TTC’ers #2

[Smallpotato]

Hey everyone. It’s day 30 of my cycle and no period. I am having a freak out.

 

[JLXRD]

First post pill AF came this morning, so that’s good as can get withdrawal bleed out the way and hopefully get into a real cycle soon So I guess just start trying once AF goes. Started using Flo to track and it’s given me a fertile window etc but I won’t place too much in the of course as I could have a super long cycle naturally (haven’t been off BC for a long time so no idea!).

Thanks for those who have given advice I’m learning so much from reading through this thread and feel so much more prepared now that it might take a while x

 

[elloelloello]

I’m 2 days late and no sign of it coming! I am going to hold off taking a test for a week or two (don’t know how I’ll manage that) because this is my first period since my mmc so I am just going to wait because I know my body is probably still adjusting back to normal and my cycle could be all over the place, don’t want to get my hopes up but it’s so hard

 

[Mel17]

Thank you, glad I'm not just seeing things scary and exciting stuff xx

I can deffo see a line! I’m due in 4 days and had this very faint positive today too! its much more visible in person! I’m not testing again till Saturday yours lookvery promising! Goodluck!

 

[Sunshinegal]

Ah guys I'm 11dpo and I'm so anxious. I don't test like I used to I wait for my period. I know it'll come. I obviously have hope but 15 cycles later its hard to imagine. I'm so nervous I want Monday to hurry up but then I don't because I don't want it to come as I know I will just cry and cry! Anyone else get that dread? Everyone else I read seems to get excited, I wish I could still!

Sorry this may sound rank but I've randomly got sore spots on my chest and quite a few on my face since ovulation this month which is odd. My post pill acne cleared a couple of months ago so I'm like fabbbb it's back I guess. Got some cramps earlier for the first time this cycle. No implantation bleeding, not that I'm expecting it but I always end up googling that not everyone has it, to keep a bit of hope.
Sending you all luck for anyone else due on soon too!

 

[Ilando]

Hey ladies, still waiting impatiently for my period to come. Its a month since my miscarriage and I'm desperate to start trying again. Was anyone in a similar situation? How long did it take for your period to start again? I feel its coming but nothing to show for it just yet

My period came back 5 weeks after my emergency surgery for my miscarriage. I conceived again 3 months later. Not saying this to rub anyone’s nose in it (I’d struggled with infertility for years prior to this) but to give hope to anyone who has recently suffered a loss xxx

 

[Smallpotato]

Thinking of you Mel17 and Niamhm If your feels comfortable, post updates!

agreed this community is lovely, I feel as if I have no one to speak to about this!

 

[Fizzwhizz2020]

Hey, sorry to hear its taking longer than you hoped. Im 37, 38 in a few weeks and Ttc #2. I did fall pregnant in January and miscarried at almost 10 weeks almost a month ago now. Id been trying for 4 months, the first 3 I used premom OPKs and then spoke to my friend who said just buy the clearblue digital...I did and fell pregnant straight away. Are you using any ovulation detectors? I recommend clearblue obvs...I know they're pricier but they are so good! I will be using my leftover sticks when my AF returns hopefully in the next week or so. Sending you lots of love and hope you get your baby sooner rather than later. I too worry about my age...but look it definitely can happen xx

Thank you. I might try the clear blue, I’ve not tried them yet. Just getting frustrated in myself now. Funny how you spend your whole life trying not to get pregnant and then when you want to, it doesn’t happen. Not an ideal age for me to start trying for a first, but wasn’t in the right relationship previously, then following that needed time in my own. I Ideally wouldn’t have left it so late, but sadly was beyond my control. Sorry to hear about your MC. Lots of baby dust to you x

 

[grumpycat]

I am now 4 days late on my period. I don’t have any symptoms and I got a negative result two days ago I’m so confused.
Going to test again tomorrow I think

Any chance you could have ovulated later than you thought?

I did my first clear blue ovulation test so nice and easy and I’ve logged in the premom app too. CD8 and a blank smiley which is what I expected. For this cycle though it’ll give me a EDD of 28/12

 

[Lola UK]

I'm with you, I'm 4 days late now. Might be worth testing just in case? It becomes so all-consuming, doesn't it...

I tested this afternoon and BFN . And still no period!
I bought the tests a few months ago from Amazon and I’ve just looked at the reviews and they are really bad, saying they give false negatives etc. Not sure if it’s true but I’m clinging to it I’ll buy a digi clear blue tomorrow and if no period, I’ll test Monday morning with my first wee.

have you tested?

