The advice thread for random problems #4

[stargirl23]

Yes I think that must be what’s happened unfortunately, they probably bought a few gift cards at the same time as it was Christmas!


I have the physical gift card with the card number, pin and the receipt. It’s only when I went to use it that it didn’t work and that’s when I realised the number on the receipt was slightly different.

I’ve sent Tesco a message on Twitter to see if they can help and emailed the retailer directly too. Not sure if anything can be done but I don’t want to make my boyfriend’s sister feel bad by mentioning it!

Thank you for helping me! I always forget to use gift cards so it’s typical this happens when I finally remembered for once

Sounds like the cards been used previously then rather than a wrong receipt because even if she gave you a wrong receipt then the gift card should still have the money on it but if it’s not working then it must’ve been spent

 

[TheGlossy]

Ok - to give the background.

When I booked the balayage, the price was listed as €158. When I went to pay after all was done, I was charged €200. When I asked about the difference, they said the difference was an add-on for the toner. Fair enough if the toner is extra, but it needs to be mentioned somewhere on the price list.

In previous salons, the overall price included the toner. I’m not questioning the fact there’s a charge for it, I’m questioning the fact the way charges are disclosed.

 

[Snippysnips]

For a uti, are we expected to visit the pharmacy and buy treatment rather than get a appointment at our surgery? The Internet suggests that's the done thing these days.

Yes, my mum just goes into the pharmacy now, if it doesn't clear up or gets worse with pain then it's the doctors for something stronger, but usually the pharmacy is fine with what they give, she sort of knows when it's starting as not drinking enough triggers it for her

 

[littlepup]

When my foster mum died I was 5. My parents decided to tell me she went on holiday. A LONG holiday. I was bullied because in those days foster care, even with a relative as mine was, was something to be deeply ashamed of, I was constantly asked why I didn’t love my parents enough. I remember. Vividly asking where she was and my mum bluntly saying she died and I knew that so why didn’t I shut up. Then I was told in order for another baby to be born she had to die.

Then my school decided to show a lovely film about bunnies - watership down weeks after all of this and I was devastated ..

Basically it’s decades later and I still remember that. I still have issues with saying goodbye to people incase that’s the last time I see them. Yes I’ve had therapy, but it’s too deep, and cost a fortune to boot.

So don’t

Say people are on a long holiday/moved away because inevitably children find out what’s happened.
Loved ones don’t die so babies can be born - I was a little shit to babies for years and years after
Watership down has bunnies in it and is devastating watch for kids, especially bereaved ones (frankly anyone of any age, I’ve no idea how it is still a U!)

Discussing death is hard, I do get that, but sometimes I think people forget what a hard concept it is even for adults!

So sorry you had to deal with that.
I agree Watership Down was devastating and so many of my generation were deeply affected by it as an introduction to death.

We do say people have died, aren’t here anymore, we won’t see them again, but, that means they have to go and ‘live’ in heaven. You’ve made me realise we need a different word to avoid confusion.

 

[HoGi]

They don’t have to give your friend a management title.

However if it’s important for your friend I would push for it. I don’t see why they would worry anout causing upset to somebody else in the business.

To me it seems more like they are worried your friend want a promotion WITH a payrise and they don’t want to give a payrise

That's what I was thinking. Sounds like they want someone to do the job without the title/payrise.

 

[klarakluckbag]

Thank you for this, that's definitely helpful, I'd definitely prefer talking with a female but you just get whoever answers the phone, I might just give a very vague reasoning then, but it does annoy me I know they all gossip, it's what puts me off telling them things, but a very vague reason might be best

You are perfectly within your rights to say "I'm really not comfortable speaking about this to you, can I please speak to a female member of staff instead?" I work in women's health and lots of women ask for female only medics especially if they need to be examined etc. I think most staff would understand this, even receptionists!

I know it seems like they gatekeep GP appointments, but I recently had an issue with my eyes. I was convinced that it was something serious, and that I'd need a referral to a specialist etc, etc. I submitted an e-consult and got a reply telling me to "Consult with my optician". I was quite cross, but I did go and speak to our local optician, who immediately suggested what the issue was, told me how to deal with it, and advised me to come back to see her if it didn't improve in a month...which it did!

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

Thanks I'll look at those, I honestly didn't think she'd get out her crib being how high it is but so far tonight she's gotten out 4 times an fell out once, have no idea what to do for tonight, am hoping she won't be able to pull herself over a non space gate an is only getting out the crib because of the spaces

Can you take the side off the cot? That's the safest option. With a duvet folded up on the floor next to it.

A gate across the door might still work, especially if it's flat. Two of mine were early escapees. They used to use their toes to climb the bars. One arrived on the landing (having escaped the cot and a gate ) and announce "I'm out Mummy, Mummy I'm OUT". The other could even contort themselves under the stair gate (yey hypermobility). It's a fun time .

