Hey guys, I was lurking for a bit then broke and made an account lol. I've been thinking about these people for months and it's been bothering me a bit lol.
Normally I would say, live and let live if your relationship is happy and consensual, but the problematic stuff they say and the way these two behave seems kind of damaging to themselves and their audience. First off, I know someone said it pages ago in this thread, but there was the Dr. Phil video in which they got upset because an audience poll on the show said that a significant amount of respondents wouldn't go on a date with someone in a wheelchair, and Hannah said "everyone should say yes". I think it's super unreasonable to say that everyone should be ok with going on a date with a disabled person, especially with someone who has Shane's condition. Like good for you if you're fine with it, but I would want a partner who I can dance with, work out with, go on hikes and travel around the world with easily while we're young, and I think a lot of people feel that way! I don't think they're good ambassadors for disabilities. Their insistence on not needing a caretaker is super unrealistic too. I noticed in some videos they use the argument that "the caretaker can't be here 24/7, so if there's something mild i can help Shane with, I'm not going to make him wait until a caretaker comes, I'm just going to help feed him or take him to the bathroom". Sure, but that's not a good argument as to why you don't really have ANY help at all except your family. They seem super defensive and proud of not needing a caretaker, which is really not a great representation of an actual disabled relationship.. The reality is caregiver syndrome is real and will hit Hannah and her family really bad as time goes on! It seems she has abandoned her career as well, which may feel fine for her now but in 20 years I wonder if she will feel that she made the right choice. To clarify, it's not bad that they're "interabled", but the way that they act like there's no problems with being a 24/7 nurse helping Shane go to the bathroom and doing everything for him is a bit worrisome.
Someone earlier on the forum mentioned Cole and Charisma too, and taking a look at their channel, they're a lot more realistic and mature than these 2. They act like a couple instead of mother and child, and when caregiving is brought up they disclose that they live with Cole's parents and they are open to caregivers if they get burnt out, or when they start a family. I think the girl (Charisma) has a medical background too, so she seems actually competent to take care of her partner and to manage stress.
I don't know if any of you users browse reddit, but I've seen a number of posts by Shane on there advertising the channel. They post the same picture like multiple times to different subforums. I've found threads there which talk about how they post all the time finding it annoying lol