I do not mind you asking
I am on very friendly terms with my first wife, and she has definitely married up
We didn't have children thankfully, but had a good "starter marriage". I probably had a bit of a chip on my shoulder as she is from landed gentry, she probably thought I was too much of a surf bum and a flirt. And, this was part of the attraction as well I guess. I wanted to show I could fit into those circles, she was flattered that a ladies man like me went for her in a big way. She's very intelligent and quite funny, we had lots of fun in the beginning, and I did think this was going to be it. Then things fell appart. It wasn't my cheating, it was more that we drove each other crazy. She nagged me, and I became moody. We just brought out the worst in each other, and I don't know why. Like a sister and brother fighting. Now we can enjoy each other's company again when we meet, no hard feelings.
I am just slightly annoyed that her husband is such a tosser. And that he is posh and went to better schools than me, I admit. I have now a common as muck, but very beautiful wife, who can make me laugh and does not bring out the grump in me. She also has provided me with children, and ignores my indiscretions and runs a good house. What more can a fellow ask for?
You will be in your element soon then Notanangel, Halloween quickly approaching! Let's hope Lalande has another cringy party!