TTC’ers #2

[Clojo92]

I had a few tears last night as well. Even though I am 8DPO I don't feel any different, just wonder if this will ever happen.

 

[Boutros-Boutros Ghali]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’ve dipped in and out of these threads but found them quite triggering - a mixture of anger and anxiety - and not really identified with anyone posting.

I’m in the process of booking for a fertility MOT privately, particularly because I don’t think I’ll get much support from the NHS. I’m also furious about their IVF stance for those forty+ but have to try and not let that bubble up too much.

My partner too has two (adult) children which would have also counted against us. He says he wants it for me but honestly I don’t find him as supportive as he could be.

I am dreading being told bad news but I need to rip the plaster off and know what I’m dealing with. I’m not sure how we’ll afford to pay for it but I know I’d have to try at least once because the idea of never having even one child is too awful to bear. For those of you in this thread who have been upset about difficulty in conceiving number two or maybe three, please never lose sight of how lucky you are to have one child in the process.

May I ask how you found the testing process? I presume it was an AMH blood test and ultrasound scan? When they said it may require 2-3 rounds what did they base it on?

Thank you, and good luck with it all x

It’s nice to speak to someone in a similar position. I definitely find these threads hard, this one isn’t too bad but I had been on mumsnet and had to delete my account, reading about someone in their mid 20s who hadn’t manage to conceive after a couple of months wasn’t really helping me. I had read up about the IVF stance so I was prepared and went into the testing process expecting them to say it was me, after all my OH has 2 kids which were conceived easily. I think I’d said previously I wanted answers so could think about next steps.
I’be had all the blood tests and an ultrasound. Semen analysis for the OH. Started about 6 months ago but frustratingly they put a stop to all fertility services and as there’s only the one clinic here that does NHS and private they didn’t take anyone on. I wanted to pay for it privately as I figured we were going to be paying for any treatment anyway but they literally shut up shop, so had to wait for them to reopen to get all of the results look at and a discussion about next steps. The Dr did say that we may conceive with IVF first time, but because the odds are so low she said to prepare for the 3 attempts (emotionally and financially) and anything less is a bonus. They’ll only do a max of 3. Also not really got a huge amount of time to weigh up our options as the odds get really bad over 43 (about 8% I think) and although they will treat me she said I’d have to have my expectations managed as to the chance of a successful pregnancy. We’re not really in a position financially to afford it. I’m at a bit of a loss what to do at the moment, originally I’d said IVF wasn’t for me but now the thought of never having a child is really getting to me.

And good luck to you too. It’s definitely one of the hardest things I’ve had to deal with x

 

[JLXRD]

Thank you guys for responding, you’re all so supportive here I don’t want to tell anyone we are TTC so being able to just write stuff out here and read through all your posts is making me feel so much less alone (plus teaching me loads!) xx

 

[fluffybaffling]

Tww now I think for me! My cycles have got progressively longer. It will be 37 days with ovulation suggested as CD28. I was regularly 31 days. So annoying!! Stupid PCOS!

 

[calmyourritas]

I did an ovulation test today. There was a faint line. My periods have been all over the place (suspected PCOS. Currently waiting for an appointment to scan ovaries) I did test as I thought i may have been ovulating due to changes in substances (you know what I mean ) now what!!???

Get busy now!!!

 

[Ilando]

It is impossible not to get your hopes up, I was only a day or 2 late last cycle and did I'm very lucky to already have a little boy, just hard thinking I should be over half way through my pregnancy now or thinking I would have got pregnant again by now. 2022 has a nice ring to it

Yes, the what ifs are hard. I miscarried at 12 weeks last year and I often sit here picturing how different my life would be now

 

[JLXRD]

Really wish the apps (Flo etc) would alter after you put in you haven’t ovulated the day they predict. It predicted my ovulation for CD15, I’m CD17 and have logged my negative OPK results. Still now when I got to use it, it’s all like ‘you are 2 DPO, you should expect to feel this way, test in this many days’

Well no Flo hun I won’t be testing bc I haven’t ovulated yet have I or the last few days it was like ‘oh you’re super fertile right now’ again... I’m not but cool thanks for reminding me.

