I can’t help but lay in bed tonight on what has been my eldest child’s 8th birthday today, and realise my child couldn’t have a friend over to celebrate with her, couldn’t go anywhere overly fun, didn’t see family etc and i lost my job this week (luckily things were brought in advance) but trust me when I say this, my daughter had 4 presents and I naturally said “sorry it’s not much I’ve struggled being furloughed and now losing the job so tried to treat you while being sensible” she genuinely turned to me and said, “mum, don’t be silly, it’s about what the presents are, not how many, and for a lockdown birthday this has been the best one ever! I don’t need lots!” I did tear up I have to say
also - on another note - I’m 99.9% sure, that if the dirty came out about creepy back when Sarah was a really good mum and was always crafting and taking them out and to school independently, I think she’d have been strong enough and left him there and then. No doubt in my mind. It just so happens that the grooming allegations (truth!) came out at a time when Sarah was lazy as fuck, and did bugger all for/with the girls. She was stuck thinking ‘if I leave this man I have 3 kids, one on the way soon after, and a dog by myself. THAT is the real reason Sarah stayed with him. Had this been 3/4 years ago she would have kicked him to the curb and been a strong independent mum. Sad really.