The advice thread for random problems

[Purrrrrrr]

Just a quick one.
My daughter hurt her wrist yesterday playing netball. It’s not broken. She can still move it. However, she’s clearly done some damage as she can’t use it much. She can’t hold anything in that hand and it you touch it. Even lightly she winces in pain. I don’t want to waste hospital staff’s time especially as my local hospital is struggling at the moment. But I feel like she should be seen, but also as it’s not broken I’m unsure what they will be able to do?
None of my children have ever had an injury like this and I’m not too sure if I’m being over cautious

My daughter broke her ankle in two places and was walking on it. So its always best to get it seen to and let a DR/nurse decide if it needs a x-ray.

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

oh i’m sorry! i used to get them frequently (always in my right eye) for days at a time if i was tired or if i’d had too much screen time. i found the only way to really help was to restrict my phone/computer use where i could so my eyes weren’t stressed, and to lie down with a cold/lukewarm cloth over my eyes for 15 minutes or so in the evenings. slices of cucumber work too, or one of those gel eye masks.

it’s so annoying though, i really feel for you. my optician (when i went to him about mine) said that they basically tend to happen when the eye is worn out, so i would maybe think about anything that you’ve been doing over the past few days (working on something that means a lot of computer time for example) and trying to cut that down.

I'm going to try the warm cloth now, thank you!

It started when I was on my days off so if anything I was using computers less. I'm wondering if it's stress related. There's a particular issue I'm dealing with at the moment which is incredibly stressful.

 

[If you say so...]

Well what are you expecting people to say?! This is the most juvenile nonsense! Who lies about a soda stream?!

I love that it’s wound you up so much

 

[emerald]

Try Superdry, up until last year I had been wearing it for 4 Winters. Last year I accidentally got gloss paint on it hence why it’s only up until last year haha!

Seconding superdry, mine is a dream. It's the only thing I look forward to digging out when it gets cold

Update for my train situation... there are now no trains running at all (it appears) from my home station on Saturday... so that solves that problem

 

[JoeBloggs]

Does anyone else crochet? How do you stop your hands from getting sore? Am still new to this, only learned a little while ago an then took a break an now gotten back into it after a shops ordered some of my stuff but from my index finger right down an along my thumb gets really sore an ill need to spend all weekend making my stuff

I’m a knitted but took up crochet in lockdown. I don’t hold it properly because I’m so used to knitting but I had to stop because my little finger hurt so much. Sorry that’s not helpful, but I feeel your pain

 

[JoeBloggs]

THANK YOU

yes they said they were part of this

Again there are some exceptions, if you read about it;

Employers who have signed up to ‘Disability Confident’ commit to offer disabled people an interview if they meet the minimum criteria for the job vacancy, subject to some exceptions. The scheme is not legally binding.

It is important to note that there may be occasions where it is not practicable or appropriate to interview all disabled people that meet the minimum criteria for the job. For example, in certain recruitment situations such as high number of applications, seasonal and high-peak times, the employer may wish to limit the overall numbers of interviews offered to both disabled people and non-disabled people.

In these circumstances the employer could select the disabled candidates who best meet the minimum criteria for the job rather than all of those that meet the minimum criteria, as they would do for non-disabled applicants.

You have to remember, you are likely to not be the only person with a disabled person who applied so perhaps there was someone more suited. I know its a kick in the teeth but it is the job world. You are not going to get every interview or job you go for. It is a waste of everyone's time just to interview you for the sake of it.

 

[JoeBloggs]

I have a silver bracelet from Pandora - nothing fancy it just means a lot to me as it was the first bracelet my partner ever got me years ago. I’ve kept it in good condition until now where I’ve accidentally forgot to take it off when using a harsh chemical spray. Unfortunately the spray has got a few specks on the bracelet and there are now just circular specks all round the bracelet. Is there anything I can do to fix it or make it better or will I just have to suck it up?!

It’s just a reaction and isn’t permanent, silver goes black in the air if you don’t wear it as it oxides. Get a polishing cloth or ever soak it in some washing liquid and warm water and rub dry.

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

I have a man problem that I'd appreciate some advice on please. I know what I should do but need it clarified if that makes sense..
I came out of a pretty horrific 10 year relationship 2 years ago, towards the end of that relationship I started speaking to an old male friend that I hadn't spoken to for years, nothing in it, just chat, nothing sleazy etc. Since breaking up with my ex, we've talked a lot, met up, I feel like I've been there for him quite a lot with things he's had going on & really grew to like him, he told me he had feelings for me and we get on really well. However, we haven't spoken now in a week, I have covid which he knows about because I posted something on my story about it & he's not even checked in to see how I am. This has happened before, I deleted him off my social media and then he txt me (forgot to block him) saying he was hurt that I'd removed him and asked the reason why, I told him I just didn't feel effort from him and didn't want to waste my time when things aren't being reciprocated, he apologised and said it wouldn't happen again. I wouldnt usually say this in public but the last time i seen him, we had sex and he lasted about 10 seconds, he kept apologising and i made him feel comfortable, didnt make a big deal out of it but i could tell he was embarrassed. But now he's making no effort again, I know I should just delete him again but his reaction last time makes me feel bad. I haven't messaged him as I've been waiting to see if he actually does reach out. What would you do? Just delete him or reach out to him? I don't want to play in to his hands.

My advice would be to walk away. For whatever reason he isn't prepared to make an effort. This is likely nothing to do with you and won't be because of anything you have or haven't done. He doesn't seem to be ready to commit to a relationship. You mention it's not the first time he's upset you. He isn't making you happy.

If it was me I would send a message of explanation and then immediately delete and block. The hard bit is sticking to it though. You can only do it if you mean it, otherwise it just continues a negative pattern.

Sorry you're in this situation, it's hard when someone plays with your emotions.

 

[Snippysnips]

Has anyone any advice for taking a child on holiday with a different surname to you? We go every year and it hasn’t been a problem I just get all our birth certificates out etc if they ask which they only have once but that’s usually when coming back form Spain this time we’re coming back from Turkey and Iv got in my head the uk border control will be stricter and maybe even the Turkey one will be too.. I mean it’s very obvious he’s British his pale white hair blue eyes (the total opposite of me) we go in 3 weeks and we have no contact with his dad and haven’t since he was born.. am I just over thinking it? Will 2 copies of birth certificates and notice of birth be enough proof?

Just take birth certificates, my cousin has two kids with her surname an the 3rd with her exs surname, she's never had a problem before with taking the birth certificates, they might ask about it but shouldn't be a problem

 

[Snippysnips]

Maybe contact citizens advice they may be able to point you in the right direction .

Thanks, wasn't sure if they would be right or not, like am not sure if most would just tell me it must be a scam an to forget it, but honestly am getting more an more dissapointed, I seriously want to get out to the studios an paying for London will be expensive as it is without having to pay out for tickets

 

[Justhereforthebantslll]

I managed to get it open prizing the door with a spade. That’s how old the door is. I won’t be able to lock it. But at-least I can close it. I just have to remember to make sure that I lock the other door (I usually always do!)

I did panic a bit as I live on a main road, if someone saw me prizing the door open with a spade to look at the door you couldn’t tell it was prized open. Minimal damage was done.

 

[Mamacita]

If she doesn't want to, leave her to it. It may be that she is embarrassed or scared and someone pushing you makes you less likely to go.

Yeah I agree. Also think that things like exercising are quite hard if you want to do it and pretty much impossible to get motivated for if you don't have any internal drive to make a change, so someone pushing won't help. Gently mentioning it from time to time might help to plant a seed so that eventually she might decide herself she wants to do it

 

[TheGlossy]

I have a hairdresser’s appointment on Friday to finally get my usual color back. I haven’t been to the hairdresser since the start of the pandemic and my full hair has reverted to my natural color which I hate (jet black). I haven’t sported my natural color in more than a decade and don’t feel myself when I look at the mirror. It makes my soft features more harsh and masculine.

I’m still debating whether I should cancel the appointment because I don’t see the purpose in getting my hair done if I never go out and work from home most of the time. Getting my hair color done would be more of a confidence booster but I honestly don’t see the purpose as my life is BS at the moment (death of a parent a few months ago, work stress, detesting my job with and coworkers).

I don’t know if it’s worth it. It’s within budget but I’m thinking of other things I can do with that amount. I’m torn.

 

[Purrrrrrr]

I dismantled mine recently and it was much easier, just had to hook the TV on and put the last ‘holding’ screws in.

This thread is so needed

I tried hanging it the "correct" way but it was way too hard so took the bracket apart and did it.

Great idea for a thread @Purrrrrrr ...I'd make sure it's a solid wall before you hang it ,my son has leds on his TV wouldn't say it adds to the viewing but they do look good .

On the topic of TV's does anyone have any bother with their TV switching off if they put Netflix / Prime on ? I've had this problem with two different makes of TV so don't know if it's Sky Q to blame .

My firestick goes back to home all the time hence buying a new TV with all the apps built-in, but never had the TV switch off

They say LEDs stop glare etc. just wondered if it does or just looks pretty. I use LED around my window in the bedroom to grow seeds.

Is it safe to park in London, especially in the evening? Thinking about the Stamford Hill area?

If anyone can provide info I'd be really grateful.

I don't live in London anymore but never once had any problems when I did, moved to Royston ( A tiny town ) and that same week some kids destroyed my car,

 

[Purrrrrrr]

shockwave therapy? my husband is having this at the moment on his Achilles! He’s only had two sessions so far so I can’t comment but his physio is really really good and this treatment was recommended to him by a sports doctor (was a running injury) , so I think it does work for some people.

Sorry just reading back my answer that wasn’t actually very helpful! I can report back in a few weeks….

let me know how he gets on mine hasn't started yet. Hope it works for him that means there is hope for me

 

[ellafaux]

Hey angels! Does anyone know who this blogger is, or where the dress is from? All I can seem to find on google search are copies of it but want to find the original. I thought someone might know who the blogger in the photo is and I could find it that way.

Thank you

 

[BaffledWarthog]

my pandoras would turn black from storing them on my dresser or on bathroom counter i guess ? the white bag they come in doubles as a cleaning cloth .

Thanks, I didn't know that!

It’s just a reaction and isn’t permanent, silver goes black in the air if you don’t wear it as it oxides. Get a polishing cloth or ever soak it in some washing liquid and warm water and rub dry.

I was just worried as when it happened I instantly washed it in washing up liquid and polished it but nothing was happening. Had a shower last night and most of it disappeared, woke up this morning and it has all disappeared.

Thanks everyone!

 

[Zaggerzoo]

Put a mat over it

Id probably trip over the mat and break something else

 

[ElectricDreams]

I don't think you're required to test come Friday .

Just my luck to miss out by a few days supposed to be on a cruise on Tuesday which will have to be rearranged hopefully they'll let us push it back a week or we'll have to cancel it completely.

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

I don't like the anti glare coating as it makes my glasses smear more. I'm always cleaning them when they've had the anti glare.

That's really interesting, thanks for sharing. I've had to start cleaning my glasses loads as they get really smeared which isn't something I'd noticed before. It actually coincides with when I added the anti glare. I added it to help with reducing migraines when looking at screens and for driving etc but the smearing might actually be causing more of an issue!