I would like to have posted this as a reply to the Cyber Bullying blog. We all know what would happen if I had. This is likely to be a long post and would be a shame to be deleted after I had given it so much thought. So, I will address this directly to Wilkes and those who read her blog.
When I learned of the suicide of Caroline Flack I mentioned to my husband that Wilkes would be having a difficult time not vlogging about this and making it all about herself. I wasn't surprised that this would be the first post of your post-YouTube retirement blog.
Regarding the trolling and negativity on YouTube and towards your channel in particular, from what I have observed it has never been professional trawlers coming across your channel by chance and abusing the comments for the sake of doing so. The remarks you disapprove of usually call you out for something you have said or done.
My observations is that the negative remarks have been quite expected and in proper form. For example, when you have made detrimental remarks about the disabled, solicited money because you figured the viewers owed you, or remarked concern about your daughter. Actually anything short of bearfam devotion may have been considered as trawling in your mind. Of course you should double think what you say concerning some of the remarks you have made about other people. That feeling, in the pit of your stomach, the anxiety, might be your conscience.
I am concerned that you may be a predator taking advantage of others, especially those in need, as you have promoted your channel as a place for disabled. I have a family member with a brain injury who is easily taken advantage by people who I recognize exhibit similar traits as you. This does not make for a "small life," because someone needs to keep watch. Personally I would love to meet you face to face and give your daughter the big hug she needs. I don't know how it would go with you considering your hatred of PEOPLE. I would welcome the opportunity to better understand how you ended up in such a karmic storm.
Seriously, taking someone's suicide and making it all about yourself. So expected and so revolting. It's the media you say. Yes, it is. Just like the media, who are after the negative when it comes to popular people, is the vlog formerly known as That Wilkes Woman. Ready to jump on the bandwagon to gain that clout and online popularity. Although your remarks about drama and popular possibilities to feel important are numerous one recent event is Prince Harry. Questioning his relationship and parentage to get those much needed words into the search algorithms into your social media. You may object that it is different because you are not big media who made this front page news. It doesn't matter that you are taking an uninformed swipe at a young man who has undergone much tragedy in his life. Who, it turns out, is working to deal with his emotional ills.
Innocent before guilty you say. That is a new one for you. I remember you talking about interviewing a suspect and when the say no comment they are guilty. And then there is the tattoo neighbor who must be guilty of something.
Then there was this YouTube family you put at risk. Children included. You also put a fair prosecution at risk and justice for the victims should there have been charges laid. As a law professional you should have known better. It was more important to gain that clout than anyone have justice. Before you get on your "INGHAM FAMILY INSIDER ALERT, I didn't know of the family, have only watched a few vlogs, and only as the result of your vlog about the situation. Yes, I thought it was a dangerous situation for the girls. Mostly I wondered why someone, that being you, would put it all at risk.
This online society. How was it working for you then? Using a fragile young girl, who had her own psych issues to get into the spotlight for online clout. And when it didn't work you were well out of there. No concern to the alleged victims. Not the girl who came forward, or the daughters of the accused. How did you know that this wouldn't be there breaking point? It is not cyber bullying if you claim to be a cop.
I am not going to go into detail about your contemplated suicide. I do feel, at this time, it isn't a topic you should be discussing in the public. I am saying this for the sake of your daughter. Recently, on social media, she expressed her top fear was of losing a close family member to death. Now I don't know if you talk about your suicidal tendencies, or just listen to a lot of near death, after death, or death related podcasts. It is sad that your daughter is afraid of this possibility. This was her number one fear above all else. It is good that you got help and didn't follow through. I really do hope that you aren't burdening a young girl with this and that she doesn't read about your suicidal thoughts.
You really need to stop talking about your daughter's mental illness. You are labeling her on a public platform. This could affect her now and affect her future. You have no idea who is reading this stuff. How do you think she feels having her most personal information out there? Perhaps this is contributing to the problem. It makes me sad to read about her struggles considering it is being broadcast to the Internet where her friends, her future employers, or predators looking for kids with self esteem issues to abuse may learn about her weaknesses. Does she even have the maturity to give consent to broadcasting this information. Does she even know?
