The advice thread for random problems

[Snowjoke]

Yeah with it being a common travel area that's why I wondered

Some banks defo charge, mine do

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

I’ve been trying all evening to get an L shaped stud out of my nose and it will not budge… I don’t understand?! about to crack… what can a piercing place do that I can’t?

There’s no clip or fastener, I’ve watched so many YouTube videos and they all just slide out. About to scream lol

First, take a good half an hour to be calm before you try again.

I've found putting a thumb up your nose and two fingers either side of the stud helps. You then use the thumb to push the stud up at an angle almost against the edge of your nostril. You might then need to pause half way and grab the bent bit that should be just protruding on the outside and sort of guide it out.

Nose piercings are really awkward. I've got a ring in mine and I can't get that out either! I'd love to be one of these people that can change their nose jewellery for any occasion.

 

[Snippysnips]

What a lovely thing to do for your parents. We had a perfectly pleasant meal at a Cafe Rouge near Camden. It was a two course fixed menu at around £16 if memory serves correctly. I know it's still a chain restaurant but a little nicer than your average pub grub.

Thanks I'll check it out, am actually paying for the 3 of us to go down an stay for 2 nights so just trying to save as much as I can with things, it's already cost a far bit for trains an hotel, I won tickets to the HP studios so that will take up one day an wanted a nice meal for dinner on the day we get down

 

[Comewhinewithme]

Wear a shower cap or hazmat suit

Do you know I would if I could I hate the smell and think I have sensory issues so it gets to me more.

 

[Peach97]

Bit bizarre but can anyone recommend any shops that sell good quality bathers (for pool swimming as exercise not holiday)? I have had 2 from sports direct and they start to bobble really quickly. I don’t mind spending money as long as it’ll last.

Speedo and Nike!

 

[Snippysnips]

I’m dyslexic and generally I cope quite well, however I’ve got to order some pretty expensive signs at work. I made a mistake in the mock ups which is fine but I am conscious that I need to get this right. Is it unprofessional to send them to my customer and say, please could you double check these as I’m dyslexic. I’m the only one in the office next week so I have no one to ask there.

Am dyslexic as well, I'd be the same as you, does it need to be sent to the customer to check? Is there no family or friends that could help just the once if you are in alone

 

[CrackRatcher]

I think inclusive you will be ok as things are supposedly 65 % cheaper in turkey than UK
I googled .. to get perspective, a McDonalds meal there is about 20-15 liras . mid range restaurant 60-120 liras. apparently 434 lira a day is a good amount.

Sounds good, not anywhere near any McDonald’s or anything and I’ll be quite heavily pregnant so Money will be for arcades kids tatt that they want to buy and maybe a bag or 2

 

[Ibrokethegoddamnwheel]

It takes a good 6 to 12 months to really settle in to
Most jobs and feel completely comfortable. You’ve only been there 1 week!!!!! Give yourself a break. Take the pressure off. The things you were picked up on today - stop viewing that as “mistakes” - you are new, and you are learning the ropes. Don’t over think it.

Thanks for this, it’s all true. A week is nothing really is it?

That’s a big problem of mine - over thinking and putting pressure on myself.

 

[Happyvalley]

Will it work on this?🫣 I had previously attempted to get the wax out by stabbing it by the looks of it… ‍

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Take out the lumps of wax and put them in a wax burner?

 

[Snowjoke]

I love the chat option on any website, hate having to phone.

Me too!!! I’m too anti social for phone calls

 

[Very traditional]

Does anyone know where I can get the council food waste bags from? I don’t have the small bin only the big one and I don’t have the white tab to leave out for them.

In our area we can leave a note out on bin day and they’ll drop some around the following week, call the council call centre or we can collect from council offices, libraries, leisure centres and bizarrely, Costa Coffee!

 

[cuncuncuncucncnncncnc]

Its always tied up for hygiene reasons. it's just so annoying! I've sprayed some refresher spray on it and can still bloody smell it.

not sure where but you can actually buy hair perfume !

 

[WeepingCassandra]

Well really they shouldn't do that then, it was they that stated they would

If a job states there will be a GUARANTEED interview then sorry but am going expect one, it's not as if am in a city where there's 2000 people applying, am in a small run down town that I doupt they would have had over 30 apply

Like I said it’s there so they can’t shortlist everyone, then kick off anyone who needs reasonable adjustments at interview stage. So if you fit the criteria you’re guaranteed an interview - but if you don’t fit the criteria you don’t get an interview. It’s so that if you have every Tuesday in therapy or you can’t walk up stairs they change the date or location etc.

 

[Slaybutter]

Maybe a bizarre request but maybe someone can help? I walk a lot during my commute and it is wearing down my decent shoes. I don’t want to wear gym trainers on my way because it looks odd and easily makes holes in my tights by the heel. What other comfy trainer type shoes can I wear? I don’t want something clumpy, but definitely a trainer as opposed to shoe as I feel like my feet aren’t supported and hurt if I wear regular work shoes. I was thinking converses but I was wondering if anyone had any better suggestions.

Converses don’t really absorb shock though. I’d embrace the clump and go for Oofos.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

I am booked for a bikini wax tomorrow but I’m on my period. Can I still go?!

I wouldn’t go. The only reason being that, that whole area is really sensitive during my period.
But out of courtesy I would also ask the person doing the waxing. Not all beauticians would want to do it

 

[shadowcat5]

First time posting in this thread so here goes.
I have the opportunity to move to a beautiful part of the world. My child starts school next year. The new place has work and a really relaxed and beautiful lifestyle. Our current place has work and my child's friends, all of whom are going to different schools next year so catch ups will be limited to Sundays only.
I told my child that we're likely moving and they are kind of heart broken. How can I soften the blow? Also, how do you know if you're doing the right thing? After the initial settling in period, I feel confident we are both going to love it but right now, I'm feeling guilt. Any advice please? Thank you

Your child is very young (or did you mean starts secondary school next year?)
Tweens/teens is a little different but if they are 3/4, they will make friends easily.
Regardless, although you are moving them away from their friends, who's to say they will still be friends this time next year anyway?
Even age 12, I had friends who went to a different secondary school, we promised we'd still be friends. I haven't seen them since the last day of school in 2007. It's life at the end of the day. I only have 1 friend I went to school with now.
If they are young, I think the best way to soften the blow is to make it exciting - show them things in the area (park near by, new house etc).
If they are older then probably best to reason with them and explain that this is a good opportunity for both of you regarding lifestyle, work, etc.

 

[Kim Mild]

Didn’t know that Tattle has this thread so I’m gonna ask away (thank you for starting the thread, btw!)

I have difficulty in expressing what I think, and mostly what I feel. If I face a certain social complexities against someone else, I usually either get mad at them or to remain completely silent and refuse to talk to them for a few days until I can calm myself down and be rational.

lastly the thing that makes me infuriated the most is because the only role play friend that I have refused to continue our role play session using characters from certain tv shows/anime. I understand because he doesn’t like to write stories and reading them, he’s more of a visual type of person (prefers to see pictures, go to the museum more than reading a book). Though I understand the reason behind it, the thing that makes me disappointed is because when he decided to stop doing role play, is the same as the character’s life being taken away from me, as if they never existed. We’ve been doing role play on and off for 10 years and it felt surreal we are never going to have any role play session again.

I want to tell the person that I am mad and hurt, and that role play is a form of therapy for me (because I like to write and read) but I know I can’t push my hobbies to someone else. I know I’ll never have any role play session again with this person, but somehow it irks me to just sit still and not let them understand my POV (though I secretly wish that if they understood my POV perhaps they’ll continue role playing with me)


This kind of confusion from my end doesn’t only entail this one specific case, I also have difficulty in standing up for myself in a conflict. I try to understand their POV, but at the same time I want them to also know my POV without sounding like I’m pushing them around too much. By the end of the day I mostly just keep silent and let this anger inside me dissolved in a few days.

Nothing stays the same forever and it's ok to mourn the end of situations.


I would summarise your point of view, in your example, you could mention that you feel disappointed and upset at the thought of your role play not continuing, and leave it at that unless they ask you to elaborate.

 

[Snippysnips]

Re: The trees, post in your local buy and sell or buy nothing free group . People will want them i am sure.

Thanks, didn't know that was a thing, seems so random to post about trees for sale lol but I would imagine if someone had grounds for them they might be intrested

Wow, that's amazing growing them from so small, you must have a lot of patience, you've put your time, effort, faith in them. That's a good point you bring up about their roots too as sometimes it's difficult to imagine how big they will actually grow.

Thanks, was really surprised when I first seen the little saplings appear an it's been quite fun seeing them have to be replanted into bigger pots, like a growth stage I can look back on, the house I grew up in had two apple trees both matured, it was a long garden an they were right at the bottom an I'll always remember my dad telling me it was because they needed to be away from the house so I've always remembered that I can't plant anything big too close, sadly houses just don't come with big gardens anymore, seems more an more areas would rather cram as many houses in as they can an leave you with a postage stamp gardens

 

[BettyCrockerr]

I bought a camelbak rip off from Amazon last year, forgot all about it and left it hanging in my garage still with water in the bladder. It might have been squash actually Can I clean it after all this time or shall I just bin it and try and get a new bladder?? If I can clean it what’s the best thing to use? Thank you

Buy a new one!!!!!

 

[DaimIt]

I don't need advice on this one but opinions.

I received this PM on FB from someone that I have only interacted with once or twice on our towns local FB pages.

In your opinion what do you think she is asking me for?


Good evening Purrrrrrr this is a bit of a long shot and probably very short notice. I’m reaching out for support and can’t think why we haven’t met as we’re both on the same page regarding the covid jab etc.
I’m currently going through some mental health issues and I find the ( removed the name but its a a garden centre a bit out of my area) so very therapeutic. Would you be interested in going for a coffee there tomorrow and I will cover petrol costs? I know a lot of people who drive but most of them just don’t message or respond to me like they use to. It’s probably too short notice. Hope you’re well.


I will post my reply and her reply back tomorrow but just wanted some feedback on this as I totally read it wrong. but no matter how many times I read it and even with her reply etc it still reads the same way to me

to me i think she very poorly worded that she ll buy you coffee and pay for gas if you drive her to the garden centre . But the way she is wording it , saying she wants support etc, and

Yes!! That is what she wanted. I thought she wanted to chat over coffee as she was having some problems.
but turns out after my long reply saying sadly I could not take her there but I can chat if she would like that. but got a awful reply back from her.

Let me fetch mine and her replies and will post now. I got it wrong but you two would have known. hahaha

My reply... ( next morning)


Hi blank
lovely to hear from you. Unfortunately I am agoraphobic and although I now go out. meeting up with a stranger in a strange place would be impossible. But I don't mind chatting here, maybe until we know each other better? ... Also do you go to stand in the park etc? My daughter goes there to chat with like minded people and they also meet up on a Tuesday evening at a local pub. its very casual and people just drop in and out as the feel... I could find out the details if you like? my daughter is coming here this morning to pick up her children, so can ask her then? But if not you can always chat with me here . Many of us are suffering right now, it's been and still is a very intense time. You are not on your own or alone. xx



Her reply to that


Hi Purrrrrrr Thanks for replying.
Firstly, I have myself a lift.
Secondly, please don’t be offended by what I am about to say but I don’t do long chats on text behind a screen. It’s avoiding the issue. I have managed mild agoraphobia for over 30 years as a result of a sexual attack from which I possibly saved myself. I used cognitive behavioural therapy to help deal with the problem which has largely worked except when it comes to being in isolated spots outside. I worked taxis into my budget for many years for dealing with the isolated areas but now the money has run out. This is the resurfaced issue in recent weeks that is my main mental health issue now. I have been very fortunate in that for all the years I did community campaigning for which I asked for nothing in return people have helped me a lot in recent weeks and been incredibly supportive. I have also reached out to new neighbours in face, not from a computer or behind a screen. I feel so very sad for you that you are going to spend your days behind a screen which without I’m sorry to have to say will achieve nothing. I’m not going to waste my days on negativity and social media. I spend hours daily doing meditation which helps me a lot. No I’m not on my own because I’m reaching out to the right people. But you are Purrrrrrr and I feel very sad for you that you are. Look after yourself X

omg her reply is horrendously rude. I would have replied that she should spend some time on learning some manners and how to speak politely to others . Meditiation doesnt help rude people .
wow .