I don’t really care if some rando on the internet calls me trash. The thread asked people to share, I did. It happened, can’t change it. Would I do it again? No. Does that make me less ‘trash’? Probably not
Totally accept what you’re saying, you’re completely rightIf youre triggered by this topic,maybe skip past it? But the tone of your past is uncomfortable for several other posters outside of the lady you were directing it too. That should tell you everything you need to know
I agree. I'm sorry if you have baggage and issues relating to this topic but people on here should be allowed to post their stories without judgment. Don't bully and abuse others!If youre triggered by this topic,maybe skip past it? But the tone of your past is uncomfortable for several other posters outside of the lady you were directing it too. That should tell you everything you need to know
No one who’s shared their story has said it isn’t a tit thing to do though, no ones asked for sympathy or said it wasn’t wrong.I’m a member, not just a moderator.
also, nobody knows if I’ve been the wife, the partner, the child of a cheating father, so if I want to say a woman who knowingly enters into a relationship with a father and husband is trash, I’ll say it.
It’s a tit thing to do, tit. Especially if kids are involved.
If people can give sympathy and console I’m gonna do similar for the victims of the situation.
It's obvious you've been hurt by an affair somehow.I’m a member, not just a moderator.
also, nobody knows if I’ve been the wife, the partner, the child of a cheating father, so if I want to say a woman who knowingly enters into a relationship with a father and husband is trash, I’ll say it.
It’s a tit thing to do, tit. Especially if kids are involved.
If people can give sympathy and console I’m gonna do similar for the victims of the situation.
My experience (man saying he was a widow) happened before social media. I thought it would be harder to hide a marriage/partner these days but this thread has me thinking otherwiseSo interesting to hear everyone’s experiences. & good on the ones that don’t want sympathy and accept what they’ve done
But as a single woman this thread gives me the fear![]()
I was ‘in love’ with him. I genuinely harboured ideas of us both leaving our partners and being together forever (vom). In hindsight it was never going to happen, but it wasn’t a calculated ‘let’s f**k up other people’s lives’. His motivation was likely more an ego boostBut I'm actually interested in why people choose to go down that route
You had nothing to do with that. Now he *Is* ‘trash’The thought that I may have somehow contributed to his desire for young girls makes me feel sick.
If I'm being honest I didn't like yesterday's grilling and feeling like I had to justify myself when I never even kissed him. He was kind and saw me. The real me. I could tell him how I really felt and he would just listen. I didn't have to pretend that I had everything under control. I actually live alone in a another country, away from my family and he was just there. When I told him that I loved him- he told me that he already knew.I’m a member, not just a moderator.
also, nobody knows if I’ve been the wife, the partner, the child of a cheating father, so if I want to say a woman who knowingly enters into a relationship with a father and husband is trash, I’ll say it.
It’s a shut thing to do, tit. Especially if kids are involved.
I think whichever way you look at it, this is what it boils down to, and it is sad. However, some people still manage not to do such stupid things that will ultimately make them feel worse (and most likely ruin other people's lives too). I really wish I'd dealt with my own problems differently.I honestly cant see any other reason for knowingly doing it than low self esteem. And thats sad for the women tbh. As always, men are trash lol.
I don't agree that low self esteem is the only reason. I was "the other women" a few decades ago at university. To be honest, I was immature, looking for no strings fun and simply didn't care that he had a girlfriend. My view back then was that if he was going to cheat anyway, and I fancied him, why not be the one he cheated with. I hasten to add that I'm a million miles from that person now and no longer have those views or total lack of morals. But at that time, I was a very confident (arrogant) person, with no self esteem issues at all, I was just young and reckless and selfish and didn't give a tit about a girl I never met and felt I owed nothing to. Many years later, I discovered that my serious partner had been shagging around behind my back for years, one very long term affair, and lots of one night stands. Karma perhaps! I think people have affairs for many reasons, other than simply having low self esteem.I honestly cant see any other reason for knowingly doing it than low self esteem. And thats sad for the women tbh. As always, men are trash lol.
Sorry I’ve only just seen this. Yes I did - terrible I fully know that. We slept together and yes I knew he had a wife but didn’t know about the kids - I just thought it was a one time thing and foolishly convinced myself she wouldn’t find out so I wasn’t hurting anyone. He then continued to message and asking to meet up etc - i was reluctant at first but then did. Would see him maybe once a month ish but we spoke every single day and I completely fell in love with him.There has to be a poster who got involved knowing she was going to be the other women.
I can't believe theres not been a story yet where they admitted they jumped into a relationship fully aware that the man/woman already had a partner.
I can believe that they might be scared of being judged here.
ETA @ASAnigel just re read yours, so you did know he had a wife but didn't know he had kids?