TTC’ers #2

[Sailorontheseasea]

Eughhh said I wasn’t going to be obsessed this month but totally overthinking every twinge was meant to be in my fertile window over this weekend but I had what felt like ovulation cramps for 2 days before (weds + Thurs) so fear I may have missed the boat as we only had UPS on Friday.

Does anyone else get ovulation cramps/pain? When does it come on in regards to actually ovulating? Really don’t want to get into opk tests if I can help it as I’m obsessive.

 

[elloelloello]

That's a lot to go through in a year, sending you lots of love. I've also had an ectopic pregnancy in the past and the thought of it happening again is scary. Can I ask what treatment you had for it? I was so lucky to keep both tubes, will always be grateful for that.

It’s been a truly shit year that’s for sure!
I went into hospital with bleeding and pain, had my scan and the pregnancy was actually growing on my ovary which is so so rare, but it ruptured my tube so I was having key hole surgery within the hour. It was so hard from thinking I was pregnant to having an operation (which I had never had surgery in my life) all within the space of an hour or two. I don’t think I’ll ever get over it tbh. Your very lucky you kept your tube! Did you just have to take some medication? You must of caught it really early, although I was only about 6 weeks when this happened!

 

[JLXRD]

CD is definitely easier as you get a result quite clear, and I found it handy knowing that when it was flashing, the estrogen was gearing up so at least SOMETHING was happening. My LH strips were always very faint until my peak and the difference is not huge but noticeable. I’ll attach my premom for my last cycle. The peak that I highlighted was when I got the peak on the CB digi and then did a strip LH test too.

Mine look exactly like yours pre peak, really low readings. Think I may take myself off to Tesco to get the CB ones this evening.

I also like that you can do it in the morning first thing and then not have to spend the rest of the day making sure you’re not drinking 2 hrs before etc. I think I would find the little flashy face reassuring too as like you say, at least you know something is happening.

 

[Sunshinegal]

I had decided yes after everyone I've asked and also NHS website but rang my doctors to just reassure myself. They weren't sure and gave me the number for where my vaccination will be. They've said no don't have it until after you've had a baby that is their guidance . I'm like????

 

[Smallpotato]

Amazing - ovulation cramps are very common! Good luck

I had them so bad as a teenager! Haven’t had them this bad in a while. Husband is away with work until tonight, so I’ve already pre warned him

Yayyy, good luck.

we are in sync small potato, I am CD 15 too (however still no peak to speak of here )

High five!

We have DTD all last week except for yesterday as husband was away and I was working all day.

 

[Dipdab]

Guys... can anyone else see a really faint line or is this in my imagination?
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Omg congrats I see a line! I also found the clear blue early detection tests quite good!

 

[Celeste]

Ah guys I'm 11dpo and I'm so anxious. I don't test like I used to I wait for my period. I know it'll come. I obviously have hope but 15 cycles later its hard to imagine. I'm so nervous I want Monday to hurry up but then I don't because I don't want it to come as I know I will just cry and cry! Anyone else get that dread? Everyone else I read seems to get excited, I wish I could still!

Sorry this may sound rank but I've randomly got sore spots on my chest and quite a few on my face since ovulation this month which is odd. My post pill acne cleared a couple of months ago so I'm like fabbbb it's back I guess. Got some cramps earlier for the first time this cycle. No implantation bleeding, not that I'm expecting it but I always end up googling that not everyone has it, to keep a bit of hope.
Sending you all luck for anyone else due on soon too!

I'm 11DPO too and feel like I'm just waiting for AF now, but have felt so out of sorts this week, very crampy, my digestion seems all wrong and today I've been so nauseous I can't eat anything. Sure I'm just over-thinking it all but you can't help but wonder!

