Things that make you jealous in a relationship

[Macmama]

I used to get insanely jealous when him and his useless nips used to sleep through the night while I would be up feeding the littles. It still makes me irate thinking of his stupid, peaceful sleeping face lying next to me, getting 8 hours a night

Other than that, I don't usually get bothered

 

[mcfeez]

When the cat cuddles with him more than me. But then the next night she prefers me. I think she's just fickle.

My other one is weird. My family all think my husband is great, say he's such a nice guy. His family don't ever pay me the same compliment and it does make me jealous. It feeds my insecurity a bit because in lower moments I do think he could do better than me.

 

[Ohflogoff]

When he gets to lie in.
When he gets to go for a 30 minute poo ALONE.
When he gets to finish work early and sit on the sofa and watch Netflix.

No idea who he’s following on Instagram. Doesn’t bother me in the slightest.

 

[Ineedmorecoffee]

He’s with me, he married me, he has kids with me.

If he’s daft enough to throw everything we have away, he can crack on.

No jealousy here. He’s free to do what he pleases, as am I. Jealousy never stops a person from doing what they want to do.

 

[265]

Since it's been so long since I've been in a relationship I have no bleeping clue what made me Jealous...

 

[Herefortheteeeee]

Absolutely nothing. Previous relationships I was awful, jealous over everything. For some reason, I don’t get possessive or jealous with my partner. I think, he cheats, he’s out on his arse so its not worth it for him. He knows he has steak at home, why would be need a burger?

 

[Gembo]

I used to get insanely jealous and insecure at the start of our relationship, he had quite a few women around him who liked him as more than a friend & there was one I found out he had slept with before he met me and she was pretty unpleasant to me when I met her so that got my back up a lot.
10 years down the line I know him enough now to really deeply trust him, I think I do still feel insecure sometimes and still worry that he’ll leave me one day but for reasons I will never understand he still seems to be really crazy about me so I know the insecurities come from me and not from him.

 

[Missgobby124]

I used to get insanely jealous and insecure at the start of our relationship, he had quite a few women around him who liked him as more than a friend & there was one I found out he had slept with before he met me and she was pretty unpleasant to me when I met her so that got my back up a lot.
10 years down the line I know him enough now to really deeply trust him, I think I do still feel insecure sometimes and still worry that he’ll leave me one day but for reasons I will never understand he still seems to be really crazy about me so I know the insecurities come from me and not from him.

My relationship is also quite early on, so I’m guessing it’s perhaps normal to feel jealous at the start, really glad you have such deep trust That’s a blessing

I’ve noticed a lot of my jealousy comes from my own insecurity, feeling I’m not enough/good enough maybe, and it’s a sad realisation

Could be worse, your husband could develop a thing for Katie Price.

The worst possible scenario

 

[Gembo]

My relationship is also quite early on, so I’m guessing it’s perhaps normal to feel jealous at the start, really glad you have such deep trust That’s a blessing

I’ve noticed a lot of my jealousy comes from my own insecurity, feeling I’m not enough/good enough maybe, and it’s a sad realisation


The worst possible scenario

I think it can be more normal at the start yes, after all you have no way of knowing if you can trust that person and so it is a leap of faith, trust is usually something that’s earned. But I do remember an ex of mine saying to me right at the beginning of our relationship ‘I’m just going to trust you until you give me reason not to’ and I thought that was a pretty cool attitude.

My brothers ex girlfriend never trusted him even though he never cheated on her. She would make him prove where he had been, show her his phone, kept accusing him of cheating, even when he came to visit me or saw my mum he’d have to FaceTime or send her a picture to prove where he was. It caused him so much stress and he used to get full blown anxiety going home after work and would start feeling sick. They had so many rows & this year he broke up with her. So both sides of it are hard.

 

[chocolate choux]

I used to get pretty jealous after a couple of bad relationships. I had low self esteem and accepted too much tit. The stupidest part was I’d always act totally cool with everything and even encourage him to do stuff that made me jealous as I didn’t want to look jealous - but it’d eat away at me inside. It did really impact my life and it’s no consolation that my suspicions turned out to be valid

Now, I just don’t get involved with jealousy. Either I make myself stop, or leave the situation. It’s really not worth torturing yourself over it - whether you’re jealous because of a casual like on Instagram or someone coming on to your partner. If you trust your partner, those things don’t deserve a second thought. If you don’t, then that’s the issue and it won’t be solved by obsessing. It’s difficult to move on from the mindset but worth doing for the sake of your mental health if not for your relationship

And if it turns out to be them that’s the problem, I’d honestly just leave

 

[Rockin' Robin]

My partner works in property maintenance, he is the kind of person who would do anything for anyone. He sometimes does jobs for a woman, who he has known for a fair old while. Every now and then, she gives him the odd item like her ex Husband's old coat, or a pair of his shoes. To me, it seems a little bizarre, but I trust my partner. He has a kind and generous nature.

 

[openbook1]

The only thing that makes me jealous is when my dog is more affectionate with my husband than with me.

I have no reason to be jealous when it comes to my husband - not only would he not cheat on me, he is just an extremely kind person overall - he is such a loyal friend/brother/son.

We have friends in extremely jealous and tumultuous relationships - they always have huge blow ups (and I'm guessing passionate make up sex ), but we have too many boxsets to get through for that kind of drama.

ahahah, same. And your husband sounds like mind. A kind soul

 

[iloveanimals]

This makes me feel better because I once had a full on meltdown when my partner got himself a Subway meal while out running errands but didn't bring me one back (he usually brings me food back if he gets himself something while out) i get so jealous over food it's not normal lol

i did that at a motorway service station on the way to our holidays. The car park was rammed and i went absolutely mental because my husband had been in burger king and hadnt got me any fries. he had got himself a cheeseburger (im a vegetarian). Everybody was staring at us. I had a hysterectomy that year so i blamed my hormones !

 

[WilmaHun]

His metabolism! The man can eat what he wants when he wants and never put on a pound. I'm insanely jealous of it! I only have to look at a burger and my jean button has popped off! Last week he had some form of takeaway every day for lunch at work (much to my disgust) and he's fine! If I'd have done that I'd be 10 stone heavier and feeling like death through lack of nutrients!

All his family say as he gets older it won't be like that and he'll balloon - needless to say I'm patiently waiting for that day to come!

 

[Ohflogoff]

Oh yea @Bloom95 that reminds me.

He has totally got better as he’s got older.

Me, well, I seem to be making a very good impression of how a grape turns into a raisin.

 

[Missgobby124]

His metabolism! The man can eat what he wants when he wants and never put on a pound. I'm insanely jealous of it! I only have to look at a burger and my jean button has popped off! Last week he had some form of takeaway every day for lunch at work (much to my disgust) and he's fine! If I'd have done that I'd be 10 stone heavier and feeling like death through lack of nutrients!

All his family say as he gets older it won't be like that and he'll balloon - needless to say I'm patiently waiting for that day to come!

This is exactly how it is with my boyfriend he’s tall 6ft and eats junk food nearly all the time, I’m chubby and short and only have to look at junk food to balloon

 

[Selenophile]

When they're soundly asleep and I'm laid there with insomnia.

You can keep your porn and celeb crushes and insta likes my friends, THAT is serious jealousy material.

 

[DoctorWho]

When they like other women’s photos on social media

 

[GalaxyGirl70]

I'm never remotely jealous - but what drives me up the wall is that my husband doesn't grasp the concept of social media and that everything he likes or follows is public. I don't care about him following lingerie models and blow up doll lookalikes, he can look at whatever he likes but I do care that our daughters and my family can see that he's looking if that makes sense. It's just a bit sleazy tbh given he's in his mid 50s.

 

[Rippedjeanmaybe]

I’m not jealous, because I am happy for him, but I am envious of the way he can walk on water and always lands on his feet.

He’s generally a very lucky person, he had an amazing childhood (okay I probably do get a bit jealous of that one), he’s had and has amazing jobs and things in general just seem to go right for him. Whereas my life has been one big duck up (apart from our relationship).

I’m a really positive laid back person most of the time and yet all the tit just tends to land me and nothing ever goes quite to plan. I feel a bit like that song, “why does it always rain on me? Is it because I lied when I was 17?”

so yeah, I guess sometimes I wish I could trade places with him, just to have the weight of the world lifted from my shoulders. He actually doesn’t care that I don’t have an amazing job and that I don’t earn loads and that my family are nuts, but I do.