The woman is a nutter - the fact that she stewed over this and then wrote a long reply is bonkers. She's trying to push your buttons for a reaction and asking for cat updates is a way for her to always have that thread to you.
So long as the text messages are extremely clear that she has agreed to hand the cat over then I'd say that it's probably equivalent to a signed agreement so I'd make sure to keep those an that way should she backtrack an try an take the cat back then you have the texts stating she was in agreement for you to keep the cat, usually it's always better to get something in writing that's been signed but a text message may be passableThis is the difficult part. So I have text messages from her (the recent ones included) in which she admits giving me the cat 'for good'. I have his health records. But we've got no signed agreement on anything. She's got multiple cats and basically just handed him over and took the rest. He's also not microchipped - that's my next move, I think.
Thank you all for confirming I'm not the insane one here... I think I feel so stuck because I honestly have no idea how to communicate basic etiquette - like not turning up at people's houses unannounced - to a grown adult who should know better (and I'm trying to tread carefully). You'll all be updated of course, whether you like it or not
Country dweller here
couldn't live any other way and never have. Your circumstances are perfect! Go and live your new beautiful life 
No luckily not a pattern of behaviour but I’ve never seen him so angry. I’ll be honest I am very worried that he will say we are done.
Yes I tried everything! But then my partner just came home from work and lifted it up and down a few times and it started to work!
No but if/when you find any advice, please share it with me
No I don't think you're being a cow. I think you should trust your gut reaction (I always trust it!) in the meet up that something wasn't right and keep some distance as you've already done. Time will tell whether anything develops between them, and it might be that you've sensed. As you aren't interested him in romantically then I'd just leave them to it, especially as he wasn't nice to you. It sounds like she isn't a trustworthy person either. I'd just keep it civil during work hours only - you've done nothing wrong x
Why don't you suggest that while a hot beach holiday sounds fab, you'd need longer to be able to get the funds together for it, so ask your friend if they're prepared to postpone. If they're not wanting to budge from the original idea of in the New year, explain that means your budget is limited to a city break. At least that way they know you're not saying absolutely not to a hot sunny beach holiday, but that it just isn't feasible for you quite yet.
Onus should be on the owner of the parcel. But my neighbours are like yours.
Sorry if it sounds like I'm stalking you on different threads
I'm not, just noticed you do post about changes you making to eat healthy etc and being in a deficit. Just know that this can definitely impact mood as it puts additional stress on you. Together with what you're mentioning here, no wonder you get irritable. Don't be too hard on yourself about it. Like you say, meditation helps so keep doing that, make sure you do something nice for yourself like take some time to read a book or whatever you like doing, get enough sleep and go punch some pillows if you need to (helps me ) you're juggling a lot of things so it's normal to feel irritated. Take time to rest for sure.
I've got a neighbour like this and I'm a petty bitch so I refuse to take their parcels round to them. I'm not a courier! We had their last parcel for over a month so now I ignore the door if I see the Evri man unless I'm expecting a parcel myself.
I have everything crossed that its perfect for you. Although do be aware ( as I'm sure you are, as you always seem sensible) what's lovely for a holiday might not be great for permanence. Just try to look at it with realism and don't get caught up in someone else's enthusiasm. I have a friend who has just moved to a very isolated place he is loving it says so much space for the kids ( he was in London ) they all seem to be having a lovely time and it has been a hard winter there so the worst is over in that respect but what about when his children are teenagers. So have a look at what there is for your children when they are older and other things like that. But oh I envy you
No, they didn’t ask. They just used it and made me pay for it. They just explained the process of how they’re going to do the hair, but didn’t say toner is an extra cost.
Are there any groups around your area, maybe taking up something might help, like a little craft group or a walking or swimming group, that are for people who are suffering with mental health, perhaps finding others who are in the same position may help as you will all understand one another, it can help being around others that know the struggles since they will be best at knowing how to get you out of the dark holes when you fall in them
Cerazette is awful! Wouldn’t recommend it to anyone. I know everyone’s different but it really f’ed me up mentally. Now off it I feel amazing. I switched to rigevidon no issues or side effects
Overthinking I think. I too have been through suicide as well as attempting it myself and the amicable conversations with someone who got it meant more to me than they’d ever know. It helped me to grieve and know I wasn’t alone. I’m sure she knows you meant the best by offering to talk
I’m so sorry that happened and I hope you’re okay. It can’t be easy but the hardest thing is making that first step. Once you’re back I’m sure you’ll see it all isn’t that bad as you feel it is in your head. They won’t cause drama in the work place and shouldn’t bring up anything so you’ll be okay. I’m sure they’ll understand it was a drunk mistake that was a result of poor mental health and a workplace should be supportive of any employee suffering mentally. Hope you’re ok