Sofie Hagen

[annabananaw10]

That poster just sounds incredibly bitter.

Sofie is one of the most bitter people I have come across. Do they actually have any real friends? Like not comedian colleagues or online friends who fawn over them, but real friends?

 

[Mr Krabs]

It’s easy to do the healthy at any size mantra when you’re overweight and in your 20s or early 30s. You are young and can cope with it. But it really, really hits you when you hit your mid to late 30s. If you don’t look after yourself even in a basic way, you feel like shit. Sofie is coming up to that age where she will feel the affects of that diet and zero exercise so much more.

I am overweight and follow some Instagram influencers who are plus size and still manage to be active. You can definitely tell the difference between someone who is naturally bigger but eats well and looks after themselves and someone who is completely sedentary.

 

[klarigold]

The deodorant shilling bugs me for some reason....Sorry Sofie but we know you don't care whether things are vegan or natural... And even after that big capitalism rant you obviously don't care much about consumerism and queerwashing either!

 

[Poisonivy23]

I've recovered from my eating disorder years ago, but it's the reason I spent too much last month? How to spin being privileged into somehow being the victim...
Also her looking for a app to meet other dog owners? Surely the reason this doesn't exist is because you are meant to meet other dog owners while walking your fucking dog for longer than 5 minutes?

 

[annabananaw10]

I know so many plus sized women who love to exercise and don’t do it to lose weight or because society made them - they do it because they enjoy exercise and are seeking the benefits beyond weight loss.

It’s so disingenuous for Sofie to be some sort of mental health ambassador when she refuses to even accept that exercise can be very beneficial for mental health.

 

[queenofsheba1234]

I hate going outside so that's why I bought a massive dog that needs epic daily walks.

I’m convinced when she says she ‘walks’ Hank she just lets him out to go to the toilet and do a few laps in that tiny garden

 

[Boopboop9]

I found this thread from Google Sofie and their dog to see how the dog is. I was blocked months ago by Sofie after pointing out the dog was clearly from a breeder. I naively had believed them when they initially said how much they wanted to adopt a dog responsibly.

Personally I love seeing people adopt rather than shop, but I would never weigh in on someones decision to buy a bred puppy unless my opinion was asked for. With Sofie I'd caught a live on Instagram where they were repeatedly was saying how important it was to them to adopt and be responsible, so I sent them some info about a rescue organisation that adopts to people that live in flats (they'd said they were struggling with that). They did not respond to that message.

A couple of days later I saw them talking about Hank - to my mind a very clearly bred puppy - and messaged again to say the owner was clearly a breeder.

I then got blocked and posted about aggressively.

I'm sad to hear Hank apparently isn't being cared for properly and that they are accepting financial help for his vet costs

In retrospect it seems I provoked some narcissistic rage in Sofie. I think they're troubled and toxic. Hope they and Hank get the help they need. Although from my knowledge of narcissists there's limited scope for change.

 

[Awkward_Somber]

Looking forward to the Q&A where someone asks her how she squares being a communist, and anti-capitalist with becoming an influencer whose only job is to flog stuff.

 

[mrsminiver]

There seem to be quite strict conditions around interacting with Sofie.

You have to never disagree with what they say. In your head you can, but not in public. Never to her face

If Sofie disagrees with something someone else has said or done she is allowed to do so in public, but you are not allowed to give your opinion because that’s not being respectful of her boundaries.

If Sofie is an arsehole it is not her fault, because she is traumatised.

You’re not allowed to suggest that it is possible for Sofie to be both an arsehole AND traumatised because that’s mean and disrespecting her boundaries.

You are never allowed to criticise Sofie, ever.

 

[ladyladythreetimes]

I wish she’d just say ‘look, my bad - I should’ve said thank you earlier and I can see why it riled people up. I’m sorry’ rather than ‘which trauma response is this??’ to deflect any responsibility. A lot of us carry trauma throughout out lives but it doesn’t mean you are above criticism and are never at fault

 

[Venuslurker]

If you have bad anxiety and know you often have periods where you can't get out of bed for days then whyyy would you get a massive dog that clearly needs epic walks every day. Ugh it's so annoying.

 

[becky's artex ceiling]

What makes it worse is that her fan came out with her own PCOS (showing that she knew what she was talking about), which is not exactly an easy thing to discuss publicly. The response? Zero empathy, zero 'that must be hard', straight into the eye roll and public shaming her for even trying to help. Not even bothering to cover up the account was the little glace cherry on top of the choc mousse.

Speaking of which, maybe it's the FOUR BONNE MAMAN CHOC MOUSSES she had for breakfast (plus subway for lunch) that made Sofie such a biatch today. Or maybe it's TRAUMA.

