100%. Normal parents do not grab their children’s arms like that. Jackson is a human being, not a bleeping doll and Tim has no right whatsoever to grab at his arms like that to try and manipulate them. It’s totally out of order and it seems very passive aggressive. He never has any patience with Jackson, even when he was a small baby he was moving his arms for him to get him to pick up things instead of letting Jackson learn.
I have seen “influencers” and “YouTubers” make mistakes with their kids before, but no one is perfect and it’s mainly small insignificant stuff, but these two do so much wrong and very little right. I’ve never seen anything like it from a youtuber. They need to get their heads out of their camera and into a child development book.
I agree. We all make mistakes as parents, but this is very passive aggressive and like you mention it's not the first time. It's over and over again, especially from Tim. Poor kid!
One time our son's elbow was dislocated as a toddler and we think it was one of use trying to grab him off the floor by his arm while we were all playing around the house. Thankfully, we got it back in place and got him to the doctor to get it checked, but as new parents it was scary. That was just playing. I can only imagine what could happen if someone intentionally manipulates a kids arm like Tim does with anger.
Since they like to read here:
1. You can have dedicated old clothes he can wear while eating and let them get messy at least at home
2. They sell some kind of plastic rug you can put on the floor under the eating chair that is easy to clean and protects your floor
3. Model behavior, eat using a fork in front of him and make it like a game taking turns to eat and celebrate when he does use it
4. He will get better with practice
5. Above all, BE PATIENT and not lazy!