 

[pinkstock]

Hi everyone, been lurking for a while so hope you don’t mind me joining in. I’m very new to TTC but JLXRD post gave me the confidence to post here! huge congratulations to those who have had recent positives.

I’m 28 and came off pill (after 12 years ) in Oct 2020 been TTC ever since. I’m only using Clue app to track cycle, bought Boots strip ovulation tests and found them confusing so didn’t bother with anything else. I know some of you mentioned the ClearBlue ones but there were so many different types I didn’t know where to start

I just finished up my 6th natural period which has been quite regular fortunately, but I don’t find I feel any different now to when I was taking the pill! A bit grumpy in the days leading up to AF but no ovulation cramps.. It’s making me worried - wondering if you guys would recommend starting the OPKs or if I should talk to my doctor? Really appreciate any advice you have , I feel a bit lost with it all and don’t want to waste the doctors time when they are inundated with covid related issues.

I know it’s still so early days for us, my heart breaks hearing of how long some of your journeys have been baby dust to you all xxx

 

[Mel17]

Hi ladies... I tested again this morning (with second MU) and no change at all in colour!! I feel like such an idiot for testing early now I just feel like crap I’m 12po (according my to my app) so deffo think I’m out this month! I have posted a pic below... it’s tweaked!

baby dust to all

Hi ladies... I tested again this morning (with second MU) and no change at all in colour!! I feel like such an idiot for testing early now I just feel like crap I’m 12po (according my to my app) so deffo think I’m out this month! I have posted a pic below... it’s tweaked!

baby dust to all

 

[louichi]

A bit of light hearted relief I’m sure we’ve all been there View attachment 533737

That's actually me! One twinge *Google's 1 DPO*

 

[JLXRD]

And now my temp is lower again this morning, I’ve honestly not got a bloody clue what is going on at this point


At least this means I can drink wine on Friday as it’s my first night out in months (though knowing my luck, I’ll probably get my peak that morning )

Quoting myself because I bloody KNEW it solid face this morning and peak OPKs. Super happy of course but what timing!

Can actually start the process of TTC I’m so excited!

 

[elloelloello]

Hey everyone! Joining this thread.
been trying to conceive for 2.5 years now. I already have a 3.5 year old.
I have had an ectopic and 3 miscarriages in the last year. The most recent miscarriage was about 9 weeks ago and I’m currently on my first cycle since, hoping that because I’m meant to be more fertile at the moment it happens for us quickly. Although, I don’t know how I would cope with another loss.
I don’t know if or when I’ve ovulated on the cycle but we have done the deed sorry I’m a prude, a lot of times since my period stopped so fingers crossed!
according to my app I’m due on in 4 days so we will see- trying not to think about it too much but it’s so hard, I want nothing more than to give my child a sibling. Also it’s very scary trying for another when I’ve already had an ectopic and lost one of my tubes, but I’ve successfully conceived since then so hopefully this will be fifth time lucky. My other miscarriages have been blighted ovum’s/mmc.

Sorry I’m rambling a bit I never speak to anyone about it so it feels good writing it down.

 

[Dipdab]

Back from the shops with some of the pregnacare preconception vitamins, a load of boots pregnancy tests and a couple of the pricey clearblue weeks ones.

Absolute sod’s law that in the past if I ever missed 2 pills in a row my withdrawal bleed would come the morning after the second missed pill like clockwork (even mid cycle) but now I have actually stopped taking it, it’s not here on time! Just want to get it out the way so I can start looking at when I get a real cycle back.

Does anyone know if it is worth trying the meantime whilst I wait for withdrawal bleed or is it not physically possible to become pregnant then? I can’t find much info online about the bit of time after you stop the pill.