 

[elloelloello]

I am now 4 days late on my period. I don’t have any symptoms and I got a negative result two days ago I’m so confused.
Going to test again tomorrow I think

 

[Makeupaddict5]

The threads keep me going I have nobody else around me in real life that understands so I come on here and I know I have you all. I felt a bit embarrassed at my upset posts, but like you said, we all get it, we understand how painful this is. I hope you are feeling a bit better today
And we most definately do not do the most infuriating thing of all and tell each other 'just relax and stop thinking about it' . Someone was half way through saying that to me yesterday and I cut that conversation off quick!

Honestly don’t feel embarrassed. Your words were exactly how I was feeling just I was too miserable to even type or express how I felt. You were courageous to share how you feel and it resonated with me deeply as it felt like I had written it. Also I guess I feel extra low this month as I also realised 2021 baby is out of the way and the way I see it it’s another year that could have been. You made me feel better as I didn’t feel normal with my thoughts.

 

[Belle Amie]

yeah same! Not dull but more crampy if you know what I mean
I’ve also got a bit of a headache and my mouth is SO DRY no matter how much water I drink. I haaaate waiting this last little bit, you read into everything!
Keep me posted how you get on

I’m one day after ovulation we had sex on my ovulation day for the first time and I’m already reading into the cramps I had this morning when I know it doesn’t work that quick!
Lord help me for the next 2 weeks honestly! I’ve tried not to drive myself mental for the last few weeks but this work I’ve done is 100% coming undone this month I can feel it!

Good luck and positive thoughts to you all!

 

[Lola UK]

Well AF due Thursday and no sign yet. I keep nipping to the loo at every opportunity to check my colleagues probably think I have a uti

just want it to arrive so I can stop thinking about it. It’s crazy how much it takes over your day / life!!

 

[Smallpotato]

I wish I know!! I peed in a cup, put the stick facing down in it for 20 seconds (timed). Removed and kept it lying flat and it was just like -“hmm.. Nope”. So I’m sticking with the old fashioned lines (10-12dpo..)

Still wish I’d waited until my period is due like with my first! Though with him I’d accepted I wasn’t going to get pregnant on my own and we were just about to embark on IVF, I only did the test because I was planning a night of drinking at my friends wedding x

I did the same with clear blue over the summer.

Because I’m losing my mind, I threw away my pregnancy tests to stop me testing pre period. My period is due on Friday, and no doubt will arrive.

I feel this week I am slowly accepting at 35 nearly 36, I won’t conceive again and my 4 year old will be an only child like me. I hated being an only child growing up and I just don’t want the same for him.

 

[JLXRD]

CD 26 and still no peak, day 8 of my flashy face on CB advanced. The pack says to give up after 9 days of flashy face so I think I will and just wait for AF. I can’t keep doing OPKs a few times a day as it’s getting obsessive.

I did have my darkest ever result on an OPK on CD 22, then it dropped way back down again within hours. The 2 days following I had right sided pain and then the last 2 data’s my temp has raised (today is the highest I’ve had this cycle). CM was a lot until then and then disappeared. Not sure what CM is doing now as I managed to develop thrush yesterday

Husband thinks maybe that the higher test on CD 22 was my surge and it does say on the pre mom app some people have a low surge and tests will never show ‘positive’, (under 0.8 ratio - mine was 0.6) but it wouldn’t adjust for that until the following cycle.

But I don’t know feel really down about it this evening. If I hadn’t had the flashing face I would just assume nothing was happening as this is my first cycle off the pill but I feel like that got my hopes up that I was going to get back into some kind of cycle, but now I don’t know how to feel.

Sorry for the long whinge guys, just feel frustrated not knowing where I am x

 

[Mathilderose99]

I just took one of the clearable digital & it has come back pregnant!!! but says 1-2 weeks. Based on the app calculator for my last period I should be 3.5 weeks - does anyone know if this means anything ? already worrying!

 

[Smallpotato]

I’ve got the worst migraine. Tried swimming this morning to shift it but this is still the migraine I posted about last week.

I’ve been trying to write something coherent for a little while this morning but all I can say is that if my AF turns up in the next few days it will be so shit. So so so shit. I’ve felt sad the past few months when it has but for some reason I’m really clinging onto it this month. I’m not even expecting to be pregnant as I think I ovulated seriously early and I don’t really want to test as the outcome will be the outcome if I test or not no matter how many millions I spend on tests. This will be our 5th cycle, 2 were “trying but not trying” and I know I’m in the luckiest luckiest position in comparison to some but somehow it still feels like the most crushing feeling. Anyhoo my heart goes out to everyone feeling it right now no matter what your circumstance, it’s alllll shit.

