Whoa, I'm way behind. My husband doesn't give a tit about any of this but I was so shocked by J's behavior I went and showed him. We had two of our own and they never were disrespectful in that way because it was imperative to us to try to raise decent people. All kids are bratty, all have meltdowns and none are perfect. They test boundaries and can be disrespectful little shits as teens. They can make you absolutely crazy. Parents can make mistakes in their responses. It's an earnest learning process. It's to be expected in normal development. The behavior isn't to be ignored or dismissed if you've established any boundaries at all. Do your level best.
They need to put raising him as first priority now. Today.
* If that means one of you has to drop everything and parent during a live or your slogs then too bad. Do your bleeping job and teach him, Bojos. It's not cute, at all. Stop resenting him for existing. Stop neglecting his emotional growth. This is entirely your fault. You are the parent. You are crippling him emotionally with your narcissism. You are failing this little human who needs your love and guidance.
They need to put raising him as first priority now. Today.
* If that means one of you has to drop everything and parent during a live or your slogs then too bad. Do your bleeping job and teach him, Bojos. It's not cute, at all. Stop resenting him for existing. Stop neglecting his emotional growth. This is entirely your fault. You are the parent. You are crippling him emotionally with your narcissism. You are failing this little human who needs your love and guidance.