It sounds like you learned from this experience. You should have reflected on your desire to cheat and where it comes from and talked to your former partner about it, but you know that now.
There's remorse there from you. Yeah its a crappy to do - it would be a lot worse if you didnt care and carried on that pattern of behaviour. But you havent. Build up trust in yourself and your self esteem. Dont let that define you/your relationships.
What made you get involved with him, knowing that? (Typical he got away with it!)
Would you mind to share more about the fallout?
I was (I thought) ‘in love’ with him. In reality it was infatuation, and I had the unrealistic fantasy of us both leaving our partners and running away together into the sunset
It broke up my marriage. His survived, then, as his wife didn’t find out about me. He subsequently went on to have another affair and that was what ended his marriage
Oh no, but you said you only had an emotional affair?
what exactly is an emotional affair?
It’s hard to feel any sympathy for you, you knowingly set out to destroy a family, word gymnastics aside because I don’t really understand “emotional affair”
Just putting it out there,
i never asked for any sympathywhat exactly is an emotional affair?
you didn’t have sex?
It’s hard to feel any sympathy for you, you knowingly set out to destroy a family, word gymnastics aside because I don’t really understand “emotional affair”
you reap what you sow
Just putting it out there,
once kids are involved there is no discussion IMO.
You’re trash.
my husband (rightly) was angry at the infidelity and couldn’t forgive me. I think if it had been physical and ‘just sex’ he may have done but it was the fact that I was sharing emotional intimacy with another that was the worst thing for him. He found out because I started to feel guilty and I told him
I don’t understand the point of this thread at this point. People are sharing their experiences or stories and are just being called trash by you?! I mean congratulations if you’ve never had feelings for somebody who was in a relationship but it doesn’t make you better then everybody else who’s sharing their stories ?!Just putting it out there,
once kids are involved there is no discussion IMO.
You’re trash.
what exactly is an emotional affair?
you didn’t have sex?
It’s hard to feel any sympathy for you, you knowingly set out to destroy a family, word gymnastics aside because I don’t really understand “emotional affair”
you reap what you sow
Just putting it out there,
once kids are involved there is no discussion IMO.
You’re trash.
Calling her trash is too far.
I’m a member, not just a moderator.
If youre triggered by this topic,maybe skip past it? But the tone of your past is uncomfortable for several other posters outside of the lady you were directing it too. That should tell you everything you need to know
I think everybody with a brain cell knows that sleeping with somebody else’s fella is wrong. Nobody has come on here and been like I’m so proud this is what I did… but people are sharing their stories to just be called trash. I think it puts people off what could be an interesting thread, plus If I commented that on any other thread I’m pretty sure I’d get a warning for arguing or goading or derailing or something!!