 

[heretoreaditall2019]

It’s funny it’s like she’s on a mission to mug off everyone that paid for her dog to get well, most of them won’t have a Peleton but will have an emergency fund

 

[queenofspades]

Glad I found this thread. I followed her after seeing some of her stand up which I thought was really funny but soon realised she’s completely self-involved, narcissistic, lazy and really cannot accept other people have an opinion different to hers.
I think her mental health would be a hell of a lot better if she got off social media for a few hours a day, washed, got out the house and then cleaned/sorted her flat!
Her size or her sexual or gender identity are inconsequential to me but I can’t abide the self-obsessive wallowing and blaming trauma for laziness. Her videos of her taking her meds as well. *cringe*..can she not doing anything without it being on Instagram??
Her hypocrisy as well fishing for #influencer work
And that poor dog! Why oh why would you get a dog if you can hardly look after yourself?! If she still has that poor dog this time next year I’ll be amazed! They’ll definitely be a long written post about how she couldn’t meet his “complex needs” when he just needs to be walked , socialised & trained properly. So irresponsible!

 

[dailyfaillurker]

Am very interested to see how Edinburgh all works out with a high needs dog. You know, the dog everyone told her was a breed that would cost her thousands of pounds in vet bills because it was overbred, and she said ‘yeah yeah I’m going to get it anyway’ and then it ended up needing thousands of pounds of treatment that she couldn't afford. Great adulting Sofie.

 

[queenofsheba1234]

I agree that the expectation to be productive all the time is ridiculous as rest is important, but let’s not pretend ‘laziness’ is a completely made up concept! If I have a lie in on a Saturday and watch a bit of Netflix with my child, that’s rest - I deserve it and it’s nice to relax and switch off. But if I take Friday off for a long weekend - spend all 3 days in bed, don’t get dressed, ignore the pile of dirty plates from last night, don’t take my little one out for a walk or play - that’s lazy! Or I have a Chinese at the end of my road - ordering takeaway from there for delivery rather than walking 50feet would be lazy!

Nobody is saying you have to spend all of your down time scrubbing your bathroom or learning a new language. But neither extreme is good for you. Particularly when you freely admit you have a lot of free time and no discernible routines or structure in your life.

Also it takes a certain type of privilege to not need to work long hours, or be able to order takeaway whenever you’d like because you dong fancy cooking. Easy to say lazy doesn’t exist and lounge around all day when you have very few responsibilities.

 

[bunnyblue]

I remember when Sofie was getting Hank and people were encouraging her to consider getting a cat instead she was all 'I am NOT a cat person I hate cats' etc etc... and then said she wanted a dog for therapy/personal growth reasons??

Pets are not an accessory for your emotional problems. Also cats are great companion animals and there's tons of evidence that petting a purring cat helps with anxiety and HBP and all sorts of things, plus they are SO much more independent than dogs for first time pet owners/ people with busy lifestyles. But noooo Sofie perceives cats as worse somehow so that's that.

lol Sofie wouldn’t be able to handle a pet with a more independent mindset like a cat, they need a pet more inclined to be dependant/needy towards them because TRAUMA* (as @dailyfaillurker beautifully put it).
(I’m generalising a lot here, I love both cats and dogs, and cats can of course be super affectionate and sometimes “needy”, but they are usually a bit more independent.)

*If we ever get to a second thread, we should just call it Sofie Hagen: because TRAUMA

 

[nothanksbabes]

You articulated that brilliantly.

I was grew up with a narcissist, and Sofie using her trauma (whatever that is - we ALL have some form of trauma) as a get-out-of-jail-free-card is a massive red flag for me.

I totally agree. It's just another diversion tactic, the swticheroo to take the focus off her and onto other, more empathetic people who will accept it because they're nice people who don't want to hurt a "traumatised" person.

I had what would be considered a traumatic childhood and despite a lot of self awareness and five years studying psychology I would never invoke my trauma the way she and others do, not because it hasn't affected me or I think it's anything to be ashamed of, but I'm a human being and there are much more interesting things about me (I hope) than defining my entire existence based on traumatic past experiences.

 

[bex321]

also the money she spends on fast food.. don't beg people to donate to your patreon and then spend so frivolously, especially dont flout it on your social media. she plays the trauma card to justify taking advantage of other vulnerable people

 

[Venuslurker]

She totally fails to acknowledge the power imbalance between her and her followers/fans. It's not a friend offering to lend her the money, it's people who admire her and who may be vulnerable. Ugh it's so distasteful.