I used to work in nursing homes while I was at uni and I've loads of stories!
I worked permanent nights in this one home and everyone would tell me about various experiences which I would laugh off. A new carer (A) came to work with us and she was really in to the spiritualist side of things. Normally we would have the TV on low in the lounge at night for a bit of background noise. A didn't like the TV on because she liked to hear what was going on.
One morning around 4am we were chatting quietly and mid conversation I could hear someone whistling a tune in the far corner of the room. I stopped talking and so did A. I asked her had she heard what I'd heard and she smiled and nodded and told me not to be scared. I jumped up and went to that corner and felt an icy chill. I then opened the curtains thinking it might have been a dog walker but it was still pitch black and the whistling was too clear and close to be outside. Anyway I settled myself down and didn't think too much about it.
Fast forward a few weeks and A was sitting on the desk in the landing and another colleague (B) was leaning against the door frame. A told B not to move because somebody was behind her. B had worked there a long time so asked A to describe the figure. A described a short, stooped man, a bald head with wispy white hairs, glasses, wearing navy striped pyjamas, brown slippers and using a walking stick. B said that it sounded awfully like John Doe as he used to shuffle around and whistle to himself.. A then told B that it was indeed John Doe as he was smiling and nodding. Now we had a name and John must have felt more comfortable so we would hear whistling a lot more and acknowledge his presence.
One night I was working with an agency carer who hadn't been to the home before and so I had been running round showing her what to do. Agency weren't allowed to fill in the paperwork so I was busy filling it in amidst delegating other tasks to her. John had a habit of always whistling either behind me, or into my ear (he must have known it freaked me out a bit). Anyway he must have been sitting in the chair beside me and was trying to catch my attention and I was ignoring him. He kept whistling at me and I said out loud "not tonight John, I haven't time for you." I never heard him again after that even though other girls continued to hear him.
Interestingly about a year before we heard John whistling the nurse came flying round to us one night and told us off for not having someone in bed. We then walked round to the other lounge with her and there was no-one there. She said that when she had walked past there was a man sitting there with navy striped pyjamas and a walking stick and she thought to herself how much the man resembled John Doe. Turns out John must have been having a rest!
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One room downstairs was a shared room and there were two sisters who shared the room. A curtain divided the room. Day staff would always comment on how the far side of the room beyond the curtain would always be icy cold, even with the window closed and the radiator full blast. The sister that slept on that side always appeared slightly unsettled.
One of the managers had raced down the corridor one day as she heard a primal scream coming from that room and when she went opened the door the curtain divider was billowing and the screaming got louder and louder until it ceased and the curtain dropped. The window was closed and no-one was in the room.
The sister closest to the window passed away first. Interestingly that side of the room didn't feel as icy after the priest had been for her last rites.
The other sister wasn't doing too well and the priest had been to deliver her last rites. We took it in turns to sit with her as her family weren't able to sit. About 1 in the morning she suddenly opened her eyes. The nurse (C) who was sitting with her asked her if she was ok and she nodded. C told her she was just going to nip to the loo and to the kitchen to get a coffee and that I would be sitting with her for a while. This lady barely spoke but she took C's hand and said "no you stay." She looked over C's left shoulder and said "but you can go." C then told her she would stay with her and the lady would keep looking over C's shoulder and saying "you can go now." Anyway the lady turned a corner and lived for about another 9 months. After doing some research it looks like the lady's collector had come for her but she just wasn't ready to pass over yet! It was the strangest thing I've ever witnessed!
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My great uncle who I was very close to passed away suddenly 7 years ago. I was naturally very upset and still to this day have not come to terms with his death. Anyway, he was a great big tall man (6 foot 8 1/2) and he was an electrician. The running joke was always the fact that he didn't need a stepladder to change lightbulbs. About a week after his death I was really struggling and had cried myself to sleep and saying out loud that I wanted a sign that he was with me.
I was working days in a different nursing home and every room I went in to the next morning, the light bulbs blew. This continued most of the day, even bulbs that had been changed and the handyman was beginning to think there was a problem with the wiring. I went home that night and switched on my bedroom light and it blew too. I started laughing for the first time since his death and said out loud that it wasn't funny anymore and I'd got the point thank you very much. Bulbs stopped blowing then but even now, if I'm feeling particularly sad or missing him a lot a bulb always goes.
Sorry for the long post!
