First off - forget the idea of being friends with him after this. Honestly it rarely works and in your situation I think it would end up being more of an issue because I get the impression he will use it to keep a hold over you. He sounds possessive and he sounds like he can railroad you.@BettyCrockerr And/or to anyone else who wants to chime in their perspective. Do you remember a few posts back when I talked about my doubts in my “online relationship”?
I wanted to hold off on breaking up because just this past Sunday we met for his early birthday celebration and Monday was his actual birthday.
Now my questions are when would be the right time? What do I do if he questions my ability to make a decision because I can be indecisive (and he’s admitted that, which he is not wrong)? And how to I carefully break it off without being an asshole about it but also say I’d like to be friends? He feels especially close but I don’t feel the same. I love him but just more as I friend.
Bare in mind since we’re mostly online due to long distance, I will have to do this through video chat.
This whole thing is eating me up and it’s strange when your family/friends are more excited about you in a relationship than you are.
Just tell him how you feel. Say that you aren’t happy, you don’t feel that way about him, you don’t want to be in any kind of relationship with him and that you want to be single and enjoy other aspects of your life. That’s it. Don’t be drawn into a debate over it and don’t allow him to manipulate you. tell him what’s going on and tell him you’d like space.
you don’t owe your family any kind of explanation. you are an adult and it’s entirety up to you who you are in relationships with. It’s got nothing to do with them. Don’t ask for their opinion, don’t discuss it with them. If they ask about him in future simply say it was working/you weren’t happy and you are no longer involved with him. That’s it. If they press you for any more information or if they start carrying on about it, saying you should be with him etc firmly tell them that your relationships have nothing to do with them and that you won’t be discussing it any further with them.