TTC #4

[cecedoon1]

11DPO, fighting the urge to test but as another poster said I’d rather get my Period thAn another negative.

 

[GlennCoco]

The only time I'm pleased to see AF has been today and that's only because she went missing last month and I'm presuming it was due to my 2nd covid jab / stress. So hopefully now she has arrived this might mean that things are back on track now with TTC

 

[MrsWolf]

Guys. I’m freaking out. My period still hadn’t come so I just did another FRER…. I’m too scared to get excited after last time. I daren’t even tell my partner and get his hopes up in case it doesn’t stick. I went out at the weekend and now I’m feeling so guilty about it

Spoiler: Preg test

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I normally have a rush of jealousy whenever I see a BFP but this has filled me with such joy!

I have everything crossed for you lovely! Wishing you all the best

 

[Spencerskates]

AF arrived with a vengeance today - cycle 37, let’s go!

 

[JLXRD]

I think I’m having a chemical well.. I know I am.
I feel so stupid for getting so excited in the first place. We told our parents as it’s our first baby/pregnancy and I wouldn’t be able to keep it away from them as we see them so often. My husbands had to go to work today so I’m home alone to ride this out, I can’t stop crying . I just really want to have a baby… how soon can we start trying again?

I’m so sorry, I’ve had 2 chemicals the last 3 months and I know how heart breaking it is. Don’t feel bad that you told people, having support is so important and also when people know what you’re going through it stops a lot of comments that can be hurtful unintentionally (eg when will you be having a baby then, better hurry up, etc).

You can try again as soon as you stop bleeding but please make sure you give yourself time to work through the emotions you’re feeling and are 100% ready. I know the feeling of just wishing you were pregnant again is so strong but you need to put your well being first Thinking of you and sending hugs. There is a very supportive baby loss and miscarriage thread if you would like to discuss the way you’re feeling, lots of lovely ladies there.

 

[Honeybeetea]

I'm out too for this month

However, I am going to try and take the positive that AF has arrived ON THE DAY SHE WAS DUE for the first time in months! Going to allow myself a cry, grab a bottle of wine and try again next month!

I've learned this month that not testing before AF works much better for me mentally - the constant negatives were draining - let alone the money I've saved not buying multiple tests!

Hope everyone else is hanging on in there! Fingers crossed to everyone for this/next cycle xx

 

[JLXRD]

This is a bit TMI but thought this was probably the best place to ask, nothing feels a too far on this thread, ha!

I’ve been researching why I might not get much fertile CM and one of the suggestions was candida/thrush, so I’m taking some candida support capsules and have used a thrush pessary. Has anyone ever used the canesten pessary before? If so, how long did it take to go back to normal afterwards? I used the pessary on wednesday night, noticed a lot of chalky discharge as advised yesterday and still a little bit today. Is it normal to also feel more ‘wet’ afterwards? It’s not just the chalkiness from the pessary, it’s quite a lot!

I have used these and yes it’s totally normal.

I will say though that if you had a case of thrush which was bad enough to affect your cm I think you would have known about it.

(and by known about it mean because you would be VERY itchy soz guys but it’s true)

 

[Shivla]

*tw - talk of miscarraige*
Hi everyone. I think I might be around 10 dpo. I had a miscarraige end of September and my partner and I wanted to try again ASAP. I was tracking ovulation but it remained high but with a very high spike 2 weeks after the miscarraige. I noticed a few symptoms and we DTD a few times anyway and since then just in case so fingers crossed… then I’ve just got to figure out if it’s old hcg or new

 

[MrsWolf]

Been a bit quiet on this thread recently but just wanted to say I hope you’re all okay

I’m on cycle day 59 and no sign of a BFP or even a slight peak on an OPK. Still waiting for my call from fertility but nothing! Just feel so deflated right now

 

[MrsWolf]

Am I clutching at straws here?

Spoiler

 

[kindregrets]

Sending you hugs. Whilst the bleeding could mean a chemical, it could also just be a light bleed. Have you taken another test, with my chemicals/losses, the line has gotten lighter before I started bleeding, so it’s normally quite a good indicator.

If it’s still positive or darker then it could just be a bit of light bleeding which can be common in early pregnancy. If it’s lighter or negative then it sadly is probably a chemical. Keeping my fingers crossed for you

Thank you <3
I haven't taken another test, I'm bleeding a lot and I'm going to wait until I get the results of the bloodwork and maybe just wait until the bleeding has stopped completely. I'm not sure if I can handle another test right now, whether it's going to be positive or negative.

