Toddler advice thread #4

[jackieweaver’sauthority]

We had quite a few issues with my daughters care, like them letting her spend the day in soiled trousers after an accident when she had spares, using the words ‘naughty’ to her when she had an accident, she told me some of the workers were ‘cross with her’ and when I asked what she meant she said they got cross when she had an accident. Lots of these little incidents and we’d mention it to the staff at the door and they’d always promise to address it. But then there was a day where there was a ‘final straw’ incident so I contacted the manager via email and basically she wasn’t aware of any of our previous complaints, which was a massive red flag to me (as the staff weren’t following proper reporting procedures but instead covering for each other which is a huge safeguarding issue). Once it was in writing, the manager had to address it officially whereas when we had just spoken at the door, they’d been able to dismiss it/not address it. So I’d just make sure any issues you’ve spoken about are also written down in some way so you have a record of it and they’re accountable for it

I’m so sorry that sounds awful. I hope things are better now. Your poor little girl. Then getting cross with her just hurts my heart I can’t imagine how that felt for her.

 

[watermelon sugar]

When I asked him the other day if he did he was like oh I forgot. Maybe if I drill into him enough he’ll remember when it’s really summer

My fella fortunately remembers more than me It’s the back of the neck I’m always cautious about cos mini melon always wears caps

 

[jackieweaver’sauthority]

Thank you, it broke my heart too. We’ve moved her to another setting now and whilst she never appeared to be unhappy at the old one she’s really happy at the new one and I completely trust them

I’m so glad it worked out for you
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For what it’s worth, I think it’s better for her to be at home with you than in the wrong setting for her, and that room at least doesn’t sound like the place for her. Imagine calling a toddler spiteful ffs, breaks my heart for you! If you’re lucky enough to be in a position to keep her off with you until she starts school that might be a good way to go rather than her associating leaving you with going somewhere she hates, better to wait until she can associate it with something positive!

Thank you, I agree. I’m going to do some research the next few days and plan how it will look with being at home with the two of them. In my heart I think it’s the right decision. There is quite a big homeschooling community here and there is lots of things put on by the children’s centre to prepare for school readiness which I can take her to. I also could enrol her in the forest school for one day a week. That will cost me as not funded but would be a good opportunity for her.

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

I know I am pretty livid. Cos she hasn’t replied to my email I am going to say something when I get him. The one who forgot is the one in charge!!. It’s not the first time he’s come out with a poo in his nappy either. I hate the thought of him sitting there soiled and them not noticing!!! Bloody hell it’s their job

 

[jackieweaver’sauthority]

From personal experience, get your complaint to them in writing too, along with their response

Oh really. What happened with you if you don’t mind me asking. This is all new to me. Should I email them outplaying my concerns and ask for a meeting or is a WhatsApp message ok? We usually use WhatsApp to talk.

 

[watermelon sugar]

Can we just breathe a sigh of relief for my 3 year old, the fussiest eater when it comes to frozen freezer stuff. She’s finally eating potato waffles she hates beige food! She’s starving after swimming so lunch is always abit earlier and she wants waffles and beans with fruit amazing LOL smiley faces next lol..

Alphabites are a winner for my son he likes saying what he’s gonna eat

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

Oh man, I only wash my daughter's hair once a week. She hates it, so I do it as little as possible

I only wash my own once a week twice tops. Honestly it sounds gross but my hair just doesn’t need washing it’s odd
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Also my little one just told me to go away . Thanks v much darling

 

[PillowsofFluff]

Same for mine.the first ones when he was a baby he cried for hours after!! And I think each time he has been unsettled and a temp. I’m glad they’re over for a good few years now

Oh I know, same. When they told me she wouldn't have to have any more until high school, I was like Hallelujah

 

[Definitelyme]

Switching nurseries for my little one from September to be closer to home and get into our local primary. Why do I feel so scared to tell his current nursery?! I daren’t tell them

Also - we are sue baby number 2 very soon. How did people introduce their eldests to the babies? Did they visit in hospital or when you got home?

With no2 and no3 they visited in hospital the day after the birth. No4 was Covid times so just at home. It didn’t make much difference either way, but I was keen they got to meet asap.

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

Blimey, what age do your kids start school? Or is this what is called reception?

Genuinely curious as most kids in Scotland don't start school until they're usually 5. You do get some kids turning 5 in the first term though.

It is reception. Mines at nursery full time so it’ll be no different for him really he’s already used to 5 days a week.
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such a nerve wracking process. Got third choice for our eldest three years ago and this time next year I’ll be finding out my youngest schools are so oversubscribed here it is literally carnage on admissions day

Oh god really. We put all three down as ones we would have been happy with. We got him christened as well just to be double sure as all three schools are catholic
I’m dreading him starting 🫠. He’s going to be going once a week soon to get used to the new environment. This is the sencos advice

 

[al255]

Mini A didn’t half have as many ice creams yesterday, I just stuck to water and the odd slush and no accident at night. She woke me up twice to go for a wee too.

 

[LilyRose1234]

Imagine being cross because you bit yourself and it hurt

We have a knife like this. It allows them to cut easier stuff (mushroom, banana, strawberries etc) really easily, but the blade isn’t sharp enough to cut them. I do sometimes use it myself if all the knives are in the dishwasher

Oh that looks amazing! Will definitely get one of those! Think I’m going to get a little step ladder tower thing too so she can stand at the worktop.

