I keep telling myself this is temporary. I wish I could put a sign on my forehead to warn people until it goes awayAww its so annoying isnt it! I had a nap and it made me feel a tiny bit better (I sound like a toddler) still feel grumpy though so going to order a take away and have a bath and hope for a better day tomorrow
Out of interest, have you tested positive for COVID at all in the past 18 months? I had exactly the same alongside prolonged lack of smell and taste and my doctors have said it’s long covid. The brain fog is absolutely unreal and so demoralising.
I hope you get better
I'm sorry to hear about your long-lasting side-effects.Bless you, that must be tough. I couldn't leave it if I was in that situation, mainly because of what I know it would do to my mental health and probably ultimately affect the relationship anyways. My opinion - He has already suspected that you are quiet for a reason. I know from experience that someone consistently having to try and 'draw' out of a person what is wrong with them can be really tiring and infuriating in equal measures. Your husband feeling like that could cause this situation to go south in a way that it potentially doesn't need to. As for your husband being too nice to tell this person to f* off, I think that's you letting him off the hook a bit too much. Realistically in order to save his marriage since the incident in the summer he should be assertive with this other woman and tell her that he's flattered that she has opened up communication with him in that way but he's really not interested as he has a loving wife at home. I'm not sure if this is the best advice but for me, that's what I would do ask him about it in a non-accusatory way to try and understand what's going on. Sending hugs! X
I would tell him you saw she’s still contacting him. Ask him to block her so there is no temptation.
I wasn’t expecting anyone to ready my rant let alone reply so thank you I really appreciate even one person listening. I never usually speak on my marriage to anyone. And living in another country to my family and friends is so difficult and I want them to think I’m okay and not worry.
I just wish I knew every single detail. As I always tell him if some guy try’s to hit on me. So I would have been fine if he said one of his old female friends told him their feelings or sent him a photo and he should have said to her (even politely) that he has a wife at home that he loves dearly and to respect that. And I said to him he put this girls feelings infront of mine because he didn’t want to embarrass her. He realised that was wrong and that’s why his really trying to make more of an effort. I definitely feel like I need to bring it up today as I’m so terrible at hiding my emotions and secrets. I just hope I can say it in a way he doesn’t get defensive. I just want to have closure and move on and not take steps back. Anyways rant over! Thank you for listening. I hope you are having a bit of a better day than me. Have lovely end to your week
You're welcome - good luck with the chat XxI wasn’t expecting anyone to ready my rant let alone reply so thank you I really appreciate even one person listening. I never usually speak on my marriage to anyone. And living in another country to my family and friends is so difficult and I want them to think I’m okay and not worry.
nd I can assure you I definitely made him grovel for weeks!
Thank you I actually think I will tell him that as I don’t understand why after everything he only muted her on fb when he blocked her on WhatsApp. As for the calling the police. Unfortunately that won’t work as his originally from the Caribbean and she lives there still. But if he doesn’t block her I will contact her myself.
That's such a tough place to be in, I really hope you're OK. I've seen your replies already but just wanted to reach out and hope you manage to get it sorted. Personally I would talk to him about it, it'll eat away at you and he's already noticed somethings up. You don't want to bottle your feelings up then the smallest minor thing happens and you explode and lay it out to him. Does he use Facebook often? If he doesn't, maybe that's why he's muted her so he doesn't get notifications from her when she was calling. Just sit down and openly speak about your feelings on it, it doesn't need to be an argument as such, as long as yous are both honest about how your feeling xx
I've tried to but the alarm is in a really high location (Victorian building with very high ceilings) and I only have a stepladder.
Thank you! That means so much
hugs to you! I know a lot of people are going through worse. It just feels lonely keeping things in. And you’re right, it’s only been afew days and i can barely sleep it’s really bothering me and we’ve been in such a good place recently I hate to ruin everything we’ve worked on. But for my own sanity I need to talk to him. And no he doesn’t. Since having our daughter and the pandemic he has barely uses social media as he finds it time wasting and depressing, so you are probably right about why he muted her as even his family contact me sometimes telling me to tell him to reply to messages as he ignores them. But he still should have told the girl to go away or block her..
Do you live together?
I've no idea of your age but you couldn't be perimenopausal could you?
Have a conversation with him babe. You ain’t his mum
Thank you for your post. I appreciate it
Sounds like an aura migraine maybe. Have you had them before??I hope you get better
No, no COVID at all. I haven't even had as much of a cold since 2018. It's not really a brain fog because I can concentrate perfectly fine. However, my short-term memory is suddenly playing tricks on me.
I'm a bit worried this is related to an incident I had in May where I suddenly got white flashes in my left eye then it took over the rest of my vision for a few seconds and I started shaking uncontrollably (my vision was just white blurry flashes for a few seconds) I went to the emergency at the time and waited, but I left after waiting for 12 hours. I haven't had the chance to see a neurologist since.
You can have migraines without a headache. There are two types that can produce the symptoms you describe (including the memory issues), they are Basilar and Hemiplegic. These can occur in addition to an existing 'bog standard' migraine condition. There are a few websites/forum discussions about them out there so it could be worth having a look and seeing if any of the symptoms ring true for you.Thank you for your post. I appreciate it
I'm turning 31 next month. As far as I know, I'm not perimenopausal. My period is very much on point in terms of regularity and has always been, no pain, no hot flashes or sleep problems, no mood swings or any sort of behavioral/body change.
I think it is neurological since I'm not experiencing any other physical symptoms. The issue with the visual disturbance is that I didn't have a migraine before nor after and my body started shaking on its own. My left arm was shaking on its own, even when I tried to stop it, it wouldn't. I'm used to having migraines that could last up to three days and I'm pretty sure I didn't experience any migraine before or after. Ever since, my memory has been acting out.
