The advice thread for random problems #3

[stargirl23]

Thanks, am breaking my back trying build this thing an didn't want to build it an release I screwed up with the springs

I felt dead after building it. Took me hours

 

[chickhicks86]

I'm not sure where to post this but I'm trying to find a luxury hotel/stay as a birthday gift. Ideally one-two nights with a dinner and spa package/access. Anyone stayed at an amazing hotel?. Ideally around the Cotswolds area but anywhere from Manchester to down south would be ideal.

Bovey Castle

 

[Piff paff puff]

Try not to worry but I’d have thought it’s on them if they left that message. Try ring first thing tomorrow too.

I've just listened to the telephone msg again (4th time) and now it makes sense
They will ballot in my absence on Monday and call me if I'm needed for Tuesday

 

[square_spoon]

I have a couple of questions about my passport which seem really obvious but just to be on the safe side!
My pp says it was issued 24 Jan/Jan14 and expires 24 Jan/Jan 24- that means it expires on the 24th Jan 2024 right? I'm just confused seeing the number 4 so many times
So if it does indeed expire 24th Jan 2024 would I be okay to go abroad and return on October 18th with the 3 months before expiry rule?

If you’re going somewhere with a 3 month rule then yes.

 

[Laughalong]

I'm in my late 20s. I've got no friends. I'm married, no kids. Where can I find online groups to join to find people to do things together? It is not easy to just go outside and meet others. Any advice?

Bumble BFF

 

[stargirl23]

It’s just so uncomfortable, I have to talk a lot for my job so it’s on my mind constantly. But I understand what they’re saying. They had to remove half the tooth as it was broken and then repair it, I was in the chair a long time and needed two doses of local so it wasn’t a small procedure

I don’t like dentists at the bests of times tbh hopefully they give you peace of mind that all is okay

 

[TheGlossy]

Have you tried this number - +44 161 813 1481

Online says it is their customer service team.

Thanks, I tried. Not working.

 

[Snippysnips]

My nan was the same. She lost her husband and didn’t want to retire as all she knew was working and didn’t want to be alone. We found an age uk group here and it’s changed her life. She volunteered for elderly coffee mornings and goes to the hall twice a week to chat to elderly people needing someone to talk to, makes them a coffee etc maybe your dad would consider something like that if he likes the care industry but needs out of the home because of the poor treatment they’re giving him at work

That's so sweet am glad she found something, I think it's just their generation, they feel like they need to stay in work because it's all they have known, I mean I absolutely love my job it's amazing but if someone said do you want to retire then am not going say no I will try again an see if I can talk him into something similar, it really would do him good to get out of there, am happy your nan has a lovely little volunteer job

 

[chickhicks86]

I've had a little search and can't find anything, but is there a "where can I buy" fashion / shopping type thread on Tattle anywhere?

 

[Snippysnips]

residency hotel?

Had a look but that's not it, it wasn't a black sign an different coloured building, the whole building looked black like the brickwork too

That one's a nice hotel but am not paying that for one night lol, this one I had originally looked at was around the £65 for the night

 

[chickhicks86]

Has anyone heard of Gear4Music . Com? Looking at getting a instrument an they are a lot cheaper than what other places are, not sure if they are cheaper because of a reason like bad quality or if it's just one of these sites that typically do cheaper than stores

I always have a read of Trustpilot. Then check if they have a physical (UK) address listed on their website. Always pay by credit card and/or Paypal then at least you have some comeback should anything go wrong. I've had a look at their website and they look legit to me.

 

[littlepup]

Not a problem but I didn't want to create a new thread just to ask this silly question... how would you describe this hair colour to your hairdresser? What sort of shade is it? Are there also highlights/low-lights/something else? It's not a million miles away from my own colour so I think it would be achievable. I get a warmish blonde colour done with a few highlights, and my own natural colour is much the same as Blake's roots/eyebrows - but I'd like to know the correct way to describe what I would like alongside showing this picture. Thank you in advance!

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It looks a little red undertoned on my phone so make sure you say if you don’t want that.

 

[becca7721]

thank you, really torn what to do.. don’t necessarily want to complain as such as my son received many surgeries from a surgeon which i would describe as outstanding care however long term his condition still needs managed and this is where the surgeon is really lacking. Theres a few surgeons far better suited that i would like a second opinion from but I feel really anxious about rocking the boatx

You could try asking PALs for advice on your situation, they may be able to advise, as they do that too, here at least.
Rocking the boat can be risky though (been there). I got diagnosis with second opinion but they were far away and after my conditioned worsened couldn’t get there so forced back to the one I that gave misdiagnosis. To say the weren’t impressed would not be an understatement, even though there’s no shame missing a rare condition they acted like it was a personal attack. I should also say, as the condition is across disciplines not all consultants acted that way - one literally drew a line in my notes and started with me again. Which was all that was needed. There’s no treatment so it was more management for me .

Good luck

 

[littlepup]

You need to tell them that they’re breaking your fence and if they climb over again, you will be sending them the bill for new panels.