 

[watermelon sugar]

Thank you!

I’ve been looking at dresses for weeks but I kept coming back to the second one over and over again.

That is your sign! If you keep going back to the second one that’s the one you like the most get it!

 

[TwooTwooTwitTwitTwoo]

It's the first time he's ever essentially drugged me, but he's crossed boundaries in the past by being sexually inappropriate towards me and he's pinned me up against the wall by my throat once.

She loves him so there's not really anything I can say/do with regards to their relationship

That all sounds awful. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. I'm wondering if he behaves like this in public what's he like with your friend behind closed doors.

 

[chickhicks86]

I’m invited to a winter wedding and I’ve been looking at dresses. I can’t seem to find one that is 100% what I’m looking for (navy). IVs come across the following two dresses but I’m not sold on them. Ideally, I’d like something a bit more versatile I can recycle regardless of event/season. I would appreciate some opinions.
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1st: The color seems a bit too summery for my taste and I’m not sure about the semi-open back. I like the material and the cut though.
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2nd: Love the color but not a fan of the pattern. Length is great but the dress doesn’t seem to be ‘wedding guest’ vibes enough.

I love the 2nd, 1st is a bit "bridesmaid" for me.

 

[Rxt156]

Inadvertently started a huge arguement with Mr Lolz. I feel sick about it.
To cut a long story short I called him a shit stirrer round his parents. I genuinely didn’t mean those words so don’t even know why I said them.
He was rightfully fuming and stormed off and left me round his parents.
I honestly don’t know what to do. I sent him an apology text but I know that’s not really good enough.
I’m so upset for hurting him and I know I only have myself to blame.
What would you do?

I think he deserves to know what you actually meant so he can see why you said what you said

I’ve done it many times, blurted out something accidentally savage. He will get over it

 

[Popcornshovel]

Massively freaking out as the guy from the HR situ is apparently telling people that he's got my address saved in Google maps & he has pics of me in my lingerie!

I know I've never given him either but I'm Massively freaking out if he has got them how he has?

I'm hoping he's bullshitting because if he had that info why wouldn't he have given it to HR sooner?

I'm genuinely getting so scared

Please contact a charity like Women's Aid to talk it through. They have a helpline. It sounds like harassment and they might have some good advice.

And personally I would be reporting him to the police. Even if they do nothing, then there's a log and if anything more happened in the future there's that history that it's been reported before.

 

[Piff paff puff]

I give mine to a trusted business, a friend of mine knows someone who recycles them, he destroys the harddrive which has the data then recycles or reuses what he can

If it's a good reputation company then they shouldn't access your data

That's just it, I wouldn't trust anyone. I've decided to destroy the hard drive and recycle the computers without it

 

[Brightstar72]

HG mould remover spray is the best one I’ve used

Tried and tested black mould removal please? And any gadgets for getting the mould in hard to reach places ie behind fridge freezer

 

[stargirl23]

Anyone had physical effects from stress? I’ve taken 2 sick days and waiting on the GP phone call. I feel awful.

Very normal to have physical affects from stress, it’s crazy the impact it has on your body. I hope the drs goes well and you’re able to get the help you need. Just remember you’re not alone and how you’re feeling is normal given the circumstances

 

[didisaythatoutloudoops]

Don’t tell anyone at work she plans to go off sick. I’d tell her to remove all personal belongings and leave everything else in an accessible place so they can just take it from her desk. Email the sick note in the morning then take her out for breakfast
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ETA just read other posts - she can drop off the belongings another day, doesn’t need to be immediate. You could even do it for her

I would love to - I just live four hours away and I'm working full time myself

 

[Pesky Tarian]

I’ve never poached an egg before 🫣 please give me your best poached egg methods so I can show my husband I’m better than him at doing them for tea!

It's cheating but invest in some poach pods - game changer. I'm crap at poaching eggs normally!.

 

[becca7721]

Hiya all, not a problem as such but looking for suggestions. Tomorrow marks a year since my partner expectedly lost his lovely Dad. Should I be getting/doing anything for my partner to mark the day? I don't want him to think I'm treating it as any other day but not sure what on earth I could do?

From experience, be led by him. Grief can be, frankly, a git. Acknowledging the day and that it will be difficult though I’m not sure how you could do that. Personally I preferred the first to be an ordinary day. But only you know him and how he’s reacted. People grieve so differently.

I don’t know if that helps or not. Sorry.

 

[Meg78]

That was my shop you were in and an old lady came in after you to ask if we still had it as she'd been reunited with her family and wanted to treat them.


Jokes, enjoy your pie

Reading that my heartrate actually shot up

I feel so guilty like I’ve got bad karma now and need to rectify it, is that weird?

 

[littlepup]

Jesus!
I got to the porn images in the comments but when I signed in to report they disappear. I can’t see any actual genitalia ones. I don’t know how they’re doing it but I’ll have a look again later.