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

I'm not sure if this is the right thread or not but looking for some unbiased perspective on my circumstances:

In short I've got a daughter who was conceived (very luckily) with no bother or complications. After her I went on to miscarry 5 times over a period of years, I did find them as most people do both physically and emotionally hard. My husband was good, but he's not the emotional sort and I know it didn't affect him in the way it affected me - he didn't like the way it impacted me if that makes sense. Drs kept dismissing there was an issue because I already had a daughter until loss number 4. when I had investigations done, they found a womb abnormality where by I had a solid wall separating the womb in two - the consultant couldn't fathom how I had conceived a child and said if he'd seen me not knowing he would have said I'd be highly unlikely to carry a child. anyway summer 2019 I had the op to break the wall down.. was advised to leave it a few months to heal but the consultant was confident and said come see me next year with your baby.. we started trying again at the Christmas but by the time COVID hit in the March we just stopped. my husband became quite depressed as he had work issues and we basically stopped intercourse. I fell pregnant once in the spring but it was a chemical pregnancy (all my other losses have been at 10-12 weeks). Last year with my husband depressed, lack of trying etc I got fed up of putting my life on hold for another child, enrolled in a course in college and fast forward to this year I'm now in university... my husband is now better mentally (although winter is always hard for him because he has SAD). I'm worried that I've gone along with the course, now in uni etc as a distraction and I'll wake up in 3 years time and my one child will be double digits, my husband will be mid 40's (I'm 10 years younger than him) and I'll have missed the boat - husband never wanted to be "an old dad" and before the losses would say he didn't want anymore children after turning 40, which he then stopped saying as we approached that milestone for him and I was still in the middle of my miscarriage.

Do I learn to be happy with my one miracle child (who I am honestly so grateful for) or do I give it one more go before that chapter closes? I just feel like after my operation I didn't give it a solid go (pretty much 3 months and caught on the 3rd which we lost straight away). or is a 8-9 year age gap too big anyway..

Oh that's so much to consider. Poor you having to think about it all.

If you were to become pregnant would you have to end your course or would you carry on? Would you lose out a lot financially if you packed in?

Do you know where your husband stands on the matter? Is it something you've discussed recently?

It's clear from your post that a big part of you wants to try again. For what it's worth I don't think you should let any age gap put you off. I'd say there are probably pros and cons to any age gap. I think you need to sit down with your husband and have a good chat about how you both feel about it.

Do you think you could set yourself a time frame without it causing you too much stress? Say you'll try again, but if it hasn't happened by X date then you'll stop and accept that chapter is closed. Some people might find it helps, but I get that for some it might be too much pressure.

 

[fishsticks]

I think I'm 11/12dpo. Blood tinged CM today, had cramps for the last 4 days. Not sure if its implantation bleeding or not. Frer was negative, but thought I could see something on the easy@home ones from yday and today.

Confused. Wish our body would print us out a report of what's going on every morning.

 

[cecedoon1]

Did a test there at approx 10DPO only because I’m going out tonight and want to drink guilt free. And even tho I know it’s an absolute no hope that negative test still stings.

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

I'm 9dpo and itching to test. I know it's too early but I can't stop thinking about it

If I DM someone my address will you come round and slap some sense into me??

 

[elizabeth281]

Hi all first time posting but I've been following this thread for a little while and have found it so helpful reading everyone's messages on here. Currently 5/6DPO after a chemical last month and finding this wait really tricky but trying to keep busy.

 

[Spencerskates]

It's having sex every other day and then every day around ovulation and then every other day again.

Would this be impossible for anyone else?
My partner works shifts and we’re both often exhausted with work and there are times were we don’t see each other awake! I worry that we don’t have enough sex, and I’m jealous of people who work ‘normal’ jobs and can just do this without thinking.

 

[annabananaw10]

TW: loss

Hi gang, I am slowly dipping my toe back into the TTC waters. I unfortunately had a miscarriage after first BFP and thankfully I had an almost perfect cycle after (ovulated on time, long enough luteal period and AF arrived on time) so I am thinking about trying again in this cycle or the next.

I am seeing my OB/GYN so I’ll follow their advice but I think they will encourage me to start again given I have endometriosis.

 

[grumpycat]

I want to ask this but i sincerely don't want to come across as insensitive etc. And I'm genuinely sorry for the girls who got their hopes up with positives and then dashed for various reasons because that's heart breaking and i hope you are looking after yourselves.
My question is, these pregnancy strips etc you use trying to see a line or a faint line comparing to evap lines and so on..... why don't you use a digital test? Christ knows they're more expensive but there's zero room for interpretation then, it's either pregnant or not? I ask because those faint lines can be cruel and get hopes up?

Digital tests usually are taken after you miss your period and aren’t as sensitive as earlier tests.

The question is yes, if you waited til after your period you might not have realised it was a chemical pregnancy but if your cycle is long/all over the place it’s easier to use cheaper, more sensitive tests.

Usually if you are TTC then you are actively looking so will test earlier. It’s much easier said than done to wait until a missed period as the TWo week wait is torture enough!

 

[Dipdab]

I'm kind of in the same boat. My son turned 2 in july, and I got pregnant with him in October. We started for Letrozole again this cycle and I should be ovulating by the end of the week. Now our son was due August 1st, but we had a scheduled C-section July 8th. I'm not sure how it's going to go with 2 birthdays that close.

I get concerns from Saving, planning point of view. But from child's perspective: Me and my sister are exactly 5 years and 1 day apart. It was never an issue growing up as my mum always made sure we each had our own separate day, cake, party etc. Now we’re adults we love have birthdays together and doing something special for them. X