I would honestly be shocked if her family watches all of her videos, just my feeling. They are around her so much and likely feel they know everything they need to know. I just can't see them having the time nor inclination. As far as Tiffany venting online to strangers, I'm certainly not saying she is doing the videos solely to protect her loved ones. Of course, I'm sure it's cathartic and helpful for her, but I do also believe, irrelevant of her channel, that she tries to protect Amma from some of the fears and sadness she has. I think it's pretty natural. I would do the same with my loved ones. When you see Amma and Tiffany in the car together, just the look on Amma's face is so pained and worried. Much as our loved ones want to be there for us, you naturally don't want to add to a loved one's worry.
I appreciate what you’re saying and yes, protecting loved ones is instinctive on many levels, however there are some occasions especially when I’m frightened, distressed and sad that I look for the physical comfort from sharing those emotions.
With Tiffany protecting loved ones, how then does she get the physical comfort that is so so important for psyche and wellbeing… the tight hugs and squeezes and of course, a mothers arms to sob into.
Just maybe, that’s truly what she needs to do … acknowledge the enormity of what life has dealt her, the diagnosis, the anger, the fear, the trepidation and just sob it out in her mothers arms. Crying together is also very therapeutic.
Perhaps the nonsense she carries on with would be halved if she had some physical reassurance that her loved ones know, understand and share her fear.
Anyway, that’s just my thoughts.
I speak only from my personal experience but I can assure you if I didn’t have my husband, mum and sister to hold me, hug me, squeeze me in my times of fear and uncertainty, I don’t think I’d truly be in the positive position I’m in today with my recovery
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I did however, protect my sons from seeing me very upset … maternal love absolutely wanted to protect them.
When Tiffany hides herself away somewhere in her house to volg and cries, looking so frightfully distressed, I’m sure having her mum there to hold her while she sobs it out would be very cathartic for them both.
As I have said, just my thoughts and I appreciate yours too.