Not sure exactly but I started taking folic acid as soon as I stopped the pill. I agree it’s a bit of grey area coming off the pill. I think most of us just assume things will go back to normal straight away. Especially since they always make such a big deal when you miss a pill that you could be pregnant etc. I thought it would be so easy to conceive once you stop...

 

[Clickbait]

Had a little break but need to share with someone. Had our appointment with the fertility clinic this week and got told that our only hope of a pregnancy based on my age and my partners test results (which is ironic as he already two kids which were conceived naturally and quickly) is to have IVF. Was a bit of a blow to be honest, we knew it was a possibility but was quite hard to hear. Not sure it’s even an option for us, would be self funded and the chances of a successful pregnancy are under 10%, if we wait even longer that’ll drop even more. They also reckon we’ll possibly need 2-3 cycles, so need to have £15k available, not sure that’s an option for us
I just feel so sad. I’m an only child and I just always assumed I’d have a baby at some point, my Mum had me at 41 so I’ve always been quite blasé about it
My partner doesn’t seem to get why I’m so upset, he’s always been happy enough to have another child but he just doesn’t seem to get why I’m so bothered by it...we argued the other night and he suggested I’d best ‘go and find myself someone that isn’t a jaffa’ that’s not even a consideration for me but would just like him to realise how difficult I’m finding this

Thank you so much for sharing your story. I’ve dipped in and out of these threads but found them quite triggering - a mixture of anger and anxiety - and not really identified with anyone posting.

I’m in the process of booking for a fertility MOT privately, particularly because I don’t think I’ll get much support from the NHS. I’m also furious about their IVF stance for those forty+ but have to try and not let that bubble up too much.

My partner too has two (adult) children which would have also counted against us. He says he wants it for me but honestly I don’t find him as supportive as he could be.

I am dreading being told bad news but I need to rip the plaster off and know what I’m dealing with. I’m not sure how we’ll afford to pay for it but I know I’d have to try at least once because the idea of never having even one child is too awful to bear. For those of you in this thread who have been upset about difficulty in conceiving number two or maybe three, please never lose sight of how lucky you are to have one child in the process.

May I ask how you found the testing process? I presume it was an AMH blood test and ultrasound scan? When they said it may require 2-3 rounds what did they base it on?

Thank you, and good luck with it all x

 

[Dipdab]

Hey guys! Hope it is okay if I join this thread?!

All are welcome here

 

[calmyourritas]

Holy fuck... I am 12 DPO. I felt like such shit yesterday I was like may as well test and see

 

[Smallpotato]

Thank you, I will. It is a lovely community, ttc is such a lonely time. I really wish it was easier to speak about in person

Im having a lot of tears tonight. My period is so painful, my son is off to his Nanny’s for a week as I’m on nights. I’m just really feeling sorry for myself and I feel as if I have no one to talk to.

 

[Lola UK]

Hi ladies! Congratulations on the recent positives! I’ve been a lurker for a while so exciting!

I’m going to be ttc in the next few months and I’m already obsessing hehe. Just wondering if any of you take daily vitamins and if I should start taking folic acid now, even if we aren’t actively ttc until Oct/Nov time? (My partner works away) I always have regular cycles (luckily) and I’m worried if I start taking vits in October it will throw my cycles all over the shop.

myself and partner are early 30s, I’ve been off the pill for 3 years and not even a whiff of a positive. We haven’t been trying, but I always assumed a whoopsie surprise might happen but nope!

 

[Dipdab]

So my husband hid my stash of HPT as I’m a bit of an addict with them before AF. This morning I found a random cheapie OPK in the bathroom cabinet. It was a really strong positive, stronger than I usually get when ovulating? I know you can get a LH surge before AF. Does anyone know if it’s usually the day before? I’m a bit confused, I’m a regular cycle girl so I don’t think it’s ovulation?
Edited to add- I don’t even know why I did the OPK. I’m a pee on a stick addict who can’t be controlled

 

[Niamhm]

Why is the tww the longest 2 weeks ever?