Honestly I think it's best just to end the friendship, he's a complete lunatic, unfortunately as you say if she loves him there's nothing you can do, they have to see it for themselves, I've been there with telling family that their partner is an hole but until they actually see that then they don't listen an your as well talking to a brick wall, but if you don't want to end the friendship then I'd just make sure the only time you are with your friend is when he's not there, an if she needs to ask why you won't see her when she's with him then there's your answer as to if it's really worth it
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Maybe only see her without him
That all sounds awful. I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this. I'm wondering if he behaves like this in public what's he like with your friend behind closed doors.
I've got a neighbour like this and I'm a petty witch so I refuse to take their parcels round to them. I'm not a courier! We had their last parcel for over a month so now I ignore the door if I see the Evri man unless I'm expecting a parcel myself.
Actually I'm wondering if I have a reputation now because the postman knocked on the other day and asked if I minded taking something for next door. I said it was fine and he said 'Are you sure? Do you get on with them?' so maybe it's common knowledge that I'm a selective parcel collector
He’s assaulted you criminally twice, possibly 3 times. You could have reported him to the police.
You could have a job that requires drug testing, be pregnant (I mean, I guess if you were drinking that’s a bit far fetched but still), in recovery… there are many reasons it could have been awful for you not least just saying no, you don’t want to.
If he’s not just a drunk wick and this is a pattern of behaviour then he’s a dangerous individual who may be jealous of your relationship and would be happy to isolate her to gain more control. Sadly though you can’t be collateral damage. I’d tell him, not even your friend but him, if he so much as lays a hand on you again you’ll report him. If your friend can’t deal with that then it’s likely he’s controlling her. If it puts a wedge between the two of you I’d explain you love her but you can’t allow yourself to be around that kind of behaviour, you’ll always be there for, no matter what, no matter when and try to keep an eye on her so far as is possible.
You could have a job that requires drug testing, be pregnant (I mean, I guess if you were drinking that’s a bit far fetched but still), in recovery… there are many reasons it could have been awful for you not least just saying no, you don’t want to.
If he’s not just a drunk wick and this is a pattern of behaviour then he’s a dangerous individual who may be jealous of your relationship and would be happy to isolate her to gain more control. Sadly though you can’t be collateral damage. I’d tell him, not even your friend but him, if he so much as lays a hand on you again you’ll report him. If your friend can’t deal with that then it’s likely he’s controlling her. If it puts a wedge between the two of you I’d explain you love her but you can’t allow yourself to be around that kind of behaviour, you’ll always be there for, no matter what, no matter when and try to keep an eye on her so far as is possible.
I'm angry on your behalf. I'd probably report him to 111 .
My neighbour started to become a pain in the a with parcels. She was constantly asking us to go and get something off her porch or getting stuff delivered here without asking first. Even when she was on holiday, deliveries were arriving for her which really pissed me off. Eventually I told her that we couldn‘t keep taking stuff for her as we were often out and if she got stuff delivered without asking she ran the risk of it being stolen off the doorstep. I think she finally got the message as we haven’t had anything for her for ages and the last time she apologised profusely. Some people are just bleeping cheeky.I've got a neighbour like this and I'm a petty witch so I refuse to take their parcels round to them. I'm not a courier! We had their last parcel for over a month so now I ignore the door if I see the Evri man unless I'm expecting a parcel myself.
Actually I'm wondering if I have a reputation now because the postman knocked on the other day and asked if I minded taking something for next door. I said it was fine and he said 'Are you sure? Do you get on with them?' so maybe it's common knowledge that I'm a selective parcel collector
My V6 box has been stuck on reboot for over 24 hours. It goes to the welcome bit, then starting up, then just resets the cycle again. Also it sometimes show a little arrow download on the screen but then just resets again. Anyone had this issue and know how to solve it? I've got a technician coming out next week but would rather sort it myself if I can as I'll lose all my recordings.
We've got a note on our door, parcels for this address only. Our opposite neighbour is some sort of medical equipment rep and gets daily deliveries that I kept getting bangs on the door about late afternoon when I get in. I took one in once out of pity as the guy said it was half his delivery load and he'd have to bring it back the next day ... she had the cheek to huff at me for having it put in our garage and not hers as there was so much of it. Like I magically knew that she left the door open....... 
What is it about cheeky neighbours, honestly the delivery people are more to blame for not reading the note, but I'd in future just say nope an close the door on them, the more you close the door on them the more they hopefully with take the hint an stop coming to youWe've got a note on our door, parcels for this address only. Our opposite neighbour is some sort of medical equipment rep and gets daily deliveries that I kept getting bangs on the door about late afternoon when I get in. I took one in once out of pity as the guy said it was half his delivery load and he'd have to bring it back the next day ... she had the cheek to huff at me for having it put in our garage and not hers as there was so much of it. Like I magically knew that she left the door open.......
I don't understand why people can't schedule delivers for a time they will be in at or have them dropped off somewhere they can pick them up
Amazon - No thanks.
Ridiculous that they are now delivering through An Post.
I was scheduled to receive 3 packages on Tuesday. The delivery person never rang at the door or contacted me on the phone. The following day I get a slip requiring me to go and collect these packages at the post office unit 15 minutes away.
