I found it interesting that she said she reads here - there’s literally five pages (now six) … about her.
Over three years? Not a lot really. Her then directing people here explicitly just as a drama begins - I think that explains her character well.
From an actual grown up perspective - she clearly has been traumatised as a child by one, or both of her parents - and now avoids boredom at all costs (and safety) for a constant stream of drama - it makes her feel alive, needed, wanted, adored. She dresses the way she does (which I do love, very Vivienne Westwood inspired) simply for the shock factor = attention.
I don’t follow her, but she pops up occasionally, in the time Iv seen her there’s been school mums judging her, TikTok creator drama, loud trans debates that don’t involve her, politics, two or three violent attacks on her (for no reason!) and two breakups. As mentioned, I don’t even follow her and Iv seen all this.
Imagine being in a relationship with someone like that, phone constantly attached to them, every stray thought plastered on the internet for thousands to watch and dissect?
Then imagine having a mother like that, dramas that dont just spill out online, they will spill into the ‘everyday’ too. She films herself crying her eyes out devastated, then will post herself drunk at a party a few hours later… she’s loudly cussing someone out or being cancelled and then she’s cooking dinner. When Iv looked at her page there is often posts throughout the day. These have all been edited, picked and posted - if she’s working too, her free time is that - TikTok. How exhausting!
Jasper will look forward to her playing ‘good mum’ for the camera as no doubt it’s the only time he feels she actually ‘sees’ him. But kids aren’t stupid, and he is clearly quite switched on. He will see it’s an act, as five minutes later she’s back on her phone , editing, filming, desperately reading comments. But those five glorious minutes of her interacting with him will be worth it for attention from mummy. Neglected children crave love, and will accept it in any form. Neglected adults are much the same.
In his birthday video it was someone else filming him opening his presents whilst she lay despondent on the sofa. I found that a very telling glimpse into jaspers life.
Social services are well aware of malicious callers, my sister has had them herself - however - like Charlie, my sister inserts herself into drama, has terrible mood swings from elated to deep desperation too, and her kids have front row seats to it all. My sister is well in her thirties but acts like an immature 18 year old, often friends with people much younger than her as they are the only ones who ‘get’ her, aka the only ones who thrive on ‘tea’ ‘cancelling’ bitchiness and gossip 24/7.
Charlie may keep him clean and fed, as far as we know, but like my sister - social services aren’t just looking for starving dirty kids. You can neglect a child’s emotional well-being by staying with a partner who is volatile, by encouraging people to find and attack you at your home (your child’s place of safety) by plastering ‘the drama’ all over the Internet and with addiction (phones, social media etc are addictive, it’s not just drugs!)
By telling TikTok all of her dramas and struggles, Jasper hears them too - if she has no one looking after him (or quite possibly, ANYONE looking after him - also a huge red flag for safeguarding)
She doesn’t seem to take this into account, let’s not forget when editing a TikTok - which she does daily, sometimes hourly updates! She is listening and rewatching those videos over and over and over…. Kids listen, many adults forget that.
anyway, the long and short of it is, Charlie is entirely responsible for her situation, yea, that includes gettin kicked out her home with a child in tow. You might not want to hear that, if you have been a victim of DV or whatever else - but red flags are there, choices are there and by staying - you have to take some responsibility to what happens to you.
And YOUR kid.
Sam might have physically booted them out, which is harsh, although let’s not forget we don’t know his side now do we?
but Charlie is the one who has made her kid homeless, by not providing a safe home for him.
If she wanted to set herself up securely, she’s clearly had the funds and opportunities to do so, but she has chosen not to, and like all drama loving narcissistic trauma loving ‘victims is now homeless, and soon will be jobless too.
But hey, at least she’ll have lots of people cooing and offering her help …. Aka, lots more views, lots more attention.
I hope this shocks her into realising that being a mother is more than just having a baby, being an adult is more than just turning 18+ and being responsible unfortunately, feels boring and is hard - a lot of the time.