Toddler advice thread #4

[Definitelyme]

I’m finding it really hard being a parent lately. I’m trying to be patient and understanding but my little boy is being a bit hard work. I don’t know if it’s because of his arm or just in general but he’s whining a lot. Gets really grumpy in the afternoon and I find myself stressing at him a bit and then I feel terrible afterwards. Trying to give him ibuprofen at bedtime cos his arm was a bit sore and he was fighting me and spat it out in the end and then screamed a little afterwards. He went to bed ok and was giggling before bed but I just feel so stressed out. It was his first day back at nursery today and I was soo tense all day incase they rang me. I picked him up they said he fell on it today outside . We’re both a bit of a mess . They’ve got a small climbing frame that they go on outside after lunch and they didn’t let him on it of course and they said he got upset and I just feel so bad for him. He’s so fed up and so am I . Just feel I needed a bit of a rant

Is he hungry mid afternoon? My 4yo has a real dip in the afternoons when she is tired anyway, but when her bloody sugar dips she can get really cross. A good, filling, snack really helps even her out.

 

[al255]

My 3yo is also a 7.15 riser but this week has been waking earlier. Around 6.15, but it’s because the mornings are brighter

I think the birds might be waking her,we’ve got loads of trees at the back of our house. Her room is pitch black even in the day time with the blind and curtains closed so i can’t blame the light it’s just been one of those weeks! Didn’t help matters having to go into hospital for a general anaesthetic I’ve felt awful all week ‍

 

[PillowsofFluff]

My daughter goes to a childminder 3 days a week. We get the 30 hours funding but split across the whole year, so its about 20.5 hrs a week or something like that. I drop off at 8am and pick up just before 4.30pm so she does a little more than 8 hours a day. We end up paying for about half a day a week and our bill is now just over £100 a month, including all food (I provide nappies and that's it). Some of the amounts you guys are paying makes me

 

[al255]

It's EVERY night though and is becoming extremely tiring I've never expected him to sleep through the night, especially not every night but he doesn't sleep through at all.

I find putting the humidifier on in my daughters room helps her go into a deeper sleep and I turn it off when I’m going to bed. I know how you feel, my child never slept through the night until 2 years old, she was constantly waking up. She was such a good napper though but it’s hard work even so

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

Haha yes you do.
I was confused thinking pants=underwear.
Thought you were putting underwear over the pull ups

Hahah. No I just call trousers pants 🥲

 

[WhatABore]

She's had the flu spray and it's not made a difference - gutted!

On that note, she'll be 3 and 4 months next week, and I haven't heard anything about her preschool jabs. Should I have heard by now or do you think the process starts once she hits that age?

We didn't hear anything until she'd already got past that age.
I called about them and they said they don't send them out until they hit that age.

 

[Jellybean093]

Switching nurseries for my little one from September to be closer to home and get into our local primary. Why do I feel so scared to tell his current nursery?! I daren’t tell them

Also - we are due baby number 2 very soon. How did people introduce their eldests to the babies? Did they visit in hospital or when you got home?

I was also scared to tell my sons preschool, because he loves it and they love him

Baby 2 - my eldest was at her dads so met at home when she came home later that day
Baby 3 - 1&2 came to the hospital to meet baby
Baby 4 - I was in hospital for 24 hrs after having him, and it was Christmas Eve, so they met him Christmas morning, just before we went to own presents

 

[WhatABore]

They would be able to take that off. We have a wrist strap and I've told them we are going to use that if they can't walk next to me nicely.

The backpacks have chest clips so they can't undo them

 

[al255]

Hi everyone,
Looking for some advice please! My daughters 21 months and quite chatty, she’s copying everything atm and has picked up a new phrase she’s saying For fucks sake alot! I’ve been ignoring it and recently saying oh dear when she says it to try and get her to replace the phrase but it doesn’t seem to be working. Luckily she’s only been saying it when she’s home usually when she’s pretending on the phone or when she drops something. I feel so embarrassed as she’s obviously copying how we’ve used it.. I didn’t think we swore that much but it seems we must do!

Oh don’t worry! I swear so much and it’s an awful habit of mine, mini A is 3 and she’s only ever copied “fuck sake” once when I was driving.. I told her it’s a naughty word and mummy was naughty for saying it. She hasn’t said it again… just keep correcting her! I tell myself I need to swear less though or else she will be going to school saying swear words lol

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

So, I have 2 friends with kids the same age, and I’m like when we all meet as their kids argue while my 3yo is off in his own little world. It is getting slightly better though, but there is a bit of snatching and stuff going on, and I just have to tell mine to let them have it for a minute, as I know he won’t tantrum like they will (even if he had it first and/or it’s his toys

I thought maybe it would be best to meet at a park or something next time so it’s neutral ground.
They said she doesn’t get as much attention now they have the other baby and they think that’s why she’s like that. It’s hard work isn’t it
more trouble than it’s worth really!!
Oh and they said she has tantrums cos she’s so smart!!! Is that true

 

[Jellybean093]

Yeah that is annoying. But men are always like that . At least now nursery can tick the box that says he doesn’t need it. Feel like there is so much criteria they work towards and sometimes nursery children just need more time imo!