I have a Prime membership yet I have to physically collect the packages because An Post doesn’t even attempt to deliver these packages! I canceled my Prime membership because if I have to collect these packages, I might as well go to the shops!
Not to mention, one product was supposed to have 6 units and I only received 5 of them. Waste of time.
Ridiculous that they are now delivering through An Post.
I was scheduled to receive 3 packages on Tuesday. The delivery person never rang at the door or contacted me on the phone. The following day I get a slip requiring me to go and collect these packages at the post office unit 15 minutes away.
I have a Prime membership yet I have to physically collect the packages because An Post doesn’t even attempt to deliver these packages! I canceled my Prime membership because if I have to collect these packages, I might as well go to the shops!
Not to mention, one product was supposed to have 6 units and I only received 5 of them. Waste of time.
Soooo my son is approaching 2 yrs old. He had a nap around lunch time for up to 90 mins then he’s awake until quite late sometimes 9.30pm as he just doesn’t seem tired. I’ve tried putting him to bed early and he just won’t go to sleep (myself & husband have tried everything and it just doesn’t work) so I’m not quite sure what to do. Do I wake him earlier from his nap? Just admit defeat and keep putting him to bed late? Anyone had experience with a low sleep needs child
Not advice but can you all please send me positive thoughts for tomorrow morning. I had an audit at work a few weeks ago & now they want a follow up meeting and I am panicking 
my first audit so I'm terrified
my first audit so I'm terrifiedWake from nap earlier seems to be the consensus from the people I follow. They say to see sleep in blocks of 24 hours so you need to cap the nap to give long enough before bed and allow for the remainder of their sleep need for the night stretch. What time do they wake?Soooo my son is approaching 2 yrs old. He had a nap around lunch time for up to 90 mins then he’s awake until quite late sometimes 9.30pm as he just doesn’t seem tired. I’ve tried putting him to bed early and he just won’t go to sleep (myself & husband have tried everything and it just doesn’t work) so I’m not quite sure what to do. Do I wake him earlier from his nap? Just admit defeat and keep putting him to bed late? Anyone had experience with a low sleep needs child
Dozesleepcoaching on IG has some free highlights and seems to have a good attitude.
(My child will not sleep early but they're late to sleep, late to rise. It suits me for now but God knows what we'll do when they reach school age and it does get tiring not to have evening time to yourself)
The last time mine did that, I needed a new box. Hope you fair better!
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You'll be fine. Have belief in yourself xNot advice but can you all please send me positive thoughts for tomorrow morning. I had an audit at work a few weeks ago & now they want a follow up meeting and I am panicking
I’m sure you’ve done better than you thought. Best of luckNot advice but can you all please send me positive thoughts for tomorrow morning. I had an audit at work a few weeks ago & now they want a follow up meeting and I am panicking
What time is he getting up in mornings? I'd prob just give an hour's nap if he's not going down at nightsSoooo my son is approaching 2 yrs old. He had a nap around lunch time for up to 90 mins then he’s awake until quite late sometimes 9.30pm as he just doesn’t seem tired. I’ve tried putting him to bed early and he just won’t go to sleep (myself & husband have tried everything and it just doesn’t work) so I’m not quite sure what to do. Do I wake him earlier from his nap? Just admit defeat and keep putting him to bed late? Anyone had experience with a low sleep needs child
My neice would be up around 6/7am we'd let her have a hours nap at around 11am an then she would be ready for bed at 8pm
Is lunchtime the only time he's getting a nap? When my neice wouldn't go down at night (somtimes be almost 10pm) we found out the nursery was letting her have 2 an 3 hour naps after lunch so we have put a stop to that
You could also try no naps, my neice is two an a half an we don't put her down for one anymore but just let her decided, soon as it gets to 2pm then she's not allowed, she's had days now with no naps an been fine
So after all that all the questions were errors another department had made so nothing to do with meNot advice but can you all please send me positive thoughts for tomorrow morning. I had an audit at work a few weeks ago & now they want a follow up meeting and I am panicking
Afraid to say, my son dropped his naps at just turned 2. The transition to no naps was a bit hellish thoughSoooo my son is approaching 2 yrs old. He had a nap around lunch time for up to 90 mins then he’s awake until quite late sometimes 9.30pm as he just doesn’t seem tired. I’ve tried putting him to bed early and he just won’t go to sleep (myself & husband have tried everything and it just doesn’t work) so I’m not quite sure what to do. Do I wake him earlier from his nap? Just admit defeat and keep putting him to bed late? Anyone had experience with a low sleep needs child
I’m hoping this is the case. I think he’d suit a no nap routine so he can get longer sleeps at night. At the mo it’s a 1hr ish nap and then awake for 8-9 hrs? But in the morning he can’t handle 5 hrs without getting sleepy. Weird.Afraid to say, my son dropped his naps at just turned 2. The transition to no naps was a bit hellish though
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Thanks I have tried just a 1 hr nap today, we’ll see how that goes! He gets sleepy in the mornings but a last all afternoon once’s he woken from his nap. So weird
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Thank you. Definitley capped the nap at 1hr today and I’ll see how it goes tonight. Thanks.
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