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Jim Slob will use Isla’s passing to guilt trip Jill. He would use any opportunity to tell her that Jesus is punishing her and Derick for leaving the cult by taking away their long awaited girl as punishment.
Yes, Halleli Grace.
yes, the first one they gave the name River, but I don't remember if they knew the gender.
River was an early loss and they didn’t know the sex of the baby
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All of the eldest sisters (married ones) have had at least 1 loss that they’ve been public about. Josiah and Lauren lost their 1st early on too
I obviously feel so so sorry for her, but having read her book I just feel so aghast at the publicity she's giving to this loss, pictures at the graveside, it just leaves a sour taste.
It’s a bit OTT isn’t it
People grieve in different ways. I just hope she has the support she needs.
She’s at 4 grid posts now… photos of the burial and funeral included. Each to their own, but I’d be pissed if I was her sister Joy who didn’t even have a funeral for her full term still born. It seems very performative to me and odd that her parents Michelle and Jim Bob were in the audience. Particularly when they have publicly said really awful things, like if you use birth control then it’s your fault if you have a miscarriage after…
It’s one thing grieving in private but to make it all so public doesn’t sit well with me
I want to be nice and say everyone grieves differently- and I DO believe that, but this is VERY public for something that is devastating for family. Any baby loss is obviously very sad no matter what stage of pregnancy- all those hopes and excitement. But I thought she was about 14 weeks along? I may have that wrong and I'm not trying to minimise her grief AT ALL, but its unusual to have a coffin and funeral for a loss that early isn't it?
\But then if it helps them, I guess its their business. Just think its all a bit public, which I personally, find odd.
\But then if it helps them, I guess its their business. Just think its all a bit public, which I personally, find odd.
16 weeks. It's not unusal to have a coffin or a funeral you will labour and deliver the baby and the placenta. Then your body goes through a post partum recovery, some women's milk even comes in. It's not the same as an early miscarriage.
Most Cemeteries in the UK will have baby area, that's where a lot of these babies are buried, alongside still births and young babies that pass.
They had so little of life a resting place and a name is all we can give them in the end.
I thought that you couldn't have a funeral/burial in the UK unless they were 24 weeks plus. I'm glad if that's not the case. Its so sad for anyone to lose a baby at any stage. Hopefully the service and funeral that the Dillards held will help them grieve.
I hope she give herself time to heal before getting pregnant again.
I don't know if it's all hospitals but ours you have the option of a cremation between 12 and 24 weeks. Over that I think it's a legal burial but I'm not 100%
Not a lot know about this either but on the gov website you can now request a pregnancy loss certificate for a baby born / miscarried before 24 weeks
Im stating the obvious but I think she’s so brave & it’s all so incredibly sad.
Yes you can bury pre- 24 week babies in cemeteries in the UK and many maternity hospitals will have links with local undertakers that arrange it all for you.
Yes. My best friend delivered stillborn identical twin girls at 19 weeks. She held a funeral for them. They had matching tiny coffins and she had bought two identical dolls dresses (they were so small) which were like lttle Communion or flowergirls frocks. Rather than a wreath I had my favourite florist make up two tiny bouquets of pink tea rosebuds & jasmine. My friend got me to help her dress the babies. Then we laid the bouquets in the coffins with them.
It was as if we were giving them a chance to do one of the milestone things in a little girl's life. Dressing in a princess gown, carrying a bouquet, feeling pretty and admired. And she did take photographs though those were only shared with her husband and myself. But she did ask borh Grandmothers if they wanted to be a part of the dressing or see the photos and they said no.
I'm not going to lie, at the time I felt odd & awkward but it was what she wanted to do and she had asked me to help her. If all you can do for a grieving parent is something so simple but it makes you feel uncomfortable, do it anyway. It did help her and I would do the same again if anyone I care for asked.
As others have said, everyone grieves differently.
That was so kind, brave and supportive of you.
I think the truth is unless and until you are in such a situation none of us know how we would cope with it and what we would want to do