I have found this all so triggering even since she met him.
For anyone who truly doesnāt understand these thingsā¦
I was 19. My boss in my first real job was late 40s. Lived alone with ex wife & kids living in the city(1 hour away)
He would tell me I was so pretty and that I should wear more skirts because it was professional. Then it was lower tops. My mother one day commented I didnāt really look appropriately dressed for an accounts admin job (this guy was the accountant). I fought with her over it.
on my birthday for my 20th he gave me a card, a Helen Steiner rice card for a ābeautiful friendā and wrote nice things. That Christmas week on a work day he messaged me to call to his house (which was next to work) to help bring down wine for clients. I would have dropped things to the door there before, he said walk in. When I walked in there was a roaring fire, a blanket in the ground and a bottle of wine with 2 glasses. I said āwhatās the blanket forā and he said āit was your present I wanted you to come up forā and handed me a bottle of wine. I was not physically raped that night but we did have sex where I felt I had to because he was always so nice. I thought maybe I mislead him, he had brought me a birthday card and now Christmas gift. If I close my eyes I can still feel the tension in my body lying on the rug whilst he was all over me .Afterwards he told me he would love to take me away for a weekend and I went home.After Christmas hols he treated me as if it never happened and when I suggested meeting up he told me not to be silly he had a girlfriend who was a rich horsey type and I was only a girl. I now in my mid 30s see it for what it was but I absolutely did not see it at the time. I wondered was I bad at sex, did I turn him off? Was I too fat? Too blonde? Not blonde Enough. I spiralled into a chain of bad relationships and decisions for a couple of years. I thought at 19/20 that I was a brave and intelligent and informed adult when infact my mother was right all along. I was groomed. For almost 6 months for the sake of one night.
whatever her story- Grace- sheās a victim,
Sorry for over sharing just complaining get it.