So 2020/21 kicked my ass hard.
Had to postpone wedding twice and in the end broke up with fiance. Moved to a new country, clean slate, fresh start. All good…
I didn’t want to get in a new relationship but in March (a month after previous break up) i met my boyfriend. He was the best men I ever been with. He ticks all the boxes, even the ones I didn’t even know existed on my “list”.
here is the issue: a guy I met before him has been causing a lot of drama. Boyfriend got dragged into it too but for the best part he has been a champ about it.
then one day, my former landlord told him a bunch of crap about me: plot twist: the guy who’s been stalking me did reach out to my landlord too. My landlord had my bf’s phone number etc so if he had anything real, he could have contacted him while I still lived in his apartment or immediately after I moved out. Not weeks down the line.
something in bf snapped. I guess it was the fact that now he is getting dragged into this and he has 0 control.
we haven’t spoken in over two weeks. The main reason is that he is visiting family and there is 0 privacy and I said I don’t want to have serious conversations in texts and I’ll leave him be while he is with family.
in a day we will be in the same city again. And I want to talk to him. Sit down and talk things out like adults. I know he hasn’t moved on, I know he loves me, I know he is hurting too. How do I convince an extremely stubborn but very loving man, that we should at least have a conversation about what happened? I tried to just let it go and get on with my life and as days go by it’s just getting worse and worse.
Had to postpone wedding twice and in the end broke up with fiance. Moved to a new country, clean slate, fresh start. All good…
I didn’t want to get in a new relationship but in March (a month after previous break up) i met my boyfriend. He was the best men I ever been with. He ticks all the boxes, even the ones I didn’t even know existed on my “list”.
here is the issue: a guy I met before him has been causing a lot of drama. Boyfriend got dragged into it too but for the best part he has been a champ about it.
then one day, my former landlord told him a bunch of crap about me: plot twist: the guy who’s been stalking me did reach out to my landlord too. My landlord had my bf’s phone number etc so if he had anything real, he could have contacted him while I still lived in his apartment or immediately after I moved out. Not weeks down the line.
something in bf snapped. I guess it was the fact that now he is getting dragged into this and he has 0 control.
we haven’t spoken in over two weeks. The main reason is that he is visiting family and there is 0 privacy and I said I don’t want to have serious conversations in texts and I’ll leave him be while he is with family.
in a day we will be in the same city again. And I want to talk to him. Sit down and talk things out like adults. I know he hasn’t moved on, I know he loves me, I know he is hurting too. How do I convince an extremely stubborn but very loving man, that we should at least have a conversation about what happened? I tried to just let it go and get on with my life and as days go by it’s just getting worse and worse.