 

[calmyourritas]

Now 3DPO and I can’t stop over thinking every tiny little thing had a strange feeling yesterday and today - not cramps as such, but the feeling I get when I’m going to come on? This morning I felt sick. Just want AF to come so I can start the next cycle now

 

[Niamhm]

Hey ladies, still waiting impatiently for my period to come. Its a month since my miscarriage and I'm desperate to start trying again. Was anyone in a similar situation? How long did it take for your period to start again? I feel its coming but nothing to show for it just yet

Hi lovely, sorry for your loss I miscarried at just over 5 weeks last year, stopped bleeding on 10th October and my period returned on 25th November so about 6 weeks later xx

 

[Makeupaddict5]

You are an inspiration. You are doing so so much, it really does show how unfair it is, when others are able to concieve during a one night stand, or overweight alcoholic, drug users! We will all get there in the end

Exactly. What can we do I’m blessed in many other ways. I do want children I thought by now I would be pregnant with my 2nd.
Life is full of surprises and soon ladies we will all have good news to share with one another.
Wishing everyone baby dust.
It’s hard I won’t lie. I am desperate in one way but I don’t allow that to take over. I know my time will come soon. Plus even if I do get pregnant the first 12 weeks will be very hard. I won’t believe I’m fully pregnant till the 13th week.
I am now going to make a hot chocolate
Xx

 

[Makeupaddict5]

We sound like a bunch of chickens

 

[Mel17]

Hi everyone-

doctor wouldn’t give me a blood test until Atleast 2 weeks late.
I have tested again this lunch time and no progression has happened on the tests. AF still not here but I don’t see any light at the end of the tunnel.
I just want AF to show so I know where I’m at.
Thanks everyone

 

[Makeupaddict5]

I have a friend who started trying around the same time as us, she fell pregnant on the 2nd cycle and has a beautiful baby girl, but I had to bite my tongue when she said “when I stopped thinking about it, it happened!” Like SERIOUSLY?!

It’s made me really angry and bitter towards anyone who are ttc! I get jealous when I see people talking about ‘oh trying for no.2’ like I can’t tell you how badly I just want one!! It’s so difficult and tiring.

At the moment I’ve only told one friend I am actively trying after my mmc. She’s knows I am trying as I mention it but we don’t have deep discussions unless I need some advise but I know she can’t advise me on much as she got pregnant straight away and only had one child.
I can’t be bothered to explain myself to people or other friends. Sometimes they do mean well just their words can trigger your emotions.
It can be annoying but I wouldn’t share your journey with them if that’s how you feel. Or you can tell them exactly how you feel and how you find it insensitive and triggering when they nonchalantly tell you need to relax. After all If they are your friends you should share how you feel.
I prefer not sharing makes it a little easier. Less drama.

 

[Sailorontheseasea]

Omg I get the really hot and vivid dreams too, unfortunately before AF hope that is not the case for you though x

See generally I don’t really, I only get those sorts of things a day or two before my AF (due next Wednesday, 33 day cycles) along with fairly low mood/feeling withdrawn/need to sleep so I deffo know this isn’t just my standard PMS but yanno I guess this must just be my life now thanks lovely xx

12dpo is still early though You aren’t out yet!

Ahhhh I know, I shouldn’t have tested really!! I told myself I wouldn’t until AF is due!! Hope you’re ok sweet xx

 

[grumpycat]

Hi all, I am just about to start TTC, I’m 28 and haven’t been pregnant before. I stopped taking my pill yesterday.

I’ve been having a little read through and lots of your posts have been super helpful as I think I was quite naive to it all and figured I just stop taking my pill and hope it happens.

Am going to get some of the pre conception vitamins tomorrow so thanks to those who recommended them.

In terms of the ovulation tests and tracking things, should I start using them right away? Or would you all initially just hope for the best and if it doesn’t happen after a few months start tracking? Sorry for all the questions x

The ovulation test is a tricky one - when I first wanted to conceive my son we just had sex every other day (estimating ovulation from an app)
The positive to OPK is that you know what your body is doing BUT it can be obsessive and stressful, so I think it depends on your personality and how you like to deal with things. This is my first cycle using them, and I found it helpful to pinpoint roughly ovulation but I can see on equal measures why people would find it consuming.

 

[MrsWolf]

I’ve been off contraception for 4 or 5 years now with PCOS although not trying but if it happened it would have been fine and have now been trying since December. I was only diagnosed in 2019 but the doctors didn’t give me much advice either, ive had friends that have it and conceived naturally quite quickly. The doctor just told me about the risks of womb cancer if you don’t bleed enough and when I asked about children, said it may happen naturally. I wonder if they won’t want to scare us too much?

