The advice thread for random problems #6

[didisaythatoutloudoops]

Can you keep him in again for a few weeks and not tell her and tell her to let you know if he carries on doing it in the next few weeks as you've made some changes hoping he'll stop going elsewhere to go to the toilet. Then if she complains you can say well he hasn't been outside since I spoke to you

I think it will be my last-resort option - firstly because he's a cat who absolutely loves sunbathing on the patio, being in and out, and he's lucky enough that our garden(s) are within a courtyard and therefore safe from traffic etc. It's a lovely life for him. Secondly, I get the feeling that once I keep him in she'll ever accept me letting him out again - I think that's her end goal, she's moaned about cats (mine and others) here and there over many years.

Has she asked you to do anything about it?
Often times older people with nothing to do just wants to be social and it can take the form of moaning about things.
Maybe engage with her a little also ask her to take some photo evidence when she catches your cat in the act.

She hasn't asked outright but has said 'she's desperate' and has insisted she's spent 400 quid on plants (I have seen absolutely no difference/nothing being added or brought in - we share a drive). I also just don't physically understand how one cat can produce enough wee each day to destroy a garden that is about half an acre! She seems to just want him inside but won't outright ask for it. She also seems disappointed when I offer solutions like bird nets, curry powder, even sonic repellers etc.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Are these loop earplugs comfy? I normally get earache if I have things inside for too long. But would love a pair

 

[TheGlossy]

Still not sure I would message or expect one in return

Thank you - appreciate the advice!

 

[Wonkyteeth]

I’m not sure if this is the right thread but I could do with some advice…

My boyfriend of 6 and a half years (27M) has chosen to spend Christmas and New Year’s with his family in America (we are from the UK). He will be away for 2 weeks. For context, his brother passed away earlier on this year, so I understand the family dont want to be home this year.
My issue is that despite already being away for 2 weeks, he has also booked an extra week there to go on a road trip with one of his friends.
I feel really hurt that despite not seeing me for 2 weeks over Christmas, he’s now made it so that the entire run up to Christmas will be spent apart.

He’s also spent the previous 2 years away for Christmas, and has not invited me. It’s only when I brought it up that he invited me this year, however, due to family issues, I feel like I’m not in the position to leave them this year. He doesn’t believe he is doing anything wrong.

Am I right to feel upset? Or should I cut him some slack due to the circumstances?

 

[miss n thropy]

You should be able to have it valued at a jeweller. The hallmark will show how old it is and then they would know it was an heirloom.

A friend of mine has a lot of old ivory heirlooms she had valued even though it’s illegal to import anymore x

edited to add, she cannot sell it however, only to a museum or some such if they were interested.

 

[JoeBloggs]

Mr C used to have a friend who was a bit (a lot) of a prick and who had a big problem with me. Essentially, he doesn’t like women who have stuff to say for themselves and don’t put up with bad behaviour. I never tried to stop Mr C seeing him but I wouldn’t socialise with him. Mr C acknowledged he was a prick at times but he doesn’t have many friends and he’d known this guy years so he was hesitant about dropping him.

They fell out a number of years ago after friend’s girlfriend claimed I’d said things I hadn’t and my husband called him out on his behaviour towards me generally. They didn’t speak for a couple of years until we got married and Mr C asked if he could invite former friend and his girlfriend in the spirit of making up with them. I was reluctant but said ok fine. They started being friendly again for a couple of years then the prick did something to Mr C which was a major betrayal - involved going behind his back and telling family and friends a lie about Mr C. Things blew up and they stopped speaking again.

We recently saw them at a mutual friend’s birthday and chatted amicably but it was clear to me that prick hadn’t really changed. He happened to be in the area yesterday and they met for a drink. Prick has invited us for a weekend at their house. I am really torn about going. I don’t honestly want to but Mr C has not had a good time recently with one thing and another and he really needs some friendly faces.

This all sounds incredibly juvenile, but I just can’t decide if I should let bygones be bygones for Mr C’s sake and go for the weekend or say no.

I feel for you, Mr Bloggs has a very similar friend.

Why don't you suggest he goes alone and spend some one on one time with his friend and that you would like some time alone?

 

[Medusah80]

Parents of teenagers especially those off to college in September (16-17yrs old) roughly how much pocket money are you giving your kids
my kid is currently on £25 a week is That enough or do I need to increase it? It’s just money to use towards food and drink when they go out with friends
mobile phone/clothes/ toiletries/hair stuff I pay for that

 

[JoeBloggs]

Has anyone got any tips or experience about getting the maximum out of insurance claim? I’ve been victim of an extremely traumatic event which has put me out of my home for 5 months so far. Solicitors have not been interested as no one was severed in half or anything .

Without details is hard to say and I appreciate why you haven't given them. Are you looking to get the compensation out of your own insurers or a third parties? Or are you looking to go after your insurance company outside of the claim via solicitors?

Usually, they would be covering the cost for alternative accommodation, the costs to repair any damage and and medial needs you have as a result of the incident. It would all depend on your specific policy if there was anything more in terms of compensation.

 

[Former_Antelopee]

Hey I'm mid 30s and I think my dad is abusing me. I could be completely wrong but either way he's making me feel like poo on shoes.

*he is always shouting and swearing at me

*regularly threatening to kick me out of the home

*telling me get a job (unfortunately I recently lost mine as jobs were cut)

*opens my bank statements and loudly asking what I'm spending my money on/telling me off for spending my money

*screaming at me in public

I can't afford to leave but I can't say anything because it makes him worse idk what to do.

Has he always been like that or is it a new thing?

 

[Loppylou89]

I would let her know. As awful as it might be I’d want to know if Mr Lolz were entertaining other women

Thank you. I’ve had women message me before asking if I had been speaking to the partners and I’ve always told them the truth (I promise I was told by all these people that they’re single and I always keep the evidence) but I’ve never had to go to someone and tell them

 

[NowIsGood]

I had a chip repaired on insurance last year, renewed at a lower rate through same insurance company this year.

I like the sound of that!

 

[cowtastrophe]

Going to the hairdressers….. do you tip? If yes, how much?

I’ve never tipped before, partly as I’ve never found someone decent before, and partly as the prices are so expensive I begrudge having to pay extra. The current hairdresser I see is actually really great, first time in decades that I’ve gone back a second time, but when it came time to pay, and it’s £200 every 8 weeks, she hesitated at the card machine and I felt like it was expected. She didn’t say anything, and I’ve booked again, but now I fear that I’m being rude, what should I do?

I always tip mine 10-15% because they are very very good and lovely to boot. £200 every 8 weeks is a lot though, I think I’d baulk at tipping when I was going that frequently, tbh.

 

[Snippysnips]

Anyone know what could fix this, or if I need to contact those that built it?

My pc was working fine with my old router, we recently got fibre optic an new cables put in an suddenly my pc is showing this

The pc can still find (what I assume) the neighbours WiFi at times, an the router is showing up on other devices like my phone an tablet, but the router doesn't show up on my pc, I've reset everything, uninstalled an reinstalled drivers etc

Right now am using the ethernet cable but ideally it's not what I want, with a free roam bunny I try to limit wires (plus I hate looking at them) so my router is usually behind the TV, but where the pc is the wire wouldn't be long enough to go from router to pc since I can't really move the pc, so I really need the WiFi to be working

Just wondering if anyone knows what I could do before I end up contacting those that built it to see what they can do, it's a 10 month old pc so it's not old enough to have problems

 

[Snippysnips]

Any advice on the best overnight curlers for soft curls? Preferably ones that won't feel like a rock to sleep on

 

[qqwertyy]

If you fill in an online consultation they give you options for how long etc.
ETA if you come off them on 28th after your spa weekend you’ll prob get your period over and done with before your holiday so won’t need to take them twice.

 

[FeelingPrawny]

I couldn't find a thread to ask this question, but has anyone had a driving assessment with the RDAC for disability before? Could you tell me what it entails and how they found it. Along with if they recommend adaptations for a car, how does that work etc.

 

[Jas28]

I have a friend who is asking whether their tenancy agreement is valid. The tenancy is an ast and has been signed by the landlord and tenant however the address part wasn’t filled so it is blank. Is the tenancy agreement still valid?

 

[Pesky Tarian]

I’ve just restarted the gym after 12 months (had a baby and didn’t have time to go). I’m at the weight I want to stay at but I have no muscle tone at all! There’s a poster for a free PT session. I’m tempted to do it so they can show me what weights to do and keep it with it myself as I’ve absolutely no idea wtf I’m doing unless it’s cardio. My question is, how do I do it but not get caught into signing up whilst staying polite?!

I'm in a similar position. Have you tried youtube/Pinterest?. I got the set I do from Pinterest. My aim is always to get in and out the gym with as little human interaction as possible .

 

[Savewaterdrinkgin]

Hi all, hope it’s ok to post.. I thought I’d caught myself on a rose thorn while gardening last night but it’s still sore and a bit itchy, I’m wondering if it’s a tick. What do you guys think?

 

[megx]

I've never posted here so don't know if this is the right place but I'm looking to upgrade to the iPhone 16 pro or the 17. The only thing that's making me really struggle to decide is the back camera on the 16 pro. Any advice/suggestions would be so appreciated