Ok so the thing is… it’s easy to say “just walk away”.
obviously I had no way to add every single detail into the post or the comments after.
so here is the thing: after I moved, I downloaded tinder, literally out of boredom. Started talking to guy1. He had a weird vibe but I chalked it up to cultural differences and I thought whatever, having a coffee with him can’t be that bad. I was wrong. He turned out to be an obsessive psycho.
I met guy2 who became my boyfriend. We were super casually dating at the beginning. Took us 5 dates to even kiss. When we first met we were still super limited by early curfews etc so the whole thing moved faster because we started staying at each other’s places otherwise we wouldn’t have been able to see each other at all.
we clicked like crazy. Our tastes are super similar but different enough that we can still show each other new things. We like the same type of music, movies, series, food, we have very similar lifestyles in general.
neither of us was looking for a super serious relationship but after about two months we both said this just works and it feels good and we make each other happy.
throughout the entire 5 months, guy1 tried his best to make my life living hell. Bf was amazing throughout the entire thing. So this is definitely not the first hurdle.
also it’s not like we have issues with each other. That’s what I find difficult to deal with and I think that’s the point everyone missed. It’s not like we have communication issues, our sex life sucks or we are just entirely different people. What I’m struggling with is an outside factor messing things up. Also it’s psychologically not exactly easy to process the fact that my stalker had “access” to me for months. I can imagine bf got scared of this too. He hasn’t been ghosting me. We did talk, he did ask for time, I did say that I will leave him alone while he is with family. So I didn’t reach out at all and I was not expecting him to either. I told him I don’t want to discuss this in texts and he 100% won’t while other people can overhear the conversation. He is in the middle of nowhere, stuck with family 24/7. We discussed what this visit will be like before tit hit the fan and he did say it will be 0 privacy for a week. I was never meant to go on this part of the trip.
when he left I sent one “safe travels” text to which he replied. So he was the last one to text me actually .
Basically all I want now is to say “hey you know I’ll be there for the weekend, I’m not doing so hot lately I friggin miss you like crazy can we please talk” without sounding like the bashit crazy desperate moron that I am right now.