You seem to think that your daughter is the school's problem and that they dropped the ball. With your lump sum you could have done so much more than providing stuff like trips and tee shirts. You could well have done okay with less trips, an economical car, cut down on the online shopping, and spent the cash on therapy for your child. At the end of the day you are her parent, the school isn't. She is your responsibility. If she is causing problems at school and this is affecting others who are there for an education that is your problem. You say three of her friends have attempted suicide. So much for the privacy of minors.
I agree about some aspects that you have commented about social media. I am also a parent. Hopefully like most parents I have boundaries set in place to keep my family safe while allowing them to grow and mature. They are on tiktok and I approve all postings and have control of their accounts. They are aware of unsafe content and that there are dangerous people about. We talk about unsafe scenarios. You had included your daughters tiktoks on you vlogs which is your choice. No doubt BearFam members and others are aware of her content. Do you watch and approve her postings? There are more that raise red flags than don't. A recent posting isn't anything my children would consider with the lyrics:
I can't take big d*ick but I suck on it,
Aint f**ing with a pussy got to pop on it.
Bumping and grinding like a, well you get the picture.
My kids were not brought up that way. It is concerning that your daughter is putting out a very dangerous message and it if frightening. This is not wholesome and happy. I have seen those tiktoks and they are not like that!
Misbehaving at school, being excluded, a victim of parental alienation, with a mother too weak to follow through with boundaries. What will become of her? Have you considered that all this "angst" might be a cry out for help? That she needs and craves boundaries and direction? A positive path rather than those trips, tee shirts, and VIP concert tickets and a mother who claims to be a friend. Friends don't put down friends again and again. Neither should mothers. At this rate you will end up having the same relationship with your daughter as you had with your own mother. It is time to break that cycle for the sake of your daughter.
In your blog posting you claimed that you could not provide basic discipline and guidance in regards to your daughters addiction to social media. I agree, in my humble opinion, she is heading for disaster. This child needs a hero.
You can't return to YouTube and face the idiots because you have gone too far and likely brought upon possible legal action regarding your daughters father. You can't face the idiots because you need that child to keep a roof over your head. If your daughter finds a hero in her dad you would be out on your butt. You are selfish. You are protecting yourself. You perpetuate the poison and karma keeps on sending it back to you but you are too stubborn to take responsibility for your actions. It is just too easy to blame it on others, blame it on Tattle. You do need to take a long hard look at yourself and your online life.
I am sure you would love to wave your magic wand and make Tattle disappear as you did with your video content. It bothers you that the truth is here and you have no control over it. Difficult isn't it?
Tattle only came about because people became concerned about much of your content. Voiceless to remark on your actual vlog Tattle became an outlet for our concerns and observations. It is now the only public record of your behavior and this bothers you.
You are not the nice pensioner you claim to be. You treat people horribly. This hits a nerve with anyone who has had to spend space and time with a person such as you. It bothers those of us with the empathy to feel for those you have used and who are under your influence. Once we realized the pattern of behavior and treatment of your daughter it became a different level altogether. One thing you will find withing the chapters of Tattle's Wilkes forums is the concern and care for your daughter. Constant pokes and remarks and psychological mistreatment from her own mother. So very sad. She could be a beautiful child, encourage her and leave the toxic remarks behind. These same remarks you heard from your own mother. You blame this constantly for your shortcomings. Stop it. Take therapy, a parenting course. Do something to lead this child to the life she can be the best at. This is the pivotal moment where life can go either way. Ger help and be her hero. Nobody enjoys watching a train wreck with a child trapped inside.
I know my comments will sting. This is not bullying. This is concern. If it helps you to face your truths and you do right by your child then they are words well said.
The alternative is that darn karma curse laid upon you.