The advice thread for random problems #3

[trudyjudy007]

That’s so sad. I don’t understand how these homes always end up so poorly run. But do threaten them with being reported to the ICO. It should wake them up with regards to data privacy at the very least.

I’m so shocked by this story!!! I wouldn’t even bother threatening them I’d just go ahead & report and I’d let them know you’ve made a police report for harassment too.

Snippy is your family in the position for dad to leave his role? I know it sounds idealistic but I’d be gunning to get him out of there or put him on sick leave.

I can’t even explain the rage that would course through me if a colleague showed up at my house like that.

 

[GalaxyGirl70]

I've got a Sage barista nespresso machine and I spend more time cleaning the bastard thing than I do drinking coffee. It's the milk frother that plays up... you have to keep taking the end of the frother wand out and unblocking the 4 tiny tiny holes with a paper clip. Drives me batshit. And then it likes to be descaled every few weeks - and won't work until you've done it. It warns you 2 or 3 times then goes on strike.

I love the coffee once I've made one, and the pod part is brilliant but I wish I'd researched it a bit better. £500 is a lot of money for a temperamental machine that operates on its own terms

 

[OnlyHereForTheLolz]

Anyone an expert in tax stuff?
My other half got a demand from HMRC in the post yesterday, saying he's underpaid income tax for the FY 22/23 to the tune of 1k.
We absolutely cannot afford to pay it back in one lump sum like they're asking.
He switched jobs part-way through the financial year (September), and by the looks of it from the breakdown they sent, his new job started his tax free allowance from scratch and didn't tax him until he earnt past the allowance, but obviously he'd already earnt 11k earlier in the year so this shouldn't have happened.
He doesn't have payslips as he got them electronically and never saved them, and as he left that job in May this year, he no longer has access to the system to download them again to check what actually came out.

If they did put him on the wrong tax code, do we still have to pay? I know he should have been more observant but you kind of expect payroll to get this sort of thing right.
I'm just really worrying and don't know what to do

Does it actually state he needs to pay a lump sum? They normally take it out weekly or monthly depending how you get paid for the rest of the financial year. So if he is salaried it should be nine/ten payments, starting July.
It’s taxes so there is no way of getting out of it

 

[stardust1]

soooooooooooo sorry again

it’s ok!

 

[WeHadFunRight]

I have a question about birthday presents and relatives… when do I stop being expected to buy birthday presents for nieces and nephews? My niece is 20 coming up and we don’t see her, we’re not close. Am thinking token present this year and next yr for her 21st then cards from then on?

 

[stardust1]

I swear there used to be a fashion advice thread but I can't find it, anyway.... Has anyone ever ordered from Cider? I keep getting ads on IG and the clothes look nice but perhaps too cheap to be as nice as they appear?

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[stardust1]

Pics not very good but the bit with the arrow is slightly dented so I really can’t fix that myself.

It’s the paint along the side that I want to fix really. The scuffs are paint/marks left behind from his plastic bumper. It’s gone down to the metal in one part where the darker spot is.

Some people are telling me to t-cut out, others say magic sponge, others say WD40 so not sure what’s best and I don’t want to make it worse. Then again, what have I got to lose?

Is it better to fill in the darker spot with paint and then t-cut or t cut to get scuffs out and then paint?!

is it a fiat? You can get bumpers for a good price at most scrap yards if you cannot get it out

 

[camotea]

Laundry question - I have a Habitat cotton throw and the label says ‘FOR THE LOVE OF GOD DONT WASH ME’ but what is the worst that could happen? I am shit at laundry (and house plants) but I want this clean and fresh. Am I destined to ruin it completely if I give it a cold hand wash cycle in the machine?

 

[square_spoon]

Haven’t used a bath in years and haven’t owned one in years either. I think they’re a lovely idea but most people genuinely don’t use them very much.

 

[stargirl23]

Not really a "problem" but after some ideas. Apart from a meal out, cinema or going for a walk what is there to do for adults? I love all those three I mentioned but looking at doing something a bit different to break it up

Bowling, ice skating, outdoor picnic, zoo, brunch, sky bar, outdoor cinema something a bit different, painting pottery, seen people doing alphabet dating trend atm eg a arcade, b bowling, c cinema etc

 

[Snippysnips]

In response to the original query, I'd say fit your home out with what suits you. There will always be someone who it will suit and given the room is big enough to have a bath, if it's that big a deal, the new owners will re-do the bathroom anyway. In all honesty it's a room a lot of people moving into a new home do to suit their own tastes and needs anyway.

