The advice thread for random problems #6

[HoGi]

My housemate keeps waking me when she gets ready for work in the morning due to how thin our walls but a little bit due to her making uncessary sound.

I’m thinking about getting loop earplugs as normal ones don’t really do the job and fall out in the night lol

I was just thinking about the ones at £19 because the sleep ones are £45.
Anyone had them or can recommend a cheaper brand? Lol
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I have the loop quiet 2 (sleep ones) and they were less than £20 at black friday, currently £25, definitely not £45. Even the plus are only £30. So not sure where you are getting £45 from. Me and my husband use them and really rated them.


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[Snippysnips]

I did try a water pistol to distract her - as in squirting next to her, not at her! It does work sometimes, but if I'm not in the garden with her, I have to keep stopping work and racing downstairs to see to her. She's only two so still quite young.

I've got to admit sometimes I do shout out of sheer frustration when she's going ballistic but you're right, it's not a good habit and I will stop.

Thank you both.

I get that, they can push your buttons an you do end up shouting, but yeah unfortunately shouting will worsen it because then they think "great now we both are yelling" lol

Have you tried some chew toys like the kong ones? you can get ones you can put peanut butter inside or other jams, an sometimes the licking an biting them can tire their jaw out which can sometimes help

But if you have already had complaints I would try an keep her out the garden unless you can be there an try an keep her in house with plenty things for her to play with, maybe even try some of those yt channels that are designed for dogs to watch, just because you can actually go to your council about dogs barking as it will come under a statutory nuisance, there are many steps to it, first being you would talk to your neighbour about it (the complaint would be the same) next keeping a log, then it would start to go to the council an eventually it will result in fines

 

[Melian]

I did ask for a companion a few times. I was sort of aware there was something that they were doing that I might not be able to do. But there were a lot of us going and I knew I wasn't going to spend time with the same people

 

[Snippysnips]

I’d just like a little moan and vent. Judgement free please and if anybody has advice please give it.

Our dog has gone blind. It had been gradual but overnight it’s like she’s gone completely blind. This was two weeks ago.

Anyway it’s been awful. She keeps bashing her head and eyes. You cannot leave her for even a minute as she’ll start looking for you. She won’t wear goggles or the halo we got.

She doesn’t seem to be able to map our downstairs, even though she’s lived here her whole life and she’s 13.

I cannot do anything as she wants to be close. Now this isn’t the issue. The issue is she won’t sit or lay. She keeps walking and then bashing herself. It’s so bad because I can’t go to the toilet even.

It’s been stressful. I’m on edge all the time and so is Mr Lolz. I honestly don’t know how much longer I can mentally take this. At the moment her quality of life is still good so I won’t have her put down. But I feel awful for even thinking it sometimes.

Poor girl, does she wear her collar about the house? I've seen people do makeshift bumpers for blind dogs, it goes on their collar an whenever they get close to a door or wall it bumps off it an helps the dog know there's something there so they don't walk into it, but it's going take time for everyone

 

[cowtastrophe]

Does anyone use reflective window film, an would it reflect cars lights back similar to a mirror?

Arsehole neighbours across from me have done up the house an done away with the front garden to put in a extended driveway since apparently having one that fits two cars isn't enough however it now means their car when in this new part is sitting right opposite my living room window an they will sit there for up to an hour sometimes with their full headlights on

While I could shut the blinds I don't see why I should have too, the room feels more closed in when they are shut an I like having them open, so aside from putting up an actual mirror to shine the light back at them I was thinking about getting a reflective firm but am not sure what's the best to go for or if it will work the way I want it too

We have reflective film on our front windows after a few issues with people peering in from the flats opposite. Our house is south facing and the front rooms can get pretty toasty in summer so it does have the secondary benefit of helping reduce that. You can’t see in our windows at all during the day but at night if the lights are on people can still see in so we have blinds. It sounds like you’ve come to the same conclusion but I don’t think reflective film would help much with the situation you describe unfortunately.

 

[Snippysnips]

One4all or love2shop

I think love2shop maybe, it would have been out Tesco's, you get tons of them there

 

[GalaxyGirl70]

Has anyone had diclofenac gel prescribed for a trapped nerve ? I had it prescribed by gp and I’ve found out it can cause heart attacks and stroke ?! The doctor didn’t mention this to me at all nor asked anything else

I buy it over the counter, it's a tiny dose and you'd have to use tube upon tube at the same time to get any side effects. I find the gel really helps my costochondritis as the tablets don't agree with my poor stomach.

 

[griftalo]

I’ve got a Haier too and it’s been great. You can pay more for AO to take away your old one and search by drum size to find larger machines.

Don’t you just love the coin trap drainage hose?!

