It’s so easy to track with these tests. That’s what I’ve done this month

 

[Samr]

I’m pretty much the same, I’m happy for everyone and I can only hope for happy and healthy pregnancies.

Personally, I feel like I’ll literally never get pregnant, it feels like such a distant reality for me and I’ve only been TTC since September 2020. I’ve stopped doing opks not only because the easy at home ones are out of stock here, but also to try and not think about this as much as I can. I’ve also found myself checking this thread less often because the moment I start thinking about it more the more overwhelmed I get with the feeling that it will never happen to me. Then again I do tend to always assume the worst so I’m not really doing myself any favors. I know there are many positive angles I can look at this from instead but sometimes it’s just too much! I feel so negative and I don’t want to dampen anyone’s BFP news, I just needed to get this off my chest x

I feel the same as you but I've only been trying since December. I came off hormonal contraceptives years ago so I've not had to adjust or anything. I had some gynecological issues a few years ago after having my son and never really got answers. My periods are so heavy as well (sorry, TMI). I did say to the doctor recently, she sent me for blood tests and said everything was fine but I'm not convinced. I also stopped opks and I'm trying not to think too much but it totally consumes me on the days leading up to my period.

 

[JLXRD]

Hi all, I am just about to start TTC, I’m 28 and haven’t been pregnant before. I stopped taking my pill yesterday.

I’ve been having a little read through and lots of your posts have been super helpful as I think I was quite naive to it all and figured I just stop taking my pill and hope it happens.

Am going to get some of the pre conception vitamins tomorrow so thanks to those who recommended them.

In terms of the ovulation tests and tracking things, should I start using them right away? Or would you all initially just hope for the best and if it doesn’t happen after a few months start tracking? Sorry for all the questions x

 

[Smallpotato]

Hey everyone. I’m 35, had the coil out last month and actively trying this month. I’ve got a 4 year old but I’ve had several losses. Can’t help but think the worst!

 

[Sailorontheseasea]

Think I am now approx 12dpo, stupidly took an early detection test because I’ve been sick the past couple of days but not unwell and been nauseas all week (I have suffered with HG with previous pregnancies so that sickness hits me from the second that ball of cells implants basically ). It was negative anyway so I dunno - I think if the hormones are high enough to make me sick it should be a hint of positive at least.

Have also been having serious bloating, feeling crampy like af is going to start (that’s gone now thankfully!), feeling quite hot all the time and so tired but having really vivid weird dreams etc. So now I’m just worried something else is wrong with me so frustrating anyhow. Also if this is the way my PMS is now every month then I am OUT. Hope everyone’s ok xxx

 

[MrsWolf]

Just had a phone call the from the doctors after the results of my ultrasound to check for cysts... I have a “bulky” ovary... I mean I don’t really like the term they used

More blood tests for me! Any one else have a bulky ovary?

I’m just so gutted my husband is home today after months and I just want to be functioning normally. But the fact I haven’t had AF since January doesn’t fill me with much hope

 

[Belle Amie]

If it doesn’t come tomorrow do a test!! X

Deffo hard to tell, I exhausted google with IS IT IMPLANTATION OR PERIOD?! and I think the only way you can tell is to take a test. maybe leave until Sunday (if you can) to ensure it deffo is late. You could collect your FMU in a pot and store til later to test if not

See what happens today if nothing shows do a test. If you can hold out, I know it's hard.

Fingers crossed for you!

Thank you guys! I woke up at 5:45 this morning and did a cheap test I got with some OPKs from Amazon but it didn’t even have a hint of a line. I’m going to grab a clear blue one today I think if AF doesn’t show today.
Its a year this weekend since we got our puppy, be so cute if we could get our baby this weekend too. Weird sentimental things

 

[elloelloello]

Take a test!!!

I want to but I honestly am quite scared! The fear of a miscarriage is over riding my judgement I think! I’ll take one over the weekend x

 

[Dipdab]

Sorry to be a downer but just wanted somewhere to vent. Another month down and more negative tests I can feel my period coming . I honestly cannot imagine the feeling of getting a BFP and each month that goes by it feels less and less likely. I’m losing motivation at work as I just want to be a mum so bad don’t know if I can keep feeling like this month after month Sorry for the pity party guys but not sure who else would listen!

It’s so tough and exhausting isn’t it I feel the same at the moment but no one else really understands (this has why I love this thread!). Sending you a big hug. Treat yourself to some nice chocolate or a huge wine when AF arrives!

 

[pinkstock]

Ahh huge congratulation niamhm and grumpycat so so happy for you both, I did a big squeal when I checked here this morning. Enjoy every second of it

on a slightly different note can I ask for opinions on alcohol while ttc? I don’t drink very often but do enjoy it but stopped for a good few months there. Do you guys drink at all while ttc? Generally if I am going to drink I avoid completely in the TWW but wondering if that’s risky. It’s shocking how little I know about this stuff

 

[Gizmo92]

Currently 2DPO and fed up of the 2 week wait already

Got invited to go on a walk with 2 of my friends and their new babies at the weekend. I’ve had to make up an excuse as I don’t think I could deal with the constant baby chat

 

[Gizmo92]

I’m only in my first proper month of trying but it’s amazing how much you suddenly learn about your body! I genuinely used to think the slight twinge of pain in my ovary could be the onset of cancer or something haha... so dramatic! I never knew when I was ovulating or the signs or anything until now and now I’m taking time to research, things like ovulation pains now make sense! Quite fascinated about how amazing our bodies are!



Good luck!

This made me laugh as it was literally me too before we started trying I’d get this pain every so often and think “I’m probs dying”. When I started tracking my cycles it was like a revelation! “OH! That’s what that is!”.

 

[Sunshinegal]

Oh I get such dread, like I want to be put out of my misery but at the same time I want to be hopeful but then when I'm disappointed I am so angry with myself like why did I get so hopeful, tis a vicious circle!!

The wait is awful and yes I just want it to hurry up. But then the thought of it arriving and the small bit of hope going is terrible so then I don't. Nobody tells you trying for a baby could be so bloody hard! Sex education made out one quick go and you'd be pregnant
DH was meant to work all weekend but is now off Sunday. At least I now have company that day to take my mind off it sometimes.

 

[calmyourritas]

Hope you’re all okay today ladies