Please could someone tell me how to hide a thread or subforum on here. (I feel it should be obvious but maybe I’m being a bit slow today)
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Does anyone know whether puregym personal trainers can see your personal details when you sign in and out of the gym with your pin? Would they be able to have access to your date of birth address name telephone etc from their computers in their staff room. I’m just worried a guy from a dating app is a trainer there and I really don’t want him knowing anything about me as I dont talk to him anymore
I’m spending it alone & it’s the 2nd year in a row. I didn’t expect to be in this position, howeverrrr I’m a little excited, going to get some nice food & just chill out!
Lush gift voucher maybe? Young girls love bath bombs
Boots and superdrug are both filled with teens when I go so I think it's fine
Lush as mentioned above is another really good option
My 2 nieces age 12 and 15 have just requested Superdrug vouchers for their birthdays.
We used to get my teen cousins those gift vouchers that cover a few places, I forget the name but it had shops like boots, superdrug, river island, new look, superdry etc all on it, it gave them the choice since one year it was usually make up they wanted an the next it was clothes etc, they change their mind like the weather lol
One4all or love2shop
I think love2shop maybe, it would have been out Tesco's, you get tons of them there
I keep dreaming about my ex, we split 7 years ago and I’ve been in a very happy relationship with my new partner for 5 years, but it’s 2-3 times a week and I always wake up feeling really weird. It was a pretty messy split, we were together 11 years, had planned to get married, and we split because he cheated.
I hate waking up feeling like I miss him, and I’ll never contact him, but I just start overthinking
I hate waking up feeling like I miss him, and I’ll never contact him, but I just start overthinking
Could it be feeding into something else rather than being about the ex? Some insecurities or worries about another aspect of your life or relationships (even work or family ones).
If not, could there be some unresolved feelings around the split. Not that you want him/aren’t over him but rather how it made you feel or the betrayal?
I've been with my husband 20 years but still sometimes dream that I'm in the house I shared with my ex. I think it's your subconscious reminding you how great you have it now in comparison!.
I have very realistic dreams as well and the issue is when you wake up you wake up with all those feelings, DESPITE knowing none of it happened!
It really does feel like cheating sometimesI would try and work through the feelings as you'll keep having the dream because you're thinking about it when you are awake
Next time you have the dream acknowledge it and then try to remind yourself of all the reasons why it was tit in the end and about how happy you are now.
I have a colleague who’s giving me really rude body language at the moment and I can’t pinpoint what her problem really is. I’m the only poc in my team so I’m inclined to think she’s doing so because of that. Eye rolling back to me not including when speaking in the group, speaking over me keeping her back firmly towards me. I’ve tried being extra friendly to her thinking she’s just unhappy or something but no nothing and I don’t want to people please as that’s unhealthy for mental health, people pleasing towards someone who dislikes you isn’t great. She’s only like this towards me. She’s nicer to others in my team who don’t even like her so she must have some one sided stronh feelings towards me. I don’t know how people justify treating someone that way. What should I do, just ignore her? But then I feel it would be a hostile environment and I would just be behaving as she is which is not me at all. Others must have noticed but they don’t say anything ?! If i noticed someone being like that towards an individual I would distance myself as they’re showing how nasty of a person they are. Friend said way nit everyone has a good heart most people don’t give a crap ! Also she looks visibly angry when she sees me which has rattled me, she goes bright red and breathing heavily. I’m so confused I haven’t done anything to offend her and I do notice everything
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Not everyone will get along in life. As long as you are civil leave it at that.
If she is undermining you then you need to speak to HR but apart from that you cannot force somebody to like you or engage with you
I feel like that is something she would deffo do so I will keep high alert which is awful as why do I have to feel unsafe at work as though someone is out to get you. If someone can have issue with you over nothing then imagine if you actually did have an issue what would she do. She’s already made jokes about sabotaging someone before and I personally won’t be leaving even a drink unattended near her. I’ve also seen her snooping through my work when she’s not my supervisor so shouldn’t be, probably trying to catch me out on something. I don’t know where she makes the time to do that when we are so busy. Just exhausting why I must stay so vigilant, it’s draining. Also I don’t need her to like me, but you would at least not make it obvious that you dislike someone for not reason at work and be civil. And not including someone at work is a form of hostile behaviour though
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Some people are just straight up assholes, personally if it was me I'd act like she doesn't even exist, the more you give to someone the more they have something to throw back at you, just straight up ignoring gives them nothing, if she asks a question though then answer it but make it straight to the point then walk away, other then that just don't engage with her, but do keep a diary of anything she does towards you, if she tries to do anything then it's all you will have as evidence towards her, could also be worth "hinting" towards HR about what can you do to make the relationship work an what's been happening that's made you realise it's so bad, but try an keep it in a casual way, that way you aren't actually going to HR as such but you have made them aware, so if she ends up going about nonsense to them then HR already have a heads up but you have giving your side first
Have you confronted her or put her in her place?
“you seem uncomfortable with that suggestion, would you like to explain why?”
“I’m not getting positive vibes about that but I’d love to understand a different perspective if you don’t mind sharing?”
“it feels as though you’re not on board with that idea, if really love to hear an alternative solution”
Or straight up..
“I think that was a valuable contribution but your response is saying you don’t agree. Can you explain”
“I’d rather you looked at me when you were addressing me to avoid confusion”
“Please don’t interrupt me when I’m speaking, when I’m finished you’ll know because I’ll ask for a response”
“It would help if you looked at me and addressed me by my name to avoid confusion”
If you want to point it out to the group…
“I’d really like to put my thoughts out for consideration but I feel like you’re undermining me, is there a reason for that?”
“Excuse me, I’d like to make my contribution and I’d appreciate it if you’d let me speak without patronising me. You can respond when I’m finished“
“I noticed you rolled your eyes, do you disagree?”
“I’d appreciate it if you could let me speak without being dismissive before I’ve finished.”
“I’d really like to understand why you’re not prepared to consider that?”
I’m the most generic version of a small, average, white, blonde so have never experienced racism but as that person I’ve experienced a lot of arseholes and judgmental people. I suspect this person is just a witch. However, being a POC is a protected characteristic so if you feel it’s a motivator for that person or if you just want to challenge them on it and think you can prove it, You can absolutely screw them over for it if you want to.
“I often feel as though you show outward diarespect toward me and I can’t help but wonder if it’s my skin colour that motivates that?”
Bullies deserve to be challenged and outed.
Is there a way someone can view my WhatsApp status without it showing that they have? I don’t want to ask anyone I know incase they think I’m hiding things from some people. It’s just someone has responded to my WhatsApp status but it doesn’t show me that they’ve viewed it and I thought that’s odd
Yes, there is. They’ve turned off read receipts
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