Toddler advice thread #3

[strawberrysunshine_x]

So just trying to get mine to sit and do some colouring with me . He doesn’t want to and keeps getting up to ride his scuttle bug and dance. Sing is on in the background … he coloured one page and then used felt tip on his hand and wanted to paint hand prints . But I don’t have any paint.
I just worry about his development and early learning . He loves physical stuff like out Doors dancing and play doh/ paint but doesn’t wanna sit and write / colour.There’s kids in his pre school who are writing 1-6 already
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And I had another row with my mum on Sunday about potty training

 

[WeHadFunRight]

So just trying to get mine to sit and do some colouring with me . He doesn’t want to and keeps getting up to ride his scuttle bug and dance. Sing is on in the background … he coloured one page and then used felt tip on his hand and wanted to paint hand prints . But I don’t have any paint.
I just worry about his development and early learning . He loves physical stuff like out Doors dancing and play doh/ paint but doesn’t wanna sit and write / colour.There’s kids in his pre school who are writing 1-6 already
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And I had another row with my mum on Sunday about potty training

Please don’t worry about his mark making right now. Take a look at Play Hooray on instagram - when Joe Wicks was doing his father of the year stuff about making his kids sit down and do letter tracing she came out fighting in the most brilliant way over the fact it’s not the only way to develop their gross and fine motor skills. Their hands are still developing so they strengthen them in all sorts of ways at this age.

he will be stronger in other areas compared to the kids who are writing 1-6 anyway, so don’t sweat it.

ETA found the link to her reel:

 

[Definitelyme]

So just trying to get mine to sit and do some colouring with me . He doesn’t want to and keeps getting up to ride his scuttle bug and dance. Sing is on in the background … he coloured one page and then used felt tip on his hand and wanted to paint hand prints . But I don’t have any paint.
I just worry about his development and early learning . He loves physical stuff like out Doors dancing and play doh/ paint but doesn’t wanna sit and write / colour.There’s kids in his pre school who are writing 1-6 already
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And I had another row with my mum on Sunday about potty training

Have you tried other mark making ideas? There is so much more to mark making than just using pen on paper. Also work on hand strengthening activities to ensure he is physically ready to hold the pens.

 

[watermelon sugar]

And I had another row with my mum on Sunday about potty training

Re the potty training, I know your son is older than mine, mine is 3 in two weeks and we still haven’t potty trained, he isn’t interested. he’s done a wee by chance here and there but he screams when he sees the potty and says no and i genuinely believe he isn’t ready. i get snarky comments from my fellas Mum and uncle ALL the time but i just think stuff them. you know your child best and if he’s not ready he’s not ready and you and him will know when he is ready. You’re doing a fabulous job, don’t worry, his time to shine will come when he is ready, so what if other kids can do this and that before him, every child is unique and his time to shine will come eventually 🤍 Just shows your a fab Mum cos you are worried so much about him. It took me a lot of time to stop caring what other people think about my parenting but honestly it’s the best thing you can do. He won’t be in nappies for ever x

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

Please don’t worry about his mark making right now. Take a look at Play Hooray on instagram - when Joe Wicks was doing his father of the year stuff about making his kids sit down and do letter tracing she came out fighting in the most brilliant way over the fact it’s not the only way to develop their gross and fine motor skills. Their hands are still developing so they strengthen them in all sorts of ways at this age.

he will be stronger in other areas compared to the kids who are writing 1-6 anyway, so don’t sweat it.

ETA found the link to her reel:

Oh thanks. He likes most of these things anyway!! He loves the syringe that comes with the play doh so he will like that one. & he loves anything on a tuff tray. I just worry I’m not doing enough with him and that he’s not gonna be ready for school at all

 

[watermelon sugar]

Oh thanks. He likes most of these things anyway!! He loves the syringe that comes with the play doh so he will like that one. & he loves anything on a tuff tray. I just worry I’m not doing enough with him and that he’s not gonna be ready for school at all

You know what my son love doing, he loves dabbing a bingo dabber thing on paper. I’ll draw different sized circles and will ask him to dab in the circle and he’ll sit and doing it for ages but he gets so bored drawing. Does he have a chalk or white board? mine loves his as well, and those little boards with the pen and the shape you can draw on

