The advice thread for random problems #6

[cowtastrophe]

Do you have a local walk-in centre? We have one at our hospital. They should help you if you have an infection

I tried them and they said they have to have a referral from my GP who is of course, closed today. So they said to call 111 and they could refer me so I’ve done that so am waiting for a call back. Good suggestion, cheers!

 

[Pesky Tarian]

How much would you give for a wedding of an ex colleague? I don't see her often at all but went to the hen party

I agree with @JoeBloggs. M and S do a nice wine in a wooden box you can personalise for £22.

 

[cowtastrophe]

@cowtastrophe try switching tooth pastes to one without Sodium Lauryl Sulfate (it's in a lot of them but can be irritating) and using a decongestant for a few nights a week to help you breathe through your nose during the night to avoid a dry mouth. Get a fresh, very soft tooth brush and be very gentle when brushing.

Up your water intake. Drinking lots will help flush your mouth. Sage tea would be especially beneficial, it disinfects without drying out (as camomile would do). You can either drink it if you don't mind the taste or use it to gargle with regularly.

I'd stay away from food with lots of sugar as to not feed the bad bacteria too much. Also avoid food that is very acidic, such as lemons, oranges, pineapple, tomato based products etc which may weaken your gums and cheeks, or food that has sharp edges like crunchy bread, granola, and so on because it can lead to micro cuts on your gums and cheeks which then may get infected.

You can also get a medication called "Pyralvex" which you should be able to get without prescription, which you can apply to the ulcers directly and helps fight inflammation and will also help with the pain. It tastes disgusting but works a treat.

I would also keep on trying to get an appointment - sometimes, your mouth's bacterial balance can become disturbed and a course of meds is needed to rebalance it.

Thank you! That’s super helpful!

 

[Jas28]

Any advice for sagging cheeks? I don’t really have wrinkles yet but starting to notice my skins isn’t as firm as before. What treatments are recommended for that. Apparently weight loss can give the illusion of firmer/younger face I’ve read

 

[Rodneytrotter]

Id like some advice regarding cleaners if anyone can help I've never had one before but I'm considering hiring one on an adhoc basis as sometimes when I have a lot of work on i let housework slide a lot.

But I just wondered how it works. Do they have a key to your property and just let themselves in? Do they use their own stuff? Do they tidy as well?

 

[Loppylou89]

I’m new to this thread but it’s the only advice one I could find.

I’ve just found out that a guy that would randomly message me asking me to meet him, go for drinks, stay in a hotel etc, has a gf/wife. I never really replied to him or met him but I feel awful. He posted photos of him and his partner and I decided to have a look at her profile and seen that they had been together for at least two years in which time I had spoken to him.

He had originally told me he was single otherwise I would never have entertained his messages.

I then messaged him asking if he had a partner this whole time and he blocked me instantly. I got screenshots of our messages so I have proof.

Part of me wants to tell her because I would want to know if I was her but I also don’t want to be “that person”

What would you do?

 

[Snippysnips]

Not sure what phone you have but mine has digital wellbeing tools in settings already and that has time spent on apps and you can set limits. I've also used an app called block where you can set blocks to come on at certain time, for a certain time period, and specific apps. Might be worth doing though I know you said you don't want to block stuff, but it lets you unblock it, it's just a bit more effort, with some of the apps you need to restart your phone.

Instagram also has limits where it will give you a reminder when you pass it, though you can choose to ignore the limit for the day

I have to say the only thing that works for me though is leaving my phone out of reach, in another room or if I'm in bed somewhere where I need to get up to get it

It's a Google pixel I have, but am due a upgrade, what phone do you have that offers this as I don't believe mine does

Honestly if there was an app out there that said you've been on FB for a hour so get off your arse, that would be great lol

I'll look at insta as well for limiting my time on it, I try to keep myself busy outside of work with crafts but I just find myself going back to my phone an its a habit I really want to kick, I did try at night leaving my phone downstairs when I went to bed but have found myself taking it back up again, the only reason I keep it close during the day is because someone is always looking for something or needing something (a work colleague snapped the key in the door at work an freaked out) so I prefer it for calls or texts to be where I can hear it

 

[boatofbubbles]

Wondering if there is (if so please point me in the right way) a stopping smoking thread?

 

[Former_Antelopee]

I wonder it it’s your sinuses? They can affect teeth plus give headache, earache etc

I was going to suggest this as well. I had sinusitis and my cheeks and jaw/teeth hurt for a few weeks. Had antibiotics for it and the pain only started after finishing the antibiotics. It seemed to get worse at night as well

 

[Mamacita]

I don’t even know if I’m in the right place but I was hoping someone would have advice.
I have PMDD and have taken two days off sick this year. Not back to back to separate days.
My boss has contacted my dr for my medical records. I had to give permission and was told it was my choice but the letter basically said if I didn’t it would go against me.

Need to add people I work with have been off since September last year and they’re fine but my two days hell no

What do you need advice on?

 

[Former_Antelopee]

How much would you give for a wedding of an ex colleague? I don't see her often at all but went to the hen party

 

[Mamacita]

Bio washing powder / liquid. You can get a special "sports one" by Dylon, but normal is fine. I also use Zoflora or Dettol laundry cleanser in the detergent drawer. I think most important is to wash straight away and not let it sit. If I'm not doing a full wash, I often just do the quick 15 minute one with Zoflora so any BO bacteria is rinsed out and then fully wash as normal.

Thank you and the others who responded. I will try that and I have also heard vinegar might be good.

Good shout with washing it asap, it's probably my biggest issue

 

[boomska]

I applied for a internal position at my work; different department to mine. Didn't even an interview. Spoke to my manager about it, and I was able to get an overview where they said they were very stict with the recuirment but if I enjoyed the overview, they would like to offer me an interview.

I've got my interview on Wendesday and when I got offered an interview, my anxiety has been through the roof. it's more money but it's shift patterns (which i knew before hand) and it's 12hr shifts i.e. 6am-6pm, 3 days off, 3 days on + standby.

I'm currently struggling being close to burnout in my current role which I think has spured me on to apply for this role. my friend (who is currently work with) was also going to apply so we started saying how great it would be if they took us both on.

But as I said earlier, my anixety has gone through the roof since i've been offerered an interview and I don't think I'm doing it for the right reasons? yes more money will be great and there's more room for development in the department that I'm going for the interview for.

But the shift pattern works put off (I currently work a Mon-Friday 9am-5pm basically) and I struggle when I've got a week off with and my friends are at work, so god forbid when I've got 3 days off and I've got nothing to do? plus one of the reaosns I'm close to being burnout is due to a team that I may/may not have to work with in this new position. PLus i worry that it'll impact my social life at weekends/evenings as that's when I do my hobbies or see friends etc. I had a part time job, alongside my current role previously and

SO I don't know what to do. Should I still go for the interview and pray that I don't get it? Or message them tomorrow and respectfully bow out now? i've been in currently role for 4 years so not sure if it's something new that's scarying me or if it's just my gut telling me somethings off?
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If my profile views are turned off on TikTok, even if someone else has them turned on, can they see I’ve looked at their profile?

Nah you're good!! I've got my turn off, but my friend has her turned on, so we did an experiment to see if she could see me stalking her page and she couldn't, so you're good to go

 

[HoGi]

It was a significant wedding anniversary for us a few weeks ago and hardly anybody sent us well wishes, by that I mean we had 100 guests at the wedding, we got 4 cards and that's it. I was so upset on the day, me and my husband had a little date night but honestly throughout the day I was just so down about it.

Since then one of my bridesmaids has sent an apology (one week later) and we received a card 8 days later from a close family member.

I feel so torn about how to deal with it, things like this affect me so much emotionally but then if I ever say anything to anyone about me being upset I'm always made out as if I'm being dramatic/told people have busy lives etc.

As a side note I remember every little thing about my nearest such as first cinema dates with kids etc never mind anniversaries and will always message! My husband tells me that's my issue...I make too much effort and get nothing back but I also find it hard not to, that's the way I am

The weddings where I have been part of the wedding party i.e. bridesmaid I have bought a card for 1st anniversary and that's it. Like other posters have said I will comment on a social media post but otherwise I would only acknowledge it if I was invited to a party etc

Wedding anniversaries are for the couple to celebrate no one else.

 

[griftalo]

What are kids adidas trainers like size wise ? Do people usually find they are similar sizing to high street shoes? I'll likely be ordering onlinw

I’ve found them fairly generous.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

What colour is the jumper?

It's this one

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Thank you I’m just being silly I know with the feeling they are going to fall out, think lack of sleep & being in pain has heightened it more for me, I will ring 111 see if they can help & pluck up the courage to see a dentist, my own fault for putting it off for so long,

I wonder it it’s your sinuses? They can affect teeth plus give headache, earache etc

 

[Thank(space)you]

Yeah is in my notes that some of the is in work triggered. Like stress defo adds to my symptoms.
I’m going to check my contract now never thought of that.
What will they be able to see? Is it just related to this illness or absolutely everything? Not that I think there’s alot more to see lol

If it's full medical records, it's absolutely everything. If it's just records related to mental health, then it would be exactly that. Please also note some doctors charge up to £50 for medical records so be aware! It also takes a while (30 ish days) for them to be compiled usually, it's not an instant thing.

 

[yogiessexdubs]

Sometimes when the tracking details are issued you can go in and set a diversion?

Thank you, that’s what I’m hoping!

 

[Snippysnips]

I have an Aygo.

Pros:
Rear cameras!
It's very compact so parking is very easy to find, perfect city car. I easily fit into the tight spaces of our (built in the 70's, so small dimensions) car park where the newer SUVs and even regular cars struggle.
Very little repair work, ever - never had to do anything to pass the MOT.
Very reliable, drove 1000 miles on it over a weekend, no complaints.
Mileage/gallon is good.

Neutrals:
Back seats are easy to lay down and take back up again, booth is not that roomy but not too bad for a small car. I have transported IKEA furniture, bicycles and even a queen size bed with it (taken apart).
I have the cabriolet roof edition, which is a nice gimmick but I never really use it. Useful for transporting beds, you can stick the longer pieces out of the roof.
Sleeping in it can be done if you're small enough

Cons:
Quite underpowered for what it says on the tin. My old Fiat panda had less horsepower but felt much more dynamic. I need to use a lowish gear to get up to speed to merge on the motorway (which uses a lot of petrol at that point) and when I use the AC, it is noticabely draining power from the engine.
Only 4 seats.

Thanks for this, so far pros and neutral sounds quite good, it's probably only going be me so 4 seats is fine, however how do you feel it is with hills? If it's underpowered, I have quite a steep hill round a corner I need to take for work, it's not huge but it's still a little steep an almost a blind corner going round, how would the aygo handle that, my folks have a cross land an have to go into 2nd gear to handle it an even then it feels a slight struggle to get it up an round