Thank you for your reply! My doctor literally told me nothing like that.. I’m guessing it was because it was a quick over the phone chat instead of face to face? But they did say they’d refer me to fertility. I’ve done a whole afternoon of googling and now I don’t know if I feel better or worse

I also got diagnosed with PCOS in July last year. My cycles were quite regular but long (62 days) and I was told by the doctor I almost definitely wasn’t ovulating with a cycle that long. They said they would refer me to sub fertility after six months of ‘proper’ trying (we hadn’t been using contraception for a year at that point). Anyway I pretty much thought the trying was a formality and I would need treatment but I got pregnant on my second tracked cycle. In my first one I ovulated on day 51, but on my second I ovulated on day 30 so I am assuming if I had not gotten pregnant that would have been a 42 day cycle not 62. Unless you can ovulate 30 days before a period I have been trying to lose some weight so maybe it was that. Anyway, my point is I thought it was impossible and we even decided to stop trying for a while then I found out I was pregnant. So absolutely possible to get pregnant naturally.
The thing that led to me being diagnosed was not getting a period in April last year, I went three months with no bleeding. They gave me a course of provera which seemed to start things off again but I still had the long cycles.
They say using OPKs isn’t accurate for PCOS but I would do it for a couple of cycles anyway and see what you’re working with- if you only get one peak per cycle then it can be a good indicator of when to have sex- my doctor told me to not bother and just have sex every other day No thanks lol
So my advice- tell the doctor you are trying and get them to confirm when they will refer you to fertility. Track your cycles and see what you can gleam from that- OPKs and bbt. And try the natural PCOS ‘remedy’ which is healthy eating and exercise if you have any weight to lose. It will be ok xx

Thank you for your reply! It all started because I had a period in September, then nothing until the end of December and have had nothing since then. I contacted the doctors in November and they gave me the whole “it’s just your body getting used to no contraception” which felt a bit off as I came off at the start of 2020. So just plodded along, and then at the end of January I had enough so went back which is when they agreed to do the tests.

I have a “normal” BMI so not considered overweight and my doctor said this is probably why it was overlooked (by a different doctor) as PCOS.
I’m glad I finally have an answer - even if it’s the answer I don’t want but at least there are options.

My doctor said they will refer me to fertility and to keep trying until then, I’ll definitely invest in some OPKs for when my husband returns from his deployment (in 2 weeks!). I did lie and tell the doctor I’ve been trying every month for a year because I know they probably wouldn’t have referred me if I was completely honest.

I will keep my head up and keep trying! xx

 

[calmyourritas]

not long to go then When are you testing/period due?

My app says I’m due on Monday but it’s not always exactly right. I want to wait as long as possible!

 

[JLXRD]

After mentioning here, I got some ovulation tests yesterday. The one I took yesterday there was absolutely nothing, just the one dark line. Then today one dark line and one VERY faint second line... so I guess I can take that as a positive that at least something is happening in my body somewhere

The apps are all predicting I would ovulate in 7 days but of course as this is my first month off the pill I have zero idea if they are right but I’m hoping if the second line is a bit darker again tomorrow then maybe they are not far off?

(Someone feel free to tell me if I’m reading the tests wrong though.) I took it as when you have two evenish dark lines then you are just about to ovulate then after you do the second will go fainter again? But also read that some people have a gradual build and some a rapid spike, so who knows if I should take it as positive or not really.

Honestly feel like a clueless teenage on all this and learning about it all, wish they had covered it a bit more or it was spoken about more really!

 

[calmyourritas]

After asking you guys for advice over the weekend - I’ve got a telephone appointment later in the week with the practice Sister. I’m feeling a lot more positive about this appointment, as she is the nurse practitioner rather than a GP she seems to have a lot more time to go through everything with the patients rather than rushing to get you out the door. Also pre covid all the oldies rave about her in the waiting room fingers crossed she can refer me for some tests

Ahh fabulous keep us updated!

oh that’s good! I always found the nurses (when I went for a pill check) always had a little more time/sympathy so got my fingers crossed for you.

how is everyone holding up?

Feel a bit crampy again today!!! Feel like my body is playing tricks on me! How are you?

 

[Lola UK]

I’m really hoping I’m pregnant before I’m offered it, that way I don’t have to make the decision!
I don’t know how I feel about taking it yet, but I’d also feel like I need to justify why I didn’t take it if I didn’t, and I don’t want to share with everyone that I’m TTC.

(I’m a teacher so it’s a question I would definitely be asked)

Hopefully you do fall pregnant before you’re offered If not, I would just say to people as you hope to have children in the future, and affects on fertility are unknown you aren’t going to have it yet.