Notice
Thread ordered by most liked posts - View normal thread.
What would you all do in my situation? So my neighbours garden is an absolute shit hole, but that's not encroaching on my boundary so none of my business other than it being a complete eyesore when I look out my window. But the last couple of weeks they've started creating a massive pile of rubbish outside their back gate, it's a combination of black bags they couldn't fit in their bin and garden stuff they're getting rid of (kids toys etc). I've watched them just go to their back gate and chuck it out there. The problem is our back gardens back onto an alley way (not maintained by the council, but also not owned by us as part of our deeds) which we use as we have big double gates at the back of ours to allow us to park in our garden. The pile keeps encroaching in front of my gates, numerous times I've moved it back so it's outside theirs but I'll come home every day and have to get out my car and move a load of shit which they've chucked across the alley before I am able to open my gates and park my car. This morning I went out to collect my blue bin which had been emptied to find that when I opened my gate their blue bin hadn't been emptied as it was overflowing and they've just chucked a load of their recycling on to the pile which has obviously blown all over the alley.

I keep thinking I need to knock on their door and politely ask them to tidy it up or at least stop it from blocking my gatres and then if nothing happens make a complaint to the council - but my bf says that will just cause a dispute and we don't want to have any fallings out. To be honest though, they are a nuisance all round. I've caught their kids spraying my dog with a hose through the fence, they constantly shout and scream and swear and argue with each other. I'm just concerned if anything does lead to a dispute obviously when you sell your property it's a question asked on the forms as to whether there's been any disputes so I don't want to cause any issue. I also obviously generally don't want to be disliked by my neighbours. I'm stuck on what to do. They rent their property so they won't be bothered about the dispute side of things.

The eye sore garden, I don’t think you can do much about. I get it’s annoying though! However on this occasion it seems like maybe a pick your battles wisely thing. Are they likely to kick off if you ask them nicely? Failing that report to the council if you don’t know who they rent from. But I do think ir you can just talk nicely to them (if they are able to do that with you) would help avoid a dispute.
 

Ibrokethegoddamnwheel

Chatty Member
My OH has lost his passport and we go on holiday in about 6 weeks! We’ve turned the house upside down trying to find it but no luck. We are trying to sort out a new one via 1 week fast track, but when we click the link to book an appointment and pay it says there are non available! We’ve been checking constantly over the last 24 hours including through the night and first thing this morning. It says ‘extra’ appointments will be added but I have yet to see any. What are we meant to do if we can’t even get an appointment? We have all the forms filled in and new photos that have been co-signed and the money is waiting in the bank to be paid. Just want to get it sorted now. Would calling the passport advice line be of any use? Really starting to panic now.
 

Blondeangel2515

VIP Member
Don’t mean to be blunt but if he wanted to message you he would. I wouldn’t worry yourself trying to figure out any reasonable explanation for it lol he doesn’t exactly sound like a catch lol
Not really worry just makes no sense whatsoever over it 🤷🏼‍♀️ To be fair he is meant to be bright but clearly isn’t that bright. He never thought I would search him on Facebook to find his girlfriend to grass him up too her
 

Snippysnips

VIP Member
Won’t the hotel keep it? I always ask hotels to keep my luggage after I check out and then I collect it in the evening.
I can ask them but am not expecting it, I've never been to this hotel so I don't know if they will just say no since after check out they really have nothing to really do with us then, I think most travel lodges an the such usually say no so am just assuming they will work a similer way
 

Pesky Tarian

VIP Member
I can’t seem to get to the side or the door as it’s staying firmly locked 😩 but it’s more than likely that. It is a really cheap old wooden door. Lucky it’s not much added security to the house. As it is the first porch door but to get to the house is PVC proper door. (If that makes sense) So if I can get it off that’s okay as it’s likely to need replacing anyway.
Oh I see now. Mine was stuck open and just twizzling around. Luckily same scenario upvc porch door then upvc house door. At least you're secure ! X
 

xbxbx

Chatty Member
Bleach. Rinse your bins out with bleach & boiling water, then drop of neat bleach in the bottom before you put a bag in. Wipe surfaces down with diluted bleach, neat bleach down your sink and overflows etc, wipe down fruit bowels/salad drawers and inside fridges etc.

Basically bleach the shit out of everything.
Thank you!! I’ll give it a try right now
 

Snippysnips

VIP Member
That's bloody amazing! ✋ 🤚and so inspiring ☺
It's an Apple tree, the one that's close to my house 😅
Thanks so much, its been nice to try it out an see them grow

We had apple trees as well, but two of them, I'd maybe move it away from the window if it's right by it just incase but so long as there's some space between then it should be fine, do you know what kind of apple tree it is? I've seen a lot of people with those I think they are called crab apple trees that they have in gardens an those are generally quite small trees, ours was absolutely massive so made for great fun to climb up as kids 😂 but I don't see many people having those now, I mostly see the smaller version of apple trees now
 

Blondeangel2515

VIP Member
Honestly I'd just block him an forget about it, do you really want to be messed about with an your time wasted by someone so childish as to keep blocking an unblocking you lol he sounds like a immature 17yo that wants numerous girls
He’s 30 to be honest I only didn’t block me because I wanted to know if my feeling was correct that I’ll hear from him. I don’t want nothing to do with him now
 

Pesky Tarian

VIP Member
Me again 😂
So this morning I locked my porch door. It was all fine until then. However when I went to unlock it. It just wouldn’t turn properly. Just wouldn’t fully go any further to unlock. I tried as much as I could. Nothing worked. I’ve now realised a small portion of key has snapped off. I assume it’s in the lock. The door is a very old wooden door. Not the most secure. I do have another entry point to the house but I’d rather not use it If it can be avoided.

Any idea on how I can get the door open again, without the need for paying a lock smith as the door itself is so old.
Is it a barrel lock? If so you can usually undo the screw on the side of the door, slide it out and put a new barrel in (approx £10 e bay etc).
I've done this a few times now ! My family like to leave the keys in, I come along and put a key in the other side and ruin the mechanism 🙄.
 
I met a guy (we game together) anyways talked a lot we switched social media ect. I think I like him a lil bit should I tell him ? Or leave it? I'm not sure glad I like him just know it's more then friends *how
 

Tommyb

VIP Member
Maybe the wrong thread but I'm having troubles trying to find a few things. Does anyone have any recommendations for:

Some form of comfy sliders for inside the house. Not fluffy.

A hot drink flask. Id like to take one on my evening walks. Something I can carry easily.


Tia x
 
Didn’t know that Tattle has this thread so I’m gonna ask away 🙂 (thank you for starting the thread, btw!)

I have difficulty in expressing what I think, and mostly what I feel. If I face a certain social complexities against someone else, I usually either get mad at them or to remain completely silent and refuse to talk to them for a few days until I can calm myself down and be rational.

lastly the thing that makes me infuriated the most is because the only role play friend that I have refused to continue our role play session using characters from certain tv shows/anime. I understand because he doesn’t like to write stories and reading them, he’s more of a visual type of person (prefers to see pictures, go to the museum more than reading a book). Though I understand the reason behind it, the thing that makes me disappointed is because when he decided to stop doing role play, is the same as the character’s life being taken away from me, as if they never existed. We’ve been doing role play on and off for 10 years and it felt surreal we are never going to have any role play session again.

I want to tell the person that I am mad and hurt, and that role play is a form of therapy for me (because I like to write and read) but I know I can’t push my hobbies to someone else. I know I’ll never have any role play session again with this person, but somehow it irks me to just sit still and not let them understand my POV (though I secretly wish that if they understood my POV perhaps they’ll continue role playing with me)


This kind of confusion from my end doesn’t only entail this one specific case, I also have difficulty in standing up for myself in a conflict. I try to understand their POV, but at the same time I want them to also know my POV without sounding like I’m pushing them around too much. By the end of the day I mostly just keep silent and let this anger inside me dissolved in a few days.
I’m similar to you, in I avoid confrontation. Hence me needing the advice I asked for earlier hahaha! But, if you struggle standing up for yourself. Maybe tell this person via text? Or email? This way you can type, retype and make sure you word things exactly how you want them to be worded. Also, if/when they reply, you can rehearse what you need to say in order to effectively get your point across.
 

If you say so...

Chatty Member
It’s a really specialist role that very few hospitals have (though they are starting to emerge in more places). Lots of transferable skills to private industry or non-healthcare industries but it’s getting across that whilst I’ve done healthcare for nearly 10 years now, what I do can be applied in other settings. This job isn’t in the NHS but is very similar in work set up (sorry, I can’t say much more as it’d definitely identify me 😂)
Sounds like you’ll be absolutely fine and could prove your skills in an interview really well, so I wouldn’t panic. Go for this new job and then enjoy your family, the rest can be decided if you want to return to work, it sounds like you’re in a great place in life so enjoy! Xx
 

littlepup

VIP Member
Fake tan and massages.

I can't possibly go on my single trip next week without a tan and I hate the instant tan (also can't bring more than 100mls in my carry-on) - I want to book a deep muscle massage for when I'm there. Is it ok to put on fake tan (Bondi Sands) the night or 2 nights before? Or is it just not worth my while? I haven't had a massage in years.
Massage first day. Get a cheap £4 St. Moritz at the airport once you’re through security. Use it there and bin what’s left before you come back.
You can click & collect with Boots at the airport.
Just be careful not to tan stain their sheets and get fined.

Has anyone any advice for taking a child on holiday with a different surname to you? We go every year and it hasn’t been a problem I just get all our birth certificates out etc if they ask which they only have once but that’s usually when coming back form Spain this time we’re coming back from Turkey and Iv got in my head the uk border control will be stricter and maybe even the Turkey one will be too.. I mean it’s very obvious he’s British his pale white hair blue eyes (the total opposite of me) we go in 3 weeks and we have no contact with his dad and haven’t since he was born.. am I just over thinking it? Will 2 copies of birth certificates and notice of birth be enough proof?
I travelled in April without the baby’s Dad and got stopped. They said I needed either a copy of the birth certificate or a written permission from Dad, those are the officially accepted ‘proof’ documents. You’ll be fine with a birth cert.
 
Last edited: