I wouldn't use it, if something comes out the freezer I was always taught by my folks (who's both in the cooking industry) to use it within 2 to 3 days, even if its still in date
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Nah, bin if it's been in there for weeks after defrosting.
Hi looking for some advice. We have a family holiday to center parks planned for next spring. I have recently divorced so will be in an apartment by myself. I was a recent add on as didn't want to go initially.
My brother and his wife and three sons under 12 will be in their own lodge.
My parents are sharing a lodge with my son who is 28. He adores his grandparents and wanted to stay with them.
All seems fine doesn't it... Well mybrother has started to bizarrely ignore some of my text messages.. He seems off. I don't message that often but when I have he has read but not replied.. Except to a birthday message. I asked my mum about it and apparently he is annoyed with me and my son that he has found out that my son is bringing his new girlfriend of 4 months on the center parcs holiday. They will have been together a year by the time of the holiday.
He apperently said he is furious and doesn't want to have to holiday with a stranger!
Iam shocked at this and haven't told my son as he is very sensitive and laid back and it will hurt him that his uncle thinks this. I mean is this strange? It's a bloody 5 day trip to center parcs! My son and his gf will not be in the same lodge as my brother.. They will be with my patents who are fine with it.. My son paid for his own lodge. And this girl is not a stranger she is important to my son and could become part of the family. She is a lovely quiet girl.
My brother has always been a bit strange.. He is very insular and introverted. He gave up work to be a full time dad years ago because he couldn't stand being around people lol. I think iam more hurt by his anger towards towards this and his ignoring my messages as iam recovering from a breakdown that I had following my marriage breakdown. I have basically been bed bound for 12 months and barely able to function. My family have not been supportive at all. My mum tried but just ended up annoyed at my selfishness as she saw it. My brother just ignored the whole thing. My grown kids helped me through. I cried ever day for 6 months. But iam finally feeling like getting back out there.
My brother and his wife and three sons under 12 will be in their own lodge.
My parents are sharing a lodge with my son who is 28. He adores his grandparents and wanted to stay with them.
All seems fine doesn't it... Well mybrother has started to bizarrely ignore some of my text messages.. He seems off. I don't message that often but when I have he has read but not replied.. Except to a birthday message. I asked my mum about it and apparently he is annoyed with me and my son that he has found out that my son is bringing his new girlfriend of 4 months on the center parcs holiday. They will have been together a year by the time of the holiday.
He apperently said he is furious and doesn't want to have to holiday with a stranger!
Iam shocked at this and haven't told my son as he is very sensitive and laid back and it will hurt him that his uncle thinks this. I mean is this strange? It's a bloody 5 day trip to center parcs! My son and his gf will not be in the same lodge as my brother.. They will be with my patents who are fine with it.. My son paid for his own lodge. And this girl is not a stranger she is important to my son and could become part of the family. She is a lovely quiet girl.
My brother has always been a bit strange.. He is very insular and introverted. He gave up work to be a full time dad years ago because he couldn't stand being around people lol. I think iam more hurt by his anger towards towards this and his ignoring my messages as iam recovering from a breakdown that I had following my marriage breakdown. I have basically been bed bound for 12 months and barely able to function. My family have not been supportive at all. My mum tried but just ended up annoyed at my selfishness as she saw it. My brother just ignored the whole thing. My grown kids helped me through. I cried ever day for 6 months. But iam finally feeling like getting back out there.
Its your brother's issue to get over. Its a holiday park where people can go do their own thing and I'm sure your son and his partner will be off doing what they like to do, as will your brother. People make a problem where there isn't one. I have no doubt at the end of the holiday your brother will be saying how rude the young couple were by not socialising with the family as mush as he thought they should.
I don't really have any advice about the holiday, but I did want to share sympathy. My brother is similar. He too is home too much and is very isolated (he'd never agree though) and definitely doesn't get enough social/ general contact with other adults. Especially people not-of-his-choosing, yanno? He only sees people occasionally and then they're only people who aren't going to challenge him at all. He's completely lost the skill of biting his tongue/ nodding politely/ etc. He's become a bit controlling - not in ways you'd really notice, but he's used to running the house, kids, weekend plans, general family narrative/agenda etc, so when something pops up that changes that, he definitely does his best to adjust but I do think it throws him quietly.
TBH I think it's extra weird of your brother since he's not sharing a lodge with your son plus he has his own not insignificant family he'll be busy with - I wonder how he was expecting your 28 year old son to fit into his plans or his perception of how the holiday would go?? Was he expecting his nephew to be in the subtropical swimming paradise for hours with his 3?!
