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Had this electricity problem in my home off and on for the last 5 years.
Sometimes the supply is fine for a year or few months and then the problem just starts up again without me doing anything different.
It overloads and the switch in the main box will trip. Previously when a bulb popped, it's own individual switch in the box would trip so I knew what the problem was. With this problem I have now though it's always the main switch.
I can't use my fridge as the electricity will trip after a few hours even when I have it on the lowest cool settings. I don't have a cooker but I suppose if I did the same thing would happen. It seems to overload the electric supply. It takes hours afterwards for my supply to be good enough to power any appliance again in my home and I'm worried for winter when my electric heaters will be on.
Even though I've not had my fridge on, days later the electric still trips, sometimes a couple of times a day, though on these occasions I can switch it back on and my small appliances stay powered (as long as no big appliances are switched on).
Its making me very paranoid thinking the electricity company are limiting my supply due to net zero. Bills have tripled, they're also helping themselves to hundreds of pounds from me under the pretence is for my benefit for when more electric is used in winter. I did not give them consent to do this.
I've recently had an electrician in who says he couldn't see anything wrong with the wiring in the house 🤷‍♀️ and I've unplugged everything and gradually plugged them in again but yet the same irregular but regular pattern of the supply carries on :(
Helllllllppppppppppp!!!!!!!
Electricity companies can’t cut you off, it’s not a thing they can do. If you don’t pay they can force fit a prepayment meter but that process takes months to get the legal paperwork (unless you’re on a smart meter but there’s still a legal process you would be aware of) It’s definitely an internal fault (source- used to work for an energy company in the department that dealt with queries like this).
 
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Should you always go with your gut instincts, or rules you've made for yourself based on past experience?

For context I'm trying to decide who to work with for a project, and in the past two days I've interviewed two guys.

#1 seemed like a genuinely nice guy, but contravened a lot of criteria that I had set up based on years of experience. I won't go into it here, but I've set several targets like "Doesn't say X. Does express an interest in Y." etc. Because I've found that they turn out to be red flags down the line. I feel tempted to think Oh he's great, I'll go with him anyway. But that has definitely come back to bite me in the a more than once before!

#2 was very chatty and charismatic and sociable, but I was following the advice of articles I'd read about how to avoid hiring narcissists, and I mentioned a legitimate critique I had. I kept my vocal tone nice and said it wasn't his fault as we could smooth it out down the line. But maaaaaan, his face changed. He looked so different after I said it: his eyes kind of squinted and his mouth was held open, stiff. There was like all grief and hurt on his face. It was literally a piece of feedback where most people would go "Oh, ok." and accept that it would be fixed later. In most other instances, he had this wonderful warm easy personality and passed most of my questions. The only marker he didn't hit was praising any women he's worked with (big indicator for whether he will work with a woman or just decide he knows best and steamroll over her). But then it's possible that he hasn't worked with many women, or none noteable enough to come up in conversation.

I also thought to some extent he might be telling me what I wanted to hear. I felt like he was noting what I said and then feeding it back a few sentences later. Like if I said I'd like X for the project, he'd say "I love X, I do it all the time as a hobby." Might be true, but it happened enough times that it pinged in my brain.

But really it's that face, over what was a very lightly-handled bit of critique. Not even criticism, just a "This in your proposal wasn't what I'm looking for, but that's ok because we can talk about it more and gain an understanding." I really liked his warmth and charisma at the time, but when I came off the call, I just had a voice in my head going "No no no."

Any ideas, Tattlers, on either #1 or #2?
 
Should you always go with your gut instincts, or rules you've made for yourself based on past experience?

For context I'm trying to decide who to work with for a project, and in the past two days I've interviewed two guys.

#1 seemed like a genuinely nice guy, but contravened a lot of criteria that I had set up based on years of experience. I won't go into it here, but I've set several targets like "Doesn't say X. Does express an interest in Y." etc. Because I've found that they turn out to be red flags down the line. I feel tempted to think Oh he's great, I'll go with him anyway. But that has definitely come back to bite me in the a more than once before!

#2 was very chatty and charismatic and sociable, but I was following the advice of articles I'd read about how to avoid hiring narcissists, and I mentioned a legitimate critique I had. I kept my vocal tone nice and said it wasn't his fault as we could smooth it out down the line. But maaaaaan, his face changed. He looked so different after I said it: his eyes kind of squinted and his mouth was held open, stiff. There was like all grief and hurt on his face. It was literally a piece of feedback where most people would go "Oh, ok." and accept that it would be fixed later. In most other instances, he had this wonderful warm easy personality and passed most of my questions. The only marker he didn't hit was praising any women he's worked with (big indicator for whether he will work with a woman or just decide he knows best and steamroll over her). But then it's possible that he hasn't worked with many women, or none noteable enough to come up in conversation.