That's what we found when we sold our last house, there were just as many who didn't mind there wasn't a bath as there was who did, what's important is having the house as you want it, if someone truely loves the house they will change it to suit themselves, we had to go back to collect some mail that hadn't been transferred to the new address only to find they were ripping out the kitchen that we didn't think was anything wrong with it, the house was only 13 year old

 

[Sharkfan]

@Sharkfan Don’t do it! It doesn’t sound legitimate at all.

I’m not. I can’t actually pay without entering a vehicle registration and I don’t have a vehicle.

 

[tomato_paste]

Not so much a problem but more advice, going down to Blackpool in a few weeks time, we are leaving from central Scotland

Is there anywhere we could stop off that's nice for lunch? Or even a wander around, we will have more or less the full day to do whatever, my dad isn't fond of the service stop off places because of price so looking for somewhere along the motorway we could pull off an go see, it will be a Sunday we are driving down

I found Penrith quite charming. Don't know how out of the way that would be for you?

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Believe me your autocorrect is nothing compared to what I have on timeline and in my DMs on Facebook. It’s awful. So please don’t worry!

For me I know it won’t change. I’ve done all the books, the therapies, wasted thousands of pounds chasing treatments as nhs wait so long. I was seeing someone pre March 2020 but they used covid as an excuse to drop me and then sat in a room accusing me of not trying, lying help would be assigned - the ‘help’ being the man who hurt me. They’ve no idea.

Are you in a position to access private mental health assessment? Then maybe you could get some support through your council with a formal diagnosis (sorry if I missed a bit and you have one I’ve read this thread really fast) even if it’s for a cleaning service now and again who could remove some of the mess? Not on the same level but when I was severely mentally ill I had a cleaner who came once a month to help. Apart from that I think you wait for the moment you’re ready you sound like you’ve had a rough time and you’re just not ready to heal and that’s okay. One day you will be.

 

[QueenBW]

She was attending sessions to help with her drinking, she doesn't know when to stop when out. But at home her husband is there so she will only drink 1 or 2
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She was under mental distress which is why i looked out for her but no she hasn't offered an apology just moaning to her other friends that she wont be invited to my house and that i dont call or message anymore. I seriously just dont know what to do, you're probably right i shouldn't brush it under the rug.,

It sounds like she doesn't even think her actions could have hurt you or she doesn't have the guts to take responsibility and apologize. I've been around people like that, it's not that they're evil or anything, but they're extremely hard to have in your life.

 

[CoffeeMamma]

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couod the machine have swallowed his card and not given the cash because he actually put a different, wrong card in? I don’t know if it works like that but it would explain it. Did he have any other cards on him that he could have used by mistake?

I often blame my mum, who’s memory isn’t the best, for things only to later realise it was actually my mistake or she was correct and I just assumed.

I came to say this - I once put a LOYALTY card in a bank machine and didn’t realise until it finished whirring
My dad is showing similar signs so I totally understand how worrying it is- according to my mum (ex GP) there’s a decrease in something which leads to an increase in brain fog etc around that age in men. However do keep monitoring it because it’s when they repeat the same thing over and over that you should worry. If it would settle you definitely contact the bank and ask for CCTV

 

[GalaxyGirl70]

My daughter had both ingrowing nails removed and she was told to wear flip flops after. She ended up wearing her ugg slippers (slider style) as they were the only things she was comfortable in and they weren't sweaty! It was quite uncomfortable for the 1st few days and I think it was a good few weeks before she could bear wearing her trainers again.

 

[AllTheBest2022]

Sorry I can't offer you any advice about this but I just wanted to say I'd be surprised if this hasn't raised red flags with school about the possibility of radicalisation especially after what you have put here.

Came here to say the same thing. There's a big section we have to go through on this in safeguarding training. Sorry I can't be of more help though OP

 

[Slaybutter]

@becca7721 I’m really sorry about your friend Medicine has a history of getting things painfully wrong, just look to how gynecology got started off — on enslaved black women, against their will, and with no anesthesia. Could the person from hoarding UK board somewhere local for a little while? Or perhaps someone young and new that’s hungry for work will come. This sounds really difficult and im sorry you’re being treated this way.

Hopefully when tattle wakes up you’ll get useful advice on the furry four-legged interloper

 

[CoffeeMamma]

Me again - sorry! My son has decided who he wants to invite to his birthday party and there’s a few new names on there, and it seems as though they’ve come from the SEND unit at school, where my son has his extra lessons. of course I have no issue inviting these kids but I want to make sure everyone has a nice time- so is it socially acceptable for me to put “please let me know of any dietary requirements or additional needs” on the invite? Then I’ll have a better idea if I need some quiet space, or to turn the music down etc.