You're right. No contact is the only option. It's difficult to recognize narcs, it's not something you can see immediately. And there are always co-dependent and/or over-emotionally thinking people who fall for them, it has nothing to do with intelligence, you might be a child of a narc and believe relationships are supposed to be that difficult. Narcs will never let you go (think Nic, Potty and how they've been trained to question their own valid judgement) and reel you back when you have your defenses down. No contact is the only option. If you leave a door open, they'll come for another visit to abuse you for sure, but it's sometimes difficult (or impossible) to do that if the narc is your relative, partner, child...
We can't hurt Fanny personally criticizing her here, she thinks she's the victim and treated unfairly (from her perspective). She will use us for her pity play (MPK has done it already) eventually not understanding she's created a social media platform for her narcissism herself for us to call her out.
In the meantime we can irritate the
tit out of her truefans by ridiculing her and maybe steer them back to logical thinking. And have a laugh ourselves.
The problem IMO why she still has a growing fan base is the simple fact that her truefans don't understand narcissism, how it operates and in many instances what happens is they align themselves with Fanny and eventually sit within that echo chamber and as soon as anything's said that criticize her, no matter how well argued, how logical, how evidence-based, it doesn't matter because they don't listen. Because all they hear is: Alert! This is an attack against our poster girl! And their defense systems are activated. Some of these fans will be narcissists and therefore what they do is they're commandeering the character traits of her and they believe they are empathetic and what then happens when somebody criticizes Fanny because she's seen as an extension of themselves it feels like a criticism of them which threatens their narcissism. This causes them to come and throw allegations and accusations here rather than scrutinizing the evidence for itself. So some of the truefans are narcissists and of course there are those who detract from Fanny who are also narcissists. They're in both sides of the divide but the majority of people who do support her are of course not narcissists. There are the quite vociferous and loud mouth ones but the majority aren't. They are usually normal individuals who identify with her for many personal reasons (her creativity, socio-economical status, similarities in ambitions, aspirations and so on) and therefore what happens is that because they align themselves with her they don't like to be told something that doesn't fit with their narrative (nobody likes to be told they're wrong) and they fail to listen to the evidence because of their entrenched and preconceived views (we've witnessed this polarization of stances). Their empathy for her and seeing themselves in her outweighs their ability to look at the evidence logically and see what is occurring. So amongst those who support Fanny the failure to see what's going on isn't because all of the individuals are necessarily stupid (but there are many who are hard at understanding
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) some are narcissists, some are normal and some are overly empathetic and in the case of the normals and empathetics it comes down to according to this particular position allying with Fanny. They're not close enough to her to be her friends but like we've seen they have created almost an extra category of friendship that do her bidding, not because she tells them to, but because they see their friend hurt and because they're so close they're ready to go and put a brick through a perceived perpetrator's windshield (MOLD gate) out of misplaced sense of loyalty by failing to examine the evidence. Then go around trying to argue against the position flying in the face of the evidence that is mountainous and continuing to accumulate.
Of course there will be those, the ones we're trying to save, that may think: 'I thought there was something quite off, didn't make my mind up about it and now I can see it.' But the majority of them will not because they're entrenched in their view and even providing them with evidence they will not just be able to see it and of course that becomes frustrating for us who want them to be able to see, not to point score over them, not to say 'haha I'm right and you're wrong' but for the purposes of demonstrating to them 'Look, I'm trying to help you understand what's happening here'. Unfortunately with those types of individuals, who see Fanny as their potential best friend, we're wasting our time and breath.