I also thought to some extent he might be telling me what I wanted to hear. I felt like he was noting what I said and then feeding it back a few sentences later. Like if I said I'd like X for the project, he'd say "I love X, I do it all the time as a hobby." Might be true, but it happened enough times that it pinged in my brain.

But really it's that face, over what was a very lightly-handled bit of critique. Not even criticism, just a "This in your proposal wasn't what I'm looking for, but that's ok because we can talk about it more and gain an understanding." I really liked his warmth and charisma at the time, but when I came off the call, I just had a voice in my head going "No no no."

Any ideas, Tattlers, on either #1 or #2?
My vote goes to #1

I used to have a team in a big organisation where people would often use our department as an “in” then piss off to a different part of the business fairly quickly, so I would always be really cautious of who I hired. One person came in for the role who had been working in a totally different role to my department (basically they were qualified to do the main bread and butter stuff of the company but was applying in our team that didn’t touch any of it. I thought this doesn’t make any sense to me. Anyway, they were actually amazing, just wanted to move job families genuinely and is now one of my closest friends.

the reaction to feedback with #2 to me is a red flag as it’s so difficult to work with someone who is constantly taking things personally and needs smoke blowing up their a all the time. I wouldn’t have the energy for it.
 
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I have this chronic issue everytime I work from the office.

I walk in and everything is fine for 3 hours. However, I suddenly feel sick after a few hours (burning eyes/teary eyes, sneezing, cough). I come home and feel like I’m coming down with something, but then I wake up the next morning and feel fine.

I don’t have this issue when I’m WFH, but it always happens at the office. By the time I get home, I’m sneezing and my are blood shot red.

I don’t know what it is. I suspected the AC but I’m not sure.
 
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Allergic to the office 😂

Jokes aside I wish I could be more help but omg I've weirdly been having something similar myself and it's only started in the last couple of weeks. I feel cold-like symptoms coming on in the office and have a headache/sneezing/stuffiness and then I'm fine the next day. I don't have hay fever and we don't have AC at work. Not sure what's bringing it on now!
 
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Sounds like dust allergy symptoms, if AC is on it could be blowing it round the office making it worse for you
 
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Allergic to the office 😂

Jokes aside I wish I could be more help but omg I've weirdly been having something similar myself and it's only started in the last couple of weeks. I feel cold-like symptoms coming on in the office and have a headache/sneezing/stuffiness and then I'm fine the next day. I don't have hay fever and we don't have AC at work. Not sure what's bringing it on now!
Someone with a strong perfume?
 
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I have this chronic issue everytime I work from the office.

I walk in and everything is fine for 3 hours. However, I suddenly feel sick after a few hours (burning eyes/teary eyes, sneezing, cough). I come home and feel like I’m coming down with something, but then I wake up the next morning and feel fine.

I don’t have this issue when I’m WFH, but it always happens at the office. By the time I get home, I’m sneezing and my are blood shot red.

I don’t know what it is. I suspected the AC but I’m not sure.
Definitely the AC. I grew up in a country where AC are in all shops and uni’s etc. I always got sore throats in the summer. Not only are they circulating the horrible office air (might even be dusty and full of germs) but the hot/cold/hot/cold can make you ill
 
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Should you always go with your gut instincts, or rules you've made for yourself based on past experience?

For context I'm trying to decide who to work with for a project, and in the past two days I've interviewed two guys.

#1 seemed like a genuinely nice guy, but contravened a lot of criteria that I had set up based on years of experience. I won't go into it here, but I've set several targets like "Doesn't say X. Does express an interest in Y." etc. Because I've found that they turn out to be red flags down the line. I feel tempted to think Oh he's great, I'll go with him anyway. But that has definitely come back to bite me in the a more than once before!

#2 was very chatty and charismatic and sociable, but I was following the advice of articles I'd read about how to avoid hiring narcissists, and I mentioned a legitimate critique I had. I kept my vocal tone nice and said it wasn't his fault as we could smooth it out down the line. But maaaaaan, his face changed. He looked so different after I said it: his eyes kind of squinted and his mouth was held open, stiff. There was like all grief and hurt on his face. It was literally a piece of feedback where most people would go "Oh, ok." and accept that it would be fixed later. In most other instances, he had this wonderful warm easy personality and passed most of my questions. The only marker he didn't hit was praising any women he's worked with (big indicator for whether he will work with a woman or just decide he knows best and steamroll over her). But then it's possible that he hasn't worked with many women, or none noteable enough to come up in conversation.

I also thought to some extent he might be telling me what I wanted to hear. I felt like he was noting what I said and then feeding it back a few sentences later. Like if I said I'd like X for the project, he'd say "I love X, I do it all the time as a hobby." Might be true, but it happened enough times that it pinged in my brain.

