Simple fix lazy ,and one which will benefit your children.Get the eldest back into school/college ,JAce into nursery ,and when Mila naps ,you`ll get that time to sort out chores in the house ,and a quick cuppa..just like the rest of us mums!!
Katrina used to be the one to "do" for nanarr" ,not sure why it stopped ,except lazy probably considered what she`d gain from taking over.We used to do so much for my grandparents ,and i now do the same for my mum.We do it out of love.Our parents/grandparents took care of us for years ,without so much as a thought ,so to my mind ,it`s their turn now.Nothing gives me more pleasure than just taking my mum for a walk (she`s in a wheelchair) and cooking her a really good tasty meal, (not a pasta pack or lump of cheese in sight!) ,i know she`ll enjoy.THAT is "family" Sarah ,that is real love.You need to dig deep and see if there`s anything in that blackened soul of yours ,a tiny part which actually cares.Sadly i very much doubt it.You "do" because of what it`ll gain you and your kids.That`s awful.