No , I’m not really sure yet. We’ve had four sessions. Three with the old one and 1 with the new one.
But this one has said she actually works with the school we’ve chosen which is so good it means he can get to know her and she can work with him properly!! They haven’t said how long between appointments yet.

Ah, that’s good. All it takes is for a switch of person to do some good! Have you noticed any changes?

 

[peachhes]

Hi everyone

Not sure if my 4yo still counts as a toddler but I can’t find the answer to my question and it’s more of a reassurance thing

My boy is autistic and his diet is very poor. I recently bought some vitamin drops for him, and at the moment I’m giving him (when I remember/when he actually finishes the juice I pop it in) 1ml of multivitamin each day, then alternate days 1ml of an immune support vitamin and 1ml of Omega 3.

I’m now worrying I’m giving him too much?! No idea why it just popped in to my head.
He has the multi vit daily and the other two alongside on alternate days. I am a bit of an over thinker
Pls no mumsnet style responses of you need to make him eat blah blah I came here because Tattle tends to be a bit nicer than MN

 

[I’mThankyou_]

This is what nursery said…

I don’t understand it at all and it’s completely baffling me.. she’s only eligible for 13.7 hours a week but you can only use a maximum of 10 of the hours a day

She’s going two full days all year round x

Could it be they have already hit their limit of funded places?
They run at a loss with funded hours so are allocating her some but not all?

 

[al255]

Could you cut down the amount you wash her hair?
Daily hair washing isn't good for anyones hair

Not really in summer, she’s so sweaty from nursery with wearing a hat and running round and she doesn’t have lots of hair to wash. It’s not even shoulder length it just doesn’t grow! She wanted a plait in her hair this morning like the witch from ro on the broom story and this is how short it is. In winter/spring I don’t wash her her daily, every other day. Just summer cos she’s sweaty

 

[Hairraiser]

Do ask him. Tell him it’s time to go to the toilet. My son used to be naked all the time and just before I officially started potty training him, he would hold his wee in then wee in his nappy as soon as I put one on for nap/bed time.
He is only 2, and is still very young to be potty trained
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But HOW do you get it on both legs when one leg has clothes on? I feel you’re making more work for yourself

Thank you for your reply
Yeah I did think 2 was young, but I noticed he started saying poo poo before he had a poo, he would say ‘ew’ everytime he did it in his nappy so I took that as he was ready to start trying.
im just gonna have to keep as I am and keep encouraging him until he tells me he needs to use the potty.
I know il get there eventually but I’ve been like this through every milestone, worry worry and worry some more.

 

[LilyRose1234]

I have quiet a few kids clothes.
They come out slightly on the smaller side I think. But the quality has always been fine!

Thank you! Will give it a go!

 

[WhatABore]

I feel like I'm always in here complaining about sleep but I'm at my wits end and don't know what to do
So we've gone from waking once or twice a night, which I thought was probably nightmares, to waking every hour - honestly it's worse than when she was a newborn. It's like she wakes up, realises she's alone and just runs to her gate hysterical. We get no time alone in the evenings now as one of us has to go and calm her down constantly and I'm just beside myself. It's really getting me down. I just don't know how to deal with it, when she was a baby I would let her just cry it out, but that's harder to do now she's in a bed

How do you do bedtime?
Are you there until she falls asleep?

 

[al255]

Everyone’s answer will be different, and there is no right or wrong. If you think it’s an issue on rubbish weather days then maybe make a list of a few places to go out to on those days so you don’t fall back on it?

I don’t think it’s an issue I was just wondering! I’m aware there’s lots of factors involved but just a general amount. It’s nice to have rainy days inside as it’s rare we spend a full day indoors tbh!

 

[watermelon sugar]

I don’t even think I can call mine a toddler anymore

Pre schooler sound very old doesn’t it

 

[al255]

In Spain atm and I’m not shocked at how many school kids there are. I don’t blame parents for taking them out. I’m talking 7, 8 year olds!

I got talking to a lady and she said well school close atleast 5 days a year for inset days so what’s the difference between that and my child being sat at home bored watching tv! Not to mention strikes.

mini A starts school next September so May 2025 we will come away in May like we usually do. It’s cheaper to pay the £120 fine and come abroad than it is to go in school hols.

does anyone else take their kids out for hols?