I totally empathise with you. I feel that everyone around me is just falling pregnant, and I feel helpless. I’m the same as you, I feel very blessed in comparison to other people but I still feel crushed.

Someone else mentioned in this thread how they planned their pregnancy around timelines and I feel as if I’ve done this too. My little boy starts at school and it would be perfect if I could fall pregnant so I could have a year off to support him with school and be home with baby. Sounds RIDICULOUS to type it out

 

[calmyourritas]

Mine look exactly like yours pre peak, really low readings. Think I may take myself off to Tesco to get the CB ones this evening.

I also like that you can do it in the morning first thing and then not have to spend the rest of the day making sure you’re not drinking 2 hrs before etc. I think I would find the little flashy face reassuring too as like you say, at least you know something is happening.

I am also another advocate for the CB ovulation test - obviously more expensive but I found them much easier and I liked the smiley faces the little strips confused me too much.

 

[Sunshinegal]

Honestly don’t feel embarrassed. Your words were exactly how I was feeling just I was too miserable to even type or express how I felt. You were courageous to share how you feel and it resonated with me deeply as it felt like I had written it. Also I guess I feel extra low this month as I also realised 2021 baby is out of the way and the way I see it it’s another year that could have been. You made me feel better as I didn’t feel normal with my thoughts.

Well this is lovely, in a sad kind of way, as we are going through this. I'm glad my words made you feel a little better
TTC is such a hard journey and people who haven't had to try for long just don't get the heartache and misery it can cause.
I was crying last night to DH that 2021 is now out of the picture. Today I'm trying my best to think of our 2022 baby, that even if I am not holding a baby at the end of the year, I will hopefully be pregnant. Sometimes I can feel positive like this and then other times I'll be tearful again and probably on this thread again feeling terrible. For now I'm trying to cling to my positive thoughts for as long as I can, it gets harder as time goes on doesn't it?

My MIL told me yesterday to not be sad and view not being pregnant as a good thing (??). But I said I would let myself be sad, I won't feel guilty for it. There's nothing wrong with us feeling shit because we are having a hard time. And when we feel positive again it's great.

I hope your feeling better. Sending you loads of love

I really wish there was more advocation for real education on fertility, women’s reproduction and trying for a baby etc. I feel all of us have a similar story where you don’t realise how difficult it can be to start the road of having a baby.

I get the worry of teenage pregnancy but shoving teenagers on hormonal contraception for years until they want children isn’t the answer

Agreed. You just think its gonna happen when you want it too.

This! I have spent my whole life trying not to get pregnant and it’s only now I’m learning so much. There’s so many things I just didn’t know. I was under the impression that if I miss one pill I will instantly get pregnant obviously I know it *could* happen but some real education is needed on what we’re putting in our bodies and more about fertility and conception IMO.

When I was 16 I was on the pill but I think I'd missed one or took it late or something. Had sex with my boyfriend. I literally panicked so badly. Was sure id be pregnant. I went and got the morning after pill as well! Paid for it in asda. No idea if that would even do anything but I was young and under the impression you got pregnant very easily and that one missed/late pill would have left me pregnant and completely panicked and wanted to stop it happening! How silly

Yes! Like in mean girls when they’re like DO NOT HAVE SEX, YOU WILL GET PREGNANT AND DIE


It’s ridiculous that you have to seek the information you need! I had to explain to my husband after I googled the phases of the mensural cycle just simple things that we just aren’t made aware of properly.

Same as things like miscarriage, stillbirth, secondary infertility - so many things that you don’t realise are so common but never spoken about unless you seek it out.

I would never have gone on the pill knowing the health issues it creates. Esp the risk of blood clots etc and I feel like even when i went for blood pressure checks with the nurse theh never said oh if you’re thinking of TTC then maybe it can take 1-2yrs for your cycle to settle.

I will never go on the pill again! I had bad periods so the doctor offered me the pill when I was quite young. It did work for that, and obviously for contraception later on, but they never told me anything about it at all.
I had some really weird symptoms after I came off it, kind of like a weird withdrawal as I'd been on it 14 years.
Schools just make out you have sex and bam pregnant.