Hahaha I know, I was like what did you expect pal toddler tantrums are hilarious though, she had some ice in a cup at the park earlier (leftover from my drink, I’m not limiting her to ice only haha), and she dropped a cube which obviously started to melt, and was inconsolable because her ice cube had melted despite the fact there were at least 5 more in the cup

 

[Jellybean093]

I thought maybe it would be best to meet at a park or something next time so it’s neutral ground.
They said she doesn’t get as much attention now they have the other baby and they think that’s why she’s like that. It’s hard work isn’t it
more trouble than it’s worth really!!
Oh and they said she has tantrums cos she’s so smart!!! Is that true

Oh, I’ve never heard of that before! My 3yo is quite smart (minus the speech) and he doesn’t tantrum a lot. He’s started stamping his feet a bit, but I think that’s because of half term and he needs to be at school

 

[al255]

Hi everyone, I’m new to this thread, still lingering on the new baby/boddler thread (I’m in denial basically haha). Just wondering where do you even start with potty training?!

My 21 month old has started to show signs of needing the toilet (if she’s nappy free she’ll run and get a nappy for us to put on and then do a wee/poo) and I just have no idea where or when to start with it all?!

For me - I knew mini A was ready when she would comfortably do a wee or a poo on the potty / toilet. I tried in august 2022 when she was 2.5 years old and it was a disaster, she kept weeing in her pants and it made her wee more! Anyway, I tried again in October and it was a breeze, I’ve found if it’s stressful they aren’t ready. She needed to understand fully that we do a wee and poo in potty and it’s taken till now for her to be consistently dry and use the toilet for a poo etc. Once they get used to the feeling of their bladder being full & the feeling of a poo that’s when it clicks properly and less accident occur.

We still use a pull up at night time though and she’s dry every morning, it hasn’t confused her in any way, I’d rather not just change sheets incase there the off chance she has a wee in her sleep!

I’d try her with some nappy free time and get her a potty and explain that we use potty for wee and poo and see how she gets on. Some people prefer to go straight to the toilet with a toddler seat and a step (we’ve got both as don’t have a downstairs toilet).

I wouldn’t rush it though or expect too much as in my eyes she’s still a baby and not even 2 years old yet. Mini A was confident at using her potty and I didn’t have to force it really, compared to in August when it was a disaster

 

[al255]

No he hasn’t. Not had anything for a few weeks. I thought could be the sun cream we’ve been using but not sure.
He has had heat rash before when he was younger but I didn’t think it was that warm yesterday to get it.
It’s gone now this morning thankfully. He keeps getting up 530 ish lately I miss winter

mini A was up at 6:15 Monday and 6:30am today, she’s been exhausted by 7:15pm and that’s not helping her early wake ups! I’m hoping she sleeps in tomorrow cos she’s just gunna be a right grump all day otherwise 5:30am is so early, I’d be a zombie lol

 

[Hushpuppy]

Switching nurseries for my little one from September to be closer to home and get into our local primary. Why do I feel so scared to tell his current nursery?! I daren’t tell them

Also - we are due baby number 2 very soon. How did people introduce their eldests to the babies? Did they visit in hospital or when you got home?

We didn't bring my son into hospital to meet his baby brother because siblings were only allowed to visit for 1 hour in our hospital and we thought he was too young to understand why he could see us then have the leave and it would upset him. If he was older and could understand I would have had him visit x

 

[givemethegossx]

We turned her cot into a bed and brought it in with us so she can get used to it again, as she’s been in our bed for about 8 months, and then once she’s comfortable in her bed we’ll move it back into her room.

yeah I've been thinking maybe it's time to turn it into a bed! she does sleep in her cot every night i just have to put her in it once she's fallen asleep which is getting more difficult now she's getting bigger

 

[disillusionedbythegram]

Hi everyone, new to this thread and hoping I can gain some perspective.
I have a 3 (almost 4) yo girl, and she’s very recently started putting things in her mouth and chewing. I wouldn’t normally stop a behaviour that isn’t actually causing anyone any damage as I figure she just needs to get something out of her system but I’ve always been able to trust that she can keep herself safe in her playroom then the other day she came into the kitchen with a pen lid in her mouth and honestly my life flashed before my eyes. I definitely take for granted how (up until this point) reliable and mature she has been, and now I’m worried constantly that she’s going to put something in her mouth that she shouldn’t and choke. She hasn’t done this since the teething days of early toddlerhood, and she has all her teeth so I’m not sure what the reason is. When I point out what she’s doing and remind her not to she almost looks surprised and says sorry, as if she didn’t realise she was doing it.
I’m thinking of getting her a teether again so she knows she has something safe she can chew, but I’m concerned that it’s started so suddenly that there could be an underlying reason I’m not noticing or addressing. Anyone else experienced this?

 

[watermelon sugar]

Is it 3 years and 4 months they get their next jabs?

 

[al255]

Nope

I certainly don't remember mine coming through. I'd never know unless I looked in the mirror.

The kids have never complained.
5yo was surprised to see her tooth growing the other day so she clearly can't reel it.

Wisdom teeth are the only ones people tend to have issues with I think

how bizarre that it doesn’t hurt them.. is it cos they’ve already moved down or something?! I don’t remember mine hurting actually!