But really it's that face, over what was a very lightly-handled bit of critique. Not even criticism, just a "This in your proposal wasn't what I'm looking for, but that's ok because we can talk about it more and gain an understanding." I really liked his warmth and charisma at the time, but when I came off the call, I just had a voice in my head going "No no no."

Any ideas, Tattlers, on either #1 or #2?
Ordinarily I’d say #1 (you can train for skills, you can’t train a bad personality) but my only caveat would be how pressurised the project environment is. If you need someone who can hit the ground running and you can tolerate a few personality ‘quirks’ to get the job done then I’d lean toward #2 but if you have the space to bring #1 up to speed without jeopardising any of the deliverables I’d be inclined to go for them.
 
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Just removed a bloody tick. Anyone had one before and were you ok?
Yes, a tick on my lower leg about 4 years ago. I was horrified. Got the whole thing off with tweezers, wiped the area with antibacterial wipes and kept an eye on the leg for weeks for red marks or swelling. Nothing happened. I was absolutely fine. Plenty of tick bites don't lead to Lyme disease. Fingers crossed you'll be fine.
 
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Someone with a strong perfume?
That definitely sets me off occasionally but no one in the office has noticeable perfume!

Wondering if it's just more dust being blown around by the fans lately or even something outside. Weird 😭
 
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That definitely sets me off occasionally but no one in the office has noticeable perfume!

Wondering if it's just more dust being blown around by the fans lately or even something outside. Weird 😭
Have you tried an over the counter antihistamine to see if that helps? HomeBargains do generics for 99p a box 🤭
 
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Yes, a tick on my lower leg about 4 years ago. I was horrified. Got the whole thing off with tweezers, wiped the area with antibacterial wipes and kept an eye on the leg for weeks for red marks or swelling. Nothing happened. I was absolutely fine. Plenty of tick bites don't lead to Lyme disease. Fingers crossed you'll be fine.
Glad to hear you've be fine (y)
That's quite reassuring. Good thing is we'll be more aware now.
 
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That definitely sets me off occasionally but no one in the office has noticeable perfume!

Wondering if it's just more dust being blown around by the fans lately or even something outside. Weird 😭
Could be mould? I get those symptoms, it's similar to hayfever but I only react when mould spores are "high" or "very high". Claritin or similar work well for me to manage those symptoms.
 
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Would you buy a house without a bath?

We have a small bathroom with a shower over the bath. We are a family that 99% of the time shower, my 7 year will occasionally have a big bubble bath, maybe 3 x a year.
We will be redoing it in the next year or so. I'm thinking of getting rid of the bath and making it into a wet room with big walk in shower. We do however have 2 ensuites that are showers. But we want to keep our ensuite kid free 😆 and the 2nd ensuite is in our 15 year olds room so he doesn't particularly want younger siblings coming in and out.
We have no plans to sell but would it affect resale value if we got rid of bath completely or should we just do what we want without thinking about possible selling points in the future.
 
Would you buy a house without a bath?

We have a small bathroom with a shower over the bath. We are a family that 99% of the time shower, my 7 year will occasionally have a big bubble bath, maybe 3 x a year.
We will be redoing it in the next year or so. I'm thinking of getting rid of the bath and making it into a wet room with big walk in shower. We do however have 2 ensuites that are showers. But we want to keep our ensuite kid free 😆 and the 2nd ensuite is in our 15 year olds room so he doesn't particularly want younger siblings coming in and out.
We have no plans to sell but would it affect resale value if we got rid of bath completely or should we just do what we want without thinking about possible selling points in the future.
i have no bath! it was leaking when i bought the house so tore it out and have a big walk-in shower now.

i do LIKE a bath, but like in your case i shower 99% of the time and so the lack of a bath definitely wouldn’t put me off buying a house either.

the only time i could see it being an issue is with small children/babies because i imagine a bath is much easier.
 
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Would you buy a house without a bath?

We have a small bathroom with a shower over the bath. We are a family that 99% of the time shower, my 7 year will occasionally have a big bubble bath, maybe 3 x a year.
We will be redoing it in the next year or so. I'm thinking of getting rid of the bath and making it into a wet room with big walk in shower. We do however have 2 ensuites that are showers. But we want to keep our ensuite kid free 😆 and the 2nd ensuite is in our 15 year olds room so he doesn't particularly want younger siblings coming in and out.
We have no plans to sell but would it affect resale value if we got rid of bath completely or should we just do what we want without thinking about possible selling points in the future.
I think it would put off people with young kids or those thinking of having kids but I think you should do what you want. Maybe a house large enough to have two ensuites wouldn't be in the price range of those with babies or toddlers anyway.
 
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