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

Re the potty training, I know your son is older than mine, mine is 3 in two weeks and we still haven’t potty trained, he isn’t interested. he’s done a wee by chance here and there but he screams when he sees the potty and says no and i genuinely believe he isn’t ready. i get snarky comments from my fellas Mum and uncle ALL the time but i just think stuff them. you know your child best and if he’s not ready he’s not ready and you and him will know when he is ready. You’re doing a fabulous job, don’t worry, his time to shine will come when he is ready, so what if other kids can do this and that before him, every child is unique and his time to shine will come eventually 🤍 Just shows your a fab Mum cos you are worried so much about him. It took me a lot of time to stop caring what other people think about my parenting but honestly it’s the best thing you can do. He won’t be in nappies for ever x

Oh god this made me tear up . It’s just so hard work with my mum. I’ve been dreading seeing her!! At Christmas she said you’re off now get the potty out. Same for this week as she knows I’m off. When I posted the other week about him having a sore Willy I sent her the same msg and she put back his wee is too strong time to get the nappies off ( I swear she just makes stuff up) my fella went to get some top soil from her work on Sunday and he came back and said your mum said to get the nappies off. And then when I got there on Sunday she said straight away are the nappies coming off this week and I said don’t start. He’s my son I’ll decide and she said if schools said he had to be dry youd do it. It’s not just simple to do it is it!? Mine is like yours he will cry when I’ve tried putting under pants on him or if I leave him naked he’ll go and get a nappy. He just doesn’t understand yet
Thanks for your lovely msg xx
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Have you tried other mark making ideas? There is so much more to mark making than just using pen on paper. Also work on hand strengthening activities to ensure he is physically ready to hold the pens.

I think he’s fine holding a pen cos he used to really like colouring but now doesn’t ? He likes holding a paint brush and things like that too
I will look into other things. He’s just a doer he doesn’t like sitting he likes to be doing things all the time.

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

You know what my son love doing, he loves dabbing a bingo dabber thing on paper. I’ll draw different sized circles and will ask him to dab in the circle and he’ll sit and doing it for ages but he gets so bored drawing. Does he have a chalk or white board? mine loves his as well, and those little boards with the pen and the shape you can draw on

I got him some Dino stamps he did them a few times and just lost interest. I have a board with the pen and shapes and he got bored of that also! He did it loads and now isn’t really interested. He will sit and do a tiny bit of Crafts but not for long.

 

[watermelon sugar]

I got him some Dino stamps he did them a few times and just lost interest. I have a board with the pen and shapes and he got bored of that also! He did it loads and now isn’t really interested. He will sit and do a tiny bit of Crafts but not for long.

Mine is the same tbh He doesn’t have a long attention span when it comes to sitting down and writing/drawing. he’d much rather be up and playing in the garden or driving round on his ride on Thomas the tank, and there’s nothing wrong with that at all!

 

[Definitelyme]

Oh thanks. He likes most of these things anyway!! He loves the syringe that comes with the play doh so he will like that one. & he loves anything on a tuff tray. I just worry I’m not doing enough with him and that he’s not gonna be ready for school at all

When is he going to school? The things our school asks for us to try and do so they are ready are all to do with being independence eg putting on and zipping coat, putting on shoes correctly, using the toilet unaided, opening and closing lunchbox and the contents, washing hands. They are there to teach your children, we don’t need to send them able to do everything already.

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

When is he going to school? The things our school asks for us to try and do so they are ready are all to do with being independence eg putting on and zipping coat, putting on shoes correctly, using the toilet unaided, opening and closing lunchbox and the contents, washing hands. They are there to teach your children, we don’t need to send them able to do everything already.

He’s going in September. But he’s at pre school 5 days a week. He can put his coat on and off - can’t zip it up but can unZip it. He can put his shoes and wellies on. Sometimes needs help with his shoes to fasten them. Toilet can’t do. He washes hands as well. He’ll do that here at school and if i go to a toilet somewhere he’ll come with me and wash hands. I’m just worried because he is behind that’s all ( nursery have said so ) and I got a letter the other day saying he needs more assessment for EHCP and ive got a bad feeling he isn’t going to get it.

 

[watermelon sugar]

if your nearly 3 year old falls asleep at 10 past 4 in the afternoon, what would you do

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

if your nearly 3 year old falls asleep at 10 past 4 in the afternoon, what would you do

Mine did this the other Sunday. I let him have 30 mins and woke him up. He was fine
I’d say wake him!!

 

[watermelon sugar]

Mine did this the other Sunday. I let him have 30 mins and woke him up. He was fine
I’d say wake him!!

Ooh i’ll give him half an hour then. Usually he’s dead grouchy when he has a short nap so that’ll be fun what time did you put him to bed?

 

[strawberrysunshine_x]

Ooh i’ll give him half an hour then. Usually he’s dead grouchy when he has a short nap so that’ll be fun what time did you put him to bed?