Thanks. Since my breakdown I just don't trust my own judgement anymore lol.. Soi wasn't even sure if my brother was in the right to feel angry. I needed to here others points of view on this. And you are right! I don't feel so bad anymore.Its your brother's issue to get over. Its a holiday park where people can go do their own thing and I'm sure your son and his partner will be off doing what they like to do, as will your brother. People make a problem where there isn't one. I have no doubt at the end of the holiday your brother will be saying how rude the young couple were by not socialising with the family as mush as he thought they should.
Thank you! You know you expressed it so much better than me. I couldn't put my finger on his problem.. But yes.. Its control.. He has lost control of his special holiday as he sees it.. He has full command over everyone and now a new unknown is thrown into the mix. Ik ow he very much sees it as his family holiday and we are all just along for the ride. Which is nonsense as I have been with my own kids to center parcs every year of their lives. He doesn't own the Parc! Part of me wondered if he wS bothered that I added my self on by booking my iwn lodge. I know he has hinted to mum that he doesn't wanting me ruining the holiday vibe if iam still depressed.I don't really have any advice about the holiday, but I did want to share sympathy. My brother is similar. He too is home too much and is very isolated (he'd never agree though) and definitely doesn't get enough social/ general contact with other adults. Especially people not-of-his-choosing, yanno? He only sees people occasionally and then they're only people who aren't going to challenge him at all. He's completely lost the skill of biting his tongue/ nodding politely/ etc. He's become a bit controlling - not in ways you'd really notice, but he's used to running the house, kids, weekend plans, general family narrative/agenda etc, so when something pops up that changes that, he definitely does his best to adjust but I do think it throws him quietly.
TBH I think it's extra weird of your brother since he's not sharing a lodge with your son plus he has his own not insignificant family he'll be busy with - I wonder how he was expecting your 28 year old son to fit into his plans or his perception of how the holiday would go?? Was he expecting his nephew to be in the subtropical swimming paradise for hours with his 3?!
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1) Same, I've never got an accurate idea of if what I think or feel is at all unreasonable - Tattle is great for this
2) Imagine trying to safeguard your perfect holiday by attempting to exclude a depressed person rather than deliberately including the depressed person to build them up and have low-pressure fun?! Yuck, I'd hope your mum called that out?
Thanks. I feel better knowing iam not crazy for what I was thinking.
Iam not sure if mum did call him out or not she rarely does and she is very much of the old school we're I should just get on with life and snap out of it. She thinks if noone has died then I don't have any business getting upset.
Iam not sure if mum did call him out or not she rarely does and she is very much of the old school we're I should just get on with life and snap out of it. She thinks if noone has died then I don't have any business getting upset.
Has anyone changed banks? How easy is it an can the new bank just automatically transfer what's paid/taken with your old one without there being a ton of paper work an phoning places to change etc
I've been with RBS all my life an recently they are really starting to piss me off, I downloaded the app to save having to log in the long way to check online, the app doesn't work so I deleted it an now I can't spend online because it wants me to approve in the app (that doesn't work) I've been in a few times an they are absolutely no help what's so ever, all am told is tHe ApP WoRks foR mE
by them or am told to delete my card details an try again which I have done numerous times now, they aren't going to give a new card unless it's lost or stolen which they close the card off if that's the case an I'd rather still be able to use it till I got a new one (like when the cards expired you can use till the new one comes)
So my only option is to finally just say shove it to them an go elsewhere but am not sure if this will be more bother than what it would be if I just fought it out with RBS, basically I just want to know what battle is going be the less pain in the backside for me lol, fighting with them or changing banks
I've been with RBS all my life an recently they are really starting to piss me off, I downloaded the app to save having to log in the long way to check online, the app doesn't work so I deleted it an now I can't spend online because it wants me to approve in the app (that doesn't work) I've been in a few times an they are absolutely no help what's so ever, all am told is tHe ApP WoRks foR mE
by them or am told to delete my card details an try again which I have done numerous times now, they aren't going to give a new card unless it's lost or stolen which they close the card off if that's the case an I'd rather still be able to use it till I got a new one (like when the cards expired you can use till the new one comes) So my only option is to finally just say shove it to them an go elsewhere but am not sure if this will be more bother than what it would be if I just fought it out with RBS, basically I just want to know what battle is going be the less pain in the backside for me lol, fighting with them or changing banks