Yes. And tell them you don’t appreciate their bad manners. If the balls come over again you won’t give them back and you won’t allow them to climb over, it’s trespass and if potentially vandalism, you have a camera in the window (you can get a blink camera for about &20 on Amazon prime days that are super easy to use). If he has some kind of scholarship type agreement with the football team, I can’t imagine they’ll want to risk an ASBO type offence.

Remind them…
“Remember the sabbath day, to keep it holy.”
Exodus 20:8–10 - no fucking about on a Sunday!
To the parents “Thou shalt not covet.” Exodus 20:17 - stop being jealous bastards.
And this one is good too…
“If a man has a stubborn and rebellious son who will not obey the voice of his father or the voice of his mother, and, though they discipline him, will not listen to them, then his father and his mother shall take hold of him and bring him out to the elders of his city at the gate of the place where he lives, and they shall say to the elders of his city, ‘This our son is stubborn and rebellious; he will not obey our voice; he is a glutton and a drunkard.’ Then all the men of the city shall stone him to death with stones.”
Deuteronomy 21:18-21 - Discipline your shitty kids or they deserve what’s coming to them in the form of flat footballs!

Suggest the get those back angled fence tops to create a net on the top of their fence.

 

[Snippysnips]

Gretna Green ?

We will probably stop off here, but there might be time to do somewhere else as well, hotel isn't going let us in till around 3 an I think that's the soonest we can get in their car park as well so we might be able to stop off at a few places

 

[stargirl23]

Anyone an expert in tax stuff?
My other half got a demand from HMRC in the post yesterday, saying he's underpaid income tax for the FY 22/23 to the tune of 1k.
We absolutely cannot afford to pay it back in one lump sum like they're asking.
He switched jobs part-way through the financial year (September), and by the looks of it from the breakdown they sent, his new job started his tax free allowance from scratch and didn't tax him until he earnt past the allowance, but obviously he'd already earnt 11k earlier in the year so this shouldn't have happened.
He doesn't have payslips as he got them electronically and never saved them, and as he left that job in May this year, he no longer has access to the system to download them again to check what actually came out.

If they did put him on the wrong tax code, do we still have to pay? I know he should have been more observant but you kind of expect payroll to get this sort of thing right.
I'm just really worrying and don't know what to do

If you go on gov website you should be able to put in national insurance and check it’s correct. In some cases hey have saved a breakdown of what you’ve been paid that year. I had to use it before as I thought I was overpaying so I checked if they owed me anything and they did x

 

[Snippysnips]

I googled the number and it said it was the police the voicemail the woman done left a different number but she was addressing me as my middle name so surely my ex would of gave them my first name. It’s just weird and out the blue like not long ago he was messaging me i wasn’t/not planning on messaging him anyway but just something about it screams dodgey too me

I'd honestly just block him on everything an not bother to reply, at the end of the day they need evidence to be able to do anything an so long as you don't do anything then they won't have that evidence, if they look at his phone an all they can see is him sending stuff and no replies sent back then you can easily flip it an say it's the other way round

 

[Okgolightly]

Thanks I'll try an see if the council will take any involvement with it an if not try ofstead



We don't know if they are putting her down or she's going down herself, she's only two an all we get is "I had a long sleep" an they tell us the times she slept but we have told them to just wake her before 3 or distract her so she doesn't sleep, this is what we do, we can't have her sleeping past 3 because she's not going to bed till almost 10 at night sometimes an then she's still getting up at 6 an ends up being totally exhausted an it's just a day of meltdowns, the heath visitor also suggested she stop sleeping past 3 for this reason as well, my brother's had a few meetings with them about this an the health visitor also had a meeting about this, but we just found out when my niece mentioned she got a dummy yesterday that they have been giving her one

I also don't like the fact they are sitting her on a chair an telling her to "calm down" if she's upset, this isn't what we do, we talk to her an get her to tell us why she's upset so we can fix it

I’m not sure whether this is an OFSTED related issue as it doesn’t sound like the nursery are doing anything detrimental to your niece but rather adhering to their own policies of not preventing a child from napping if they fall asleep. I’d suggest the first step is speaking with the nursery to find out whether they are putting your niece down to nap or if she is falling asleep and it’s against policy to wake her. I completely empathise with the not going to sleep til late thing as my daughter is the same if she naps. In relation to the calm down chair, again every nursery has their own way of dealing with behaviour. It kind of sounds like you may need to look for another nursery that aligns more with what you want?

 

[AllTheBest2022]

Can anybody please tell me wtf has bitten me and how to ease it? It’s absolutely killing (I gave birth 3 months ago and I’d rather go through that again right now ). There was no culprit at the scene!

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Horsefly maybe?

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Does anyone know if its possible for pest control to come and do their thing without you having to vacate the property? We have a rat problem but we also have 2 cats and a dog (you'd think that would be the end of the rat problem but nope) plus my mum is disabled with various health issues so we can't really just pack up and relocate for a bit without a serious amount of upheaval and stress.

When I was a wee student we had rats and they sorted it while we were out, however the people in the other part of the house had pets which had to be removed for 48 hours, but people could stay. This was a good 10 years ago mind.