I think i aimed for 8 but he only went to sleep just before 9
Mine used to be dead grouchy when I’d wake him but he’s not now. If he falls asleep in the car I wake him up and he just gets up and walks off. Hopefully he’ll be ok for you!!

 

[PillowsofFluff]

Hey guys. Just checking in as we have a poorly girl again 3 weeks since last bug wiped her out, she's picked something up again. Currently asleep on the sofa - god knows what that will mean for bedtime!
Thinking of contacting the doctor tomorrow just to see if I should get her checked? Since the scarlet fever in November, she's been constantly ill - one bug to the next, never really recovering from any of them. Every cough or cold seems to hit her so much harder as well. Before she would just soldier on, but now she has temps of 40 every time, sleeps for days on end and is just really poorly with them. I know kids get every bug going, but she's off sick more than she goes in nowadays, which doesn't seem right to me? I guess I'm thinking maybe she could be anaemic or needs her tonsils out or something? I don't really know what to think.

 

[watermelon sugar]

Hey guys. Just checking in as we have a poorly girl again 3 weeks since last bug wiped her out, she's picked something up again. Currently asleep on the sofa - god knows what that will mean for bedtime!
Thinking of contacting the doctor tomorrow just to see if I should get her checked? Since the scarlet fever in November, she's been constantly ill - one bug to the next, never really recovering from any of them. Every cough or cold seems to hit her so much harder as well. Before she would just soldier on, but now she has temps of 40 every time, sleeps for days on end and is just really poorly with them. I know kids get every bug going, but she's off sick more than she goes in nowadays, which doesn't seem right to me? I guess I'm thinking maybe she could be anaemic or needs her tonsils out or something? I don't really know what to think.

My toddler is sick a lot too, seems like he only just recovers then is ill again but with mine he has periods where he is ok, like at least a week or two and sometimes when he’s struck down with something it’s only a mild cough or cold. If you are really concerned trust your Mum instincts and ring the doctor

 

[I’mThankyou_]

Hey guys. Just checking in as we have a poorly girl again 3 weeks since last bug wiped her out, she's picked something up again. Currently asleep on the sofa - god knows what that will mean for bedtime!
Thinking of contacting the doctor tomorrow just to see if I should get her checked? Since the scarlet fever in November, she's been constantly ill - one bug to the next, never really recovering from any of them. Every cough or cold seems to hit her so much harder as well. Before she would just soldier on, but now she has temps of 40 every time, sleeps for days on end and is just really poorly with them. I know kids get every bug going, but she's off sick more than she goes in nowadays, which doesn't seem right to me? I guess I'm thinking maybe she could be anaemic or needs her tonsils out or something? I don't really know what to think.

Have you tried a multivitamin such as abidec to try and boost her immune system?
Unless there's a major issue being caused by tonsils they are reluctant to remove them.

 

[LittleB]

I’m sure this has been mentioned on here before but - advice for a 17 month old who keeps hitting please!

I have an older child who is 5, but I didn’t have any of this with him. He is much more quiet and placid.

My super boisterous second child has started hitting. It’s happening a lot, when he’s being held or he goes up to people and hits them.

We have tried using a stern ‘no’, we have tried ignoring, we have tried explaining and modelling ‘gentle’ hands. Nothing has seemed to work so far.

Any advice greatly appreciated, this is new territory for us!

 

[WeHadFunRight]

I’m sure this has been mentioned on here before but - advice for a 17 month old who keeps hitting please!

I have an older child who is 5, but I didn’t have any of this with him. He is much more quiet and placid.

My super boisterous second child has started hitting. It’s happening a lot, when he’s being held or he goes up to people and hits them.

We have tried using a stern ‘no’, we have tried ignoring, we have tried explaining and modelling ‘gentle’ hands. Nothing has seemed to work so far.

Any advice greatly appreciated, this is new territory for us!

From my experience you just have to keep going with the bib - “you hurt mummy, and that’s not kind… say sorry” - he will eventually stop. I actually don’t know why they do it and it’s possibly my least favourite stage tbh. God speed xx
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I’m sure this has been mentioned on here before but - advice for a 17 month old who keeps hitting please!

I have an older child who is 5, but I didn’t have any of this with him. He is much more quiet and placid.

My super boisterous second child has started hitting. It’s happening a lot, when he’s being held or he goes up to people and hits them.

We have tried using a stern ‘no’, we have tried ignoring, we have tried explaining and modelling ‘gentle’ hands. Nothing has seemed to work so far.

Any advice greatly appreciated, this is new territory for us!

This is quite a good article on hitting: https://www.healthline.com/health/parenting/toddler-hitting