As a parent to a child with additional needs, you hope with every fibre of your being that you can do enough to help them control their emotions. That they find a different outlet for that anger that they just don't know how to deal with whilst being so young.I don’t know where you end up with Hugo - if he’s defiant and lashes out with authority now then how on earth will he hold down a job or have a relationship when he’s older?
ETA - I thought I'd answered this before and I have, 3 times on this thread you've asked a similar question.