It is probably less the act itself but what it represents - being betrayed, trust being broken, lied to.
yeah I feel the same way. If it's true that it is over (which I'd argue in most cases is probably a lie) I'd say "ok well once you've left the home and have settled down on your own we can move the relationship forward romantically. Until then, I don't want to know"I guess its intuition and setting a standard that you're going to accept. A man says him and his wife are essentially over, no sex etc .. thats baggage that he needs to address, which in turn is messy for the woman. If a relationship is over, it needs to be properly over with both parties actually aware lol. I dont know, if a man came to me saying the relationship has broken down, its basically over, dont share a bed etc.. im going to think, nah. Sort your home out before you go looking for a nice distraction, ya know? Its just another man coming with his bullshit sweet talk
That’s so similar to how I feel I felt you’d written my reply!
I was cheated on (like many of us have), and honestly, the moment i found out was horrific and i had flashbacks of things for months. Its awful.
I see them as part of being monogamous.. or just a part of being with someone you love.
I think you’re looking at it from a legal point of view.
Im just under the impression morals are subjective.
As much as he may have destroyed everything you worked hard to achieve it was definitely a blessing to be rid of him. He is an abuser.
I didnt mean you personally. Just like you as in "one" so I apologise if it comes across like was coming at you personally. I was just replying to your post.I mean did I ever say I had been the other woman?
I said on one of the earlier pages on this thread that everybody with a brain cell knows sleeping with somebody else’s partner is wrong. I’ve never disputed that, but there are so many situations where somebody could find themselves as the other woman. In my PERSONAL OPINION nobody owes anybody they’re not committed too or don’t have a friendship with anything.
My view is that whilst ‘the other women’ knows it’s wrong, she doesn’t owe anybody anything. The husband/partner who made decision to cheat is the one who owes decency and respect. Everybody consistently talks about the women being the enabler, like they’re too blame. Almost like they forced this poor man to cheat.
some women are in fact like this, perfect description.
Yeah, I am on a moral high ground on this one. As its something I would never knowingly do. However, as it has been done to me, I find it interesting to hear it from the womans side who does it. *if* she felt bad, why not etc.
In which case this should be post only if you are/were the other woman
.Thank you so much for sharing. And I am sorry for your experience, I am sure there was a lot of pain involved.
They go out for dinner & drinks etc in the town where they live. It's not a particularly big town, so I assume his wife knows about them.
and meanwhile he's savouring every single minute of it as at least three women squabble over him . He's the one stirring the pot getting those two to have a go at you so get the hell away from him, block him and them then leave them to their poisonous menage à trois
Out there is a decent bloke waiting to be found Don't think you owe people basic decency and respect though regardless of whether they're the wife or random joe Bloggs on the street? In the same vain that you wouldn't spit on random people when you walk past them in the street because it would be disrespectful.