It’s very easy to change if you do it online through the switch service. I change banks quite often to take advantage of the sign up bonuses. For example last month I switched to Lloyds and got £150 and now I’m switching to Nationwide to get £200. I have a secondary current account that I switch though, I never switch my main account which my salary etc is paid into just because I do it so often. If you’re only looking to switch banks once though then it’s not a problem. Have a look at Money Saving Expert, they have all the info about switching banks. The majority of things should change to your new bank automatically but things like Netflix, which aren’t direct debits, you will need to manually change yourself. There’s also a lot of helpful info on the Reddit sub r/UKPersonalFinance about switching banks.Has anyone changed banks? How easy is it an can the new bank just automatically transfer what's paid/taken with your old one without there being a ton of paper work an phoning places to change etc
I've been with RBS all my life an recently they are really starting to piss me off, I downloaded the app to save having to log in the long way to check online, the app doesn't work so I deleted it an now I can't spend online because it wants me to approve in the app (that doesn't work) I've been in a few times an they are absolutely no help what's so ever, all am told is tHe ApP WoRks foR mE
So my only option is to finally just say shove it to them an go elsewhere but am not sure if this will be more bother than what it would be if I just fought it out with RBS, basically I just want to know what battle is going be the less pain in the backside for me lol, fighting with them or changing banks
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Thanks I'll have a look at those, I kind of felt that I'd prob have to change some things over myself but so long as the majority can be automatic then it will help, just getting fed up with the poor customer service with RBS now, they can't be bothered an it's always a 30/40 min wait to see them cause they closed everyone of them down in the other 4 towns so now there's one left that everyone has to use an there's only ever 2 or 3 staff onIt’s very easy to change if you do it online through the switch service. I change banks quite often to take advantage of the sign up bonuses. For example last month I switched to Lloyds and got £150 and now I’m switching to Nationwide to get £200. I have a secondary current account that I switch though, I never switch my main account which my salary etc is paid into just because I do it so often. If you’re only looking to switch banks once though then it’s not a problem. Have a look at Money Saving Expert, they have all the info about switching banks. The majority of things should change to your new bank automatically but things like Netflix, which aren’t direct debits, you will need to manually change yourself. There’s also a lot of helpful info on the Reddit sub r/UKPersonalFinance about switching banks.
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The current account switching service is very good.
It basically works by when a company take a direct debit or send you a direct credit (bacs) then they get a notification that it has been forwarded to a new account and they should use the new details from now on and they should then notify you that they have changed your record.
It's pretty seamless.
People sometimes stress that they haven't been informed by the company until after the payment has been made etc. But that's how it works. It doesn't preemptively tell companies snippysnipps has changed, mainly because it could be gdpr breach if you are not longer using that company etc. it waits until they send it to the old details and says don't do that again please.
ETA it is current account switching. Not savings! So if you have any credits going to a savings account and you close the account it will just bounce back to whoever paid you. It won't be forwarded like the above.
This catches a lot of people out and is why some people moan about the switching service. It isn't all accounts only current accounts.
I’d just like to give a different perspective.
I’m similar to your brother tbh. And that doesn’t mean our issues should be your issues or that it is right.
But the last time I saw my whole family, all together, probably 2012-ish. I asked my parents not to invite my brothers partner who he has been with for years.
I on the other hand barely knew her as my whole family live in Africa. Anyway it wasn’t because I disliked her, I barely see my family and just wanted to spend time with them and not somebody that is a stranger to me.
This was also only for a week we all went away together and after that she was included in everything
Could you possibly have a few socials with your brother and her included? So that he doesn’t feel a stranger is intruding on his holiday
Does hanging clothes on a radiator to dry damage the radiators? Or would it take years and years to start damaging
I don't think it damages them, they're filled with water after all, but things like these are good 2 Pack of 4 Bar Radiator Airer Dryer Clothes Drying Rack Rail Towel Holder Hang L48xH38cm : Amazon.co.uk: Home & Kitchen there're different designs (and much cheaper at The Range) but the principle to lift them away might help you not to worry
I usually hang stuff that's a little damp on them an mines have been fine, but I've never taken stuff straight from the washing machine an put them on, I think so long as it's not soaking wet an you just want some dampness out then it's fine
I don't think it damages the radiators at all but does put moisture into the air. So if your house isn't well ventilated or is prone to damp you could get damp patches and/or mould. It's why a lot of rental properties have a "no washing drying indoors" clause in the contract
Yep, I am banned by my hubby!
I will do in rooms with extractors, so kitchen and bathroom, and I do sometimes sneak things that just need the thickest hems etc finishing off after they've been on the line. Never straight from the washing machine though. I have no idea what we will do this winter, as I'm really trying to avoid the cost of the tumble drier.- Status