I think people often think they're helping but they really aren't personally. I mostly just find it really boring and quite disrespectful, I have a lot that you can talk to me about that is interesting, don't reduce me to just single or not. When I was moving abroad as part of my degree so many people said "omg you might meet the love of your life" and it drove me bat tit crazy!! This super exciting, life changing, brave experience, literally upping my whole life and moving to another country with a language that I don't speak and you've reduced it to a relationship?? GET OUT!It's so irritating. I got out of a relationship just over a year ago and I can truly say I've only been properly single for 6 months or so; until then I was dealing with so many emotions I was probably still in relationship mode. My friends have been godsends though so I can't bash them for trying to get me to consider him the first time. Sorry to hear about your friends, I'm shocked a bride would even care surely she's got a lot more to worry about?!
Yes!! And one of my really good friends (one far removed from my school days) suggested I tell him I'm seeing somebody else, but it seemed stupid to me that, if he finally gave up after me saying that, it would only be because I had someone new and not because I wasn't interested in him, so the memo wouldn't actually have got to him if that makes sense.
He did take it well, which is the update. He said he'd thought it would be nice etc. Only thing I did get slightly irate at is his little sentence which he added saying 'maybe we'll go when you're less busy', completely ignoring the fact that I'm not not interested because I'm busy, but because I'm just not interested, which won't change even if my schedule cleared oh well, I'm hoping he'd have got the message-ish now, I think trying again a fourth time would only hurt his self respect.
You're right and telling him you're seeing someone is disrespectful to you in the sense that it's not okay if that is the only reason he lets it go. You've said no. that should be enough. I'd argue him saying you'll go when you're less busy isn't really taking it well as he's STILL not got the message. It's tricky one cause you don't want to block him as that's just unnecessary drama but if he tries again maybe consider it cause it might be the only way he gets it.