 

[BabeTakeTwo]

Last week I went to a new nail lady (mine was relocating). Current lady recommended her but at the point I booked before she moved she did say she didn’t have any clients that had moved over to her yet so wasn’t sure on her work but her instagram looked good. I went to regular lady to have my gel nails soaked off & she mentioned she knew someone that had seen the new lady and her nails had lifted which hadn’t happened with her before. As it was a day & a half before my new appointment I didn’t think it was fair (and I would have most likely been charged cancellation) to cancel so I went ahead.

It’s the same brand of gel, one that I’ve had for the last 5 years so issues. The next day half my thumb gel lifted off. I messaged to let her know and she saw me the next day to fix. I also had a very small chip on my other hand which she sorted. She agreed it was unusual and shouldn’t have happened. Two days later I’ve now got a chip in the thumb that she fixed. I haven’t done anything differently / excessively used my hands since they were done.

Now my dilemma is that when I originally booked her I booked two appointments (have them done every 3 weeks). Given they don’t seem to be lasting and I have another 2 weeks to go before my next appointment should I give her one more go or cancel my appointment now. if I do cancel do I be honest with the reason why. I feel bad as she is really lovely but I can’t afford £40 each time if they don’t last.

If you've not had this problem with your regularly lady, I would message the new lady and be honest - maybe she's recently trained (not trying to excuse her) but I agree £40 for another appt that you could yet again be asking for chips etc to be sorted.

It's hard as she is probably needing to build a client list, and is lovely - but you want gels that are going to last the 3 weeks between appts.

I'm not much help, sorry - I trained in beauty and nails - I didn't do training for gels, as Iike natural, but had I become employed within beauty, I would have wanted clients to be truthful and let me know. It's the only way to keep learning.

 

[bozlem3080]

My daughter’s first car was an Aygo (08 plate), had 130000 miles on it but was really good, she had it 3yrs till traded it in for a newer model Aygo, it only needed a new tyre in the time she had it on the MOT.

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Does anyone know much about Facebook groups? I'm in a group not many people post in, I probably post the one of the most (only 4 posts). Today I posted something else and it says declined, if I click declined it says pending. Is this something the group admins have put specifically for me? Or everyone? From what I've read they can do it for one person but I think then I wouldn't be able to comment on other posts or react to other posts which I can still do. It's only a small group under 20 people

Yes, they can put one person on 30 day or more approval. You would still be able to participate in the group just your posts would need approval

 

[allthingschocolate]

After some advice please if possible, I have a family meal booked tomorrow evening there’s 7 of us in total, the meal is for my teen kids birthday, I’ve already paid a deposit (£70) does this suggest that as I arranged it I should also pay the final bill? My parents have already said they aren’t expecting me too and have assumed that they would pay for there own meals, but I’m unsure about my brother, his wife & my niece, for perspective I am a single mom on a one income wage, whilst my pay isn’t horrendous i am unfortunately not in the financial position that my family members are in (flash cars, big houses, mortgage free etc) I wish I was in the position to pay it all , but my question is does it look bad if I don’t pay the full bill, Totally Expecting it not to be cheap, I also don’t drink alcohol and the rest of them do, what would others do in this situation?

 

[chickhicks86]

Has anyone ever ordered something not I the wrong address? I’ve stupidly ordered something to the wrong address, I’m too far away to ‘pop around’ there to speak to the new resident.
Store isn’t particularly helpful. Is there anything that I can do?
Many thanks

Could you get in touch with the landlord or estate agent of your previous address to see if they'd kindly pass on your contact details to the new owners / residents?

 

[petitspois]

Can anyone help?
At the end of January I had a bleed on the brain. Luckily it was a small bleed and i have been left with no disability other than I do get fatigued more easily than I did and on the odd occasion and I do mean odd I sometimes can't find a word I want.

I want to return to work but my employer is saying he won't have me return unless I get a letter from the hospital to say I'm fit to work. I work in an independent retail shop. It's not rocket science but can be busy in the summer months. So quickly we established the hospital were not going to write such a letter, the stroke units take on it was if you want to go to work then go to work. My employer wasn't satisfied with that.
After much toing and froing an appointment with an Occupational therapist was made. He's coming today at 1.45pm. Speaking to him on the phone I told him what my employer had asked for, he said he was not medically trained in that respect and he will be be drawing up a phased return to work only. I need to contact my GP to get a fit to return to work form.
I rang the GP's and the receptionist tells me no it's up to the occupational therapist if you're fit to do your job or not.

Really??
All I want to do is go to work. It's a 2 day a week job. Should it be this difficult? Has anyone else had this amount of problems?

That's a massive hassle and they all want to push responsibility onto someone else. It's my understanding that it's the GP's responsibility to write those notes. Maybe try to email them and leave out the back story and make it sound really routine? 'I had a stroke and am now fit and well and need a letter from you for my employer's HR dept' something like that. Hope you get it sorted.

 

[Pesky Tarian]

Any techies? Just wondering if it's possible to access the internet on a smart TV without any other cables or things? For example could I use my phone and WiFi to do all the things I do on my phone but on the big screen? I have Google home also if that helps.

**Not a techie** but you should have the Internet as an app on your smart TV, but I find it terribly clunky to use. Depending on what you want to do you may be better looking for the relevant apps on there i.e. YouTube, BBC sounds.

 

[MeghanSnarkle]

Just looking for a bit of advice, probably nothing but one of things that just makes you wonder .

Tonight while I was at the side of the house putting stuff in the recycling a young guy dressed smartly came breezing down the path iPad in hand and called me over to him I was caught off guard obviously because it was dark and he was just suddenly there
He never said where he was from just opened with 'you ok love do you wanna come closer and we'll have a look at the energy use for this place'
He then turns the iPad towards me and starts telling me exactly what our electric and gas for the past twelve months was !?!
I said 'Oh right you have all my information on there' he smirked ' yeah i do' then tapped away and sure enough he had full access what our household energy bills/usage were'
I won't go into the rest as it was basically me being bombarded then finally escaping when my son bobbed his head out to see what I was doing .

I just can't get passed some random blokes holding all that info thats obviously been shared by our energy supplier, is that the norm when they're cold calling for you to change supplier.

 

[Jas28]

I have been getting to know someone to build a friendship but I’m the only one who reaches out, asks how they are and asks any questions about them or their life. She doesn’t ask me anything about myself or ask me any questions. I’m thinking she’s not interested so doesn’t really care to ask, I don’t think she’s socially awkward because I’ve heard her converse with others fine. I think I should just leave it and ignore her too?

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Advice re paying off a mortgage please. I always thought that you paid a solicitor or your bank to hold the deeds one settled. However I have been told that as it's all electronic now it sits with the land registry free of charge?. This seems too convenient to be true! Or is my way of thinking out dated?

That is correct but as far as I know you have to pay a small fee to have it sent to you

 

[Codiaeum]

Thanks for replying. I thought it was poor storage on my part. Just googled faux leather peeling and apparently PU breaks down 2-5 years after manufacture. They're all over 10 years old so figures. Annoying though!.

i Bought a nice bag for a big event March 2020 that obviously never happened. Pulled it out last year, I always had it in the little bag it came with and the same happened. This was „vegan leather“ from a good brand, I was so annoyed I never really got to use this bag. Apparently there isn’t much you can do when the material starts to break down. Learned my lesson, will not buy faux leather again.

 

[Shoequeen91]

I don’t know how to write this as I feel regardless of how I write it I’m going to look like a serious idiot. People have actual problems and then there’s me with this.

I feel like I’m in a really weird place at the minute in my life. My career is actually the best it’s ever been - earning the most amount of money I’ve ever earned, enjoying my job and not feeling massively stressed by it. However, outside of work I just feel like I’ve got nothing to show for it and I’m just letting life pass me by. I’m earning all this money, able to save healthily and have decent monthly budget (not bragging, someone will always have more than me and I’m just trying to paint a picture). I have got this desire to go and travel to loads of places using my weekends and annual leave but no one to do it with. I don’t feel comfortable enough to go to different countries on my own (but I think I’m gonna have to get to this point). My best friend isn’t on a much money as me and I feel like this disparity is really showing itself. It doesn’t bother me, it’s not really a thing and I would absolutely cover her (as I have in the past) but it’s kinda stopping us (me?) doing stuff because it’s shut down before we have a chat about “let’s plan this and pay it off accordingly so we’ve got plans and no one is feeling the expense abruptly”.

I just want my friend to be able (want?) to do exciting stuff with me instead of me suggesting things and her being like “I’ve only just got my savings looking healthy again.” I can offer to sub her money, or she can pay whatever I cover for her whenever but she doesn’t like stuff like that as she’s voiced feeling like she doesn’t want to “owe me”. It’s not like that for me and I have explained this. So to respect this and I suppose meet in the middle, it’s about having a chat about paying stuff off with ample time, yet we don’t even get to that point.

I feel at such a loss, like I don’t really have a friend. It’s making me feel insecure in suggesting things cause I feel like I’m just going to get a knock back or feel like maybe she just doesn’t wanna do that stuff with me anymore and this the perfect excuse and there is an avoidance to say the real reason It’s first world problems.

This is a massive brain dump but I just needed to put it somewhere (and that somewhere probably should’ve been my chat with her rather than here but I think I want to try and be clearer with my thoughts before doing that).

What would you do? Should I raise it? Should I join one of those groups for women who want more friends? Should I just go away by myself but on one of those group trips?

Sorry for war and peace