TTC’ers #2

[grumpycat]

Good luck. I’m due AF on Sunday, I’m too scared to test to avoid disappointment again. I haven’t had any usual cramps and my boobs ache but wondering if it’s just in my mind

this was me this morning. I peed in a cup and then had to make myself test. It’s my first cycle off the pill so no idea if I’m actually due on or not, I’d assume in the next few days I would be. For you!

 

[Samr]

Hi ladies! Congratulations on the recent positives! I’ve been a lurker for a while so exciting!

I’m going to be ttc in the next few months and I’m already obsessing hehe. Just wondering if any of you take daily vitamins and if I should start taking folic acid now, even if we aren’t actively ttc until Oct/Nov time? (My partner works away) I always have regular cycles (luckily) and I’m worried if I start taking vits in October it will throw my cycles all over the shop.

myself and partner are early 30s, I’ve been off the pill for 3 years and not even a whiff of a positive. We haven’t been trying, but I always assumed a whoopsie surprise might happen but nope!

I don't think there's any harm in taking it now, especially if there's a chance you could have a surprise pregnancy. I always take it even when not TTC as I have folate deficiency.

 

[grumpycat]

Thank you so much! I really hope so, I feel like I can’t be happy or excited yet though! I’ve been here many times. Going to try and get booked in for an early scan to rule out ectopic and fingers crossed this time it sticks
sending everyone baby dust

congratulations

 

[Smallpotato]

the mind can be powerful! Remember, until implantation happens then there is no hCG being released so that’s why some tests so early are negative. It doesn’t mean you’re out at all! It’s hard not to read into symptoms, but trusts your body and follow what it needs

Thank you so much. I never get headaches, only a week before my period, so I think it’s a no go this month. It took some time to fall pregnant when I came off the pill, even though the copper coil is different... I think for me it’s taking some time.

 

[Vivian124]

Fantastic!!!! Im so happy for you!!

 

[louichi]

Could anyone recommend me a decent ovulation test kit? I got some cheap ones but I’m still not convinced I actually ovulated this month!

I use the Premom ones. I bought a box of 100 from Amazon and they seem pretty decent. I am BBT testing alongside them because although th strips will detect your surge, it is actually your temperature that will confirm if/when ovulation happened

 

[elloelloello]

Hoping for a positive for you over the weekend!
My AF is due on Sunday, feel like I have been feeling generally unwell and headachy the last 36 hours which is normal right before my period but usually only lasts a few hours and then bam I get my period.
Actually bought 2 tests there, what ye reckon? Wait til morning or give one a go now?

Wait til the morning! I wish I did now, but I’ll give it a few more days then do it with my first wee x

 

[Honeybeetea]

Morning everyone, hope all is well!... does this look like a positive OPK? I haven’t been consistent with these this cycle as have not had the energy for all the stress this month- I was just curious this morning! Taken with 2nd MU. This is CD16

Looks like it’s not quite a positive yet, I think the test line has to be as dark or darker than the control line for it to be positive? I could be wrong though!

I don’t use these strips anymore, I had an almost constant reading of high/peak regardless of where I was in my cycle, so I started using easy@home ones and I have much more realistic results throughout my cycle. I’ve attached a photo so you can see what my “positives” looked like! Keep testing xx 🤍

 

[grumpycat]

@grumpycat feeling really good actually thanks lovely! Really trying not to obsess over anything this month. I am meant to be ovulating over Easter weekend but deciding whether or not to use any OPK tests as don’t want to be obsessing again this whole cycle - felt like I’d totally lost my marbles last month and I hated myself for it! Was just totally not myself at all and don’t want it to be that way again. Have redownload the Ovia fertility app anyway so tracking on that and just going with the flow how are you doing?? Xx

I counted my light bleed as CD1 so I too am due to ovulate over Easter weekend too apparently. I’m so relieved that this is hopefully the case as my husband can work away frequently!

This is my first month with the CB ovulation sticks and I can see why it can get so obsessive. I’m trying to stay mostly chill and just do the tests to make sure my body is doing what it’s supposed to be doing! Other than that we are just trying to keep up the every other day and stay hopeful and chill. Looks like our cycles are similar this month -ish!

 

[Pip30]

Brown = old blood and a little bit of red could deffo be implantation

Thank you! I have health anxiety so anything like this sends me spiralling I guess now keep everything crossed and not obsessively pee on sticks

 

[begaphobia]

Usually BBT thermometers are advertised with an app to will help to track but here's a link to explain BBT further. I got a basic one from Amazon fairly cheaply!

Thank you so much!

Search BBT thermometer on Amazon, lots will come up. It's best off getting one to the closest .2 decimal places so i.e. temp of 36.72 rather than just 36.2. They are around £15.

I use the Premom app and it's fairly self explanatory it'll add in a baseline to identify your to spike. You can see in mine how my temp was lower pre ovulation and has stayed above that line post ovulation. It should drop back down just before my period starts.

Thank you so much

 

[Dipdab]

Argh!!!! Got my BFP last night, 9 weeks after my MMC. Honestly can’t believe it Really thought I was out this month, had no real symptoms and felt like AF was coming for the last week! Only the last 2 days I’ve had a really strong sense of smell, which prompted me to test! I’m 12dpo so still early days but showing up 1-2 weeks on clearblue.
So nervous/excited but I’m trying to stay as calm as I can!

Huge congratulations!

 

[pinkstock]

I’ve been looking into it and it seems like being in a calorie deficit when you come off the pill can affect your cycle coming back and is generally not great for TTC unless you are very overweight.

Thinking maybe I should stop dieting if I want to conceive? I’ve been eating at at least a 600 deficit for a couple of months now (not every day but I have been losing weight). I figured if I fell pregnant I would stop dieting but in the meantime weight loss wouldn’t hurt as I am still about 10 pounds overweight currently (BMI is a little over 25). Now I’m thinking about it it’s probably not the best idea.

Anyone else dieted whilst TTC and has it affected you? I don’t know if I’m being silly and the idea of having a reason eat more just seems good to me so I’m selling it to myself

I’m also eating in a deficit and obviously haven’t had any luck lol. I figured I’d rather be a healthier weight if I am lucky enough to fall pregnant. Maybe try slightly less of a deficit, not as extreme as 600? I find the dieting gives me something else to focus and obsess over rather than ttc.

also, on your earlier post. You may not have ovulated *yet I was stressed out of my mind posting yesterday about not ovulating, I’m CD21 and just got my first peak today! I came off the pill in October, but this is 1st month properly tracking. We are around the same age from what I remember (28?) so you might find this useful. Maybe you’re like me and just having long cycle! Xx

 

[MrsWolf]

Spoiler: Trigger warning: pregnancy test

I took some ovulation tests over the last few days as I was WAY too chicken to take a pregnancy test, caved yesterday morning and today (the FRER) and it doesn’t feel real!!
Yesterday was the clear blue

I feel so blessed and also so guilty being able to write this. I am so lucky and I promise I really, really know that. You guys are the loveliest community and I can’t wait to see the rest of you fall pregnant
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Massive congratulations! Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy!

 

[louichi]

I’ve got a darker line this morning on clear blue & now showing on the hcg pre-mom tests too - what test should I get to confirm I feel like I can’t believe it ? Maybe one that actually says pregnant lol. I’m 11 days post ov - period due Thursday! Thanks for the support on here this thread has been my lifesaver !

Yay congratulations!!! I took a digital one as definite confirmation just so it was there in text, but I also know that the Premom tests aren't meant to be overly sensitive so I thought if that's showing a line then it has got to be right!

 

[Pastabeilbys]

Exactly. What can we do I’m blessed in many other ways. I do want children I thought by now I would be pregnant with my 2nd.
Life is full of surprises and soon ladies we will all have good news to share with one another.
Wishing everyone baby dust.
It’s hard I won’t lie. I am desperate in one way but I don’t allow that to take over. I know my time will come soon. Plus even if I do get pregnant the first 12 weeks will be very hard. I won’t believe I’m fully pregnant till the 13th week.
I am now going to make a hot chocolate
Xx

Completely agree darling, small steps and keeping occupied is key i think. Embrace happiness in other aspects of life and miracles start to happen

 

[fluffybaffling]

Just received confirmation from my doctor that I’ve got PCOS. I’ve been off contraception for a year now. Haven’t been trying every month due to husbands job but also had months of no bleeding.. which I now have an answer for - after many negative tests and crushed hopes. I wish I didn’t wait so long to get checked, I put lack of periods down to stress etc.

I’m just a bit lost really... where do I go from here? TTC for my first child and I don’t really know what this means now, I feel a bit clueless.

My doctor explained that it can happen naturally but I also might need some help so just to keep trying... should I have asked any questions?

I don’t really know what I’m after from posting this.. does anyone have any advise of where to go from here?

I’ve been off contraception for 4 or 5 years now with PCOS although not trying but if it happened it would have been fine and have now been trying since December. I was only diagnosed in 2019 but the doctors didn’t give me much advice either, ive had friends that have it and conceived naturally quite quickly. The doctor just told me about the risks of womb cancer if you don’t bleed enough and when I asked about children, said it may happen naturally. I wonder if they won’t want to scare us too much?

 

[grumpycat]

AF started today right on time as predicted! Can’t believe I felt so weird the past week or so, definitely something to be said for talking yourself into symptom spotting, must have just had a funny month. Also those evap lines are totally cruel - I’ve genuinely had 4 positives within around 10-15 minutes, albeit faint. It kind of makes me think maybe it was a chemical pregnancy but unsure if you get positives from them. Ah well, onwards and upwards - have redownloaded my Ovia fertility app as you reminded me that it exists and we will try again next month!!

Hope you are doing ok, thank you for checking in let me know how you get on! Xx

oh no I’m so gutted for you
It sounds like a chemical to me, you wouldn’t really get faint lines without any hormone present I’d have thought?! Let alone all the symptoms too! Wishing you all the luck for this next cycle
I’m doing Ok - I’m not due til Friday so won’t test until then, felt super crampy this morning but who knows!

 

[Smallpotato]

@Smallpotato me too, and when you have to limit fluid intake and hold your pee for four hours it’s not like you can just forget you need to do them

I was literally doing photo shoots around the house with the pissing stick, trying to get the highest reading

 

[Clojo92]

Think I am now approx 12dpo, stupidly took an early detection test because I’ve been sick the past couple of days but not unwell and been nauseas all week (I have suffered with HG with previous pregnancies so that sickness hits me from the second that ball of cells implants basically ). It was negative anyway so I dunno - I think if the hormones are high enough to make me sick it should be a hint of positive at least.

Have also been having serious bloating, feeling crampy like af is going to start (that’s gone now thankfully!), feeling quite hot all the time and so tired but having really vivid weird dreams etc. So now I’m just worried something else is wrong with me so frustrating anyhow. Also if this is the way my PMS is now every month then I am OUT. Hope everyone’s ok xxx

Omg I get the really hot and vivid dreams too, unfortunately